I didn't read every post but I see so many mistakes. Buying a house before you got married? Having childeren before marriage?
Call me old fashion but I think it's fine if you want to play house but there are certain things you have to consider waiting to do until after your married. Yes, I know accidents can happen and I understand this. I understand it happening once, not multiple times. And purchasing a house isn't an accident.
What's up with all these 3 or 4 year "engagements"? Now I'm not saying rush to the altar but isn't a year or 18 months enough? If two years goes by I honestly think your avoiding the situation.
Hey, I watch a lot of daytime court shows.
If your in a long term relationship without marriage it can be a disaster trying to get what is yours (or what you think is yours).
I got married when I was 44. My wife was 29. I was never married prior to that. We've been married now over 8 years, with 5 cats 11 parrots and thankfully no childeren.
I think I have heard that 50% of all marriages end in divorce but when people get married before 25 that number jumps to like 72%. So if your playing the odds, I suggest you wait until your at least 25 for a female and 30 for a guy. Why 30 for a guy? It's because all guys are immature. When I was 20 I almost married a girl 18. Would have been the biggest mistake of my life. At 20 I had the brain power of a 16 year old male, and most of that thinking wasn't coming from the part on my shoulders.
OK, I've rambled on about this enough. A person is going to do what they want anyway, just wanted to share my thoughts on this.