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post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 
I'm just feeling sad right now.

I was invited to go to someone's place tonight with other people, but once I got to the building, I realised that the guy hadn't given me the number to ring at the door. I tried to find a payphone to call him but there were none around. So I just came back home.

I'm not too upset about missing that thing tonight, it's no big deal. But it just reminded me of how hard it is for me to make friends.

It's been 2 months since I moved and started school and I've been having lots of trouble making friends. I'm just not good when it comes to dealing with people.
So tonight will just be yet another evening I'll spend alone. Same thing with the rest of the weekend. It's just so depressing.
I'm not even asking for a best friend or anything like that. I just wish there were some people I could just call to go out for a coffee or a movie or something. But there's no one.
I'm so tired of this.



sorry. I just needed to get this off my chest.
post #2 of 25
Marie, here's a hug. Keep your head up!!!
post #3 of 25
Awww, I'm so sorry that things have been down for you!!, if I were closer I'm sure we would be the best of friends!!

Many hugs to you!
post #4 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks.

Actually, overall, my life is better now than it's ever been. Things are getting better... but slowly. There's still a long way to go.
Most of the time I can look at the positive and see how far I've come. But right now, I just look at all the problems I still have and I'm not sure if I can really face them.
post #5 of 25
I'm kinda in the same situation. I have only 3 or 4 friends around here and I HATE it I know how hard it is to make friends and I know how you feel. If you want someone to talk to, I'm here alone with Trav a lot so feel free to PM if you need some socialization
post #6 of 25
post #7 of 25
I`m sorry Marie....here is a ((hug)) for you.
I know it`s not the same as actually BEING with friends in person...but you are welcome to stop in and visit with us here on TCS anytime. Someone will be here all weekend long...FOR SURE!
Linda
post #8 of 25
this is my socialization...
post #9 of 25
Marie if you lived near me chick, and the rest of you!, my door is always open for a coffee and a chat. Might bore the pants off you with pictures of Rosie and Sophie but never mind

When you get chatting to someone that you feel comfortable with, exchange mobile phone numbers and start texting each other and your friendship will grow.
post #10 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by marie-p
I'm just feeling sad right now.

I was invited to go to someone's place tonight with other people, but once I got to the building, I realised that the guy hadn't given me the number to ring at the door. I tried to find a payphone to call him but there were none around. So I just came back home.

I'm not too upset about missing that thing tonight, it's no big deal. But it just reminded me of how hard it is for me to make friends.

It's been 2 months since I moved and started school and I've been having lots of trouble making friends. I'm just not good when it comes to dealing with people.
So tonight will just be yet another evening I'll spend alone. Same thing with the rest of the weekend. It's just so depressing.
I'm not even asking for a best friend or anything like that. I just wish there were some people I could just call to go out for a coffee or a movie or something. But there's no one.
I'm so tired of this.



sorry. I just needed to get this off my chest.
Well... I know how that happens, so I know exactly how you feel. It's a very solid and sudden reminder of loneliness when you're at the place you looked forward to going to, but then realizing that you won't be able to go in because of some misunderstanding. It's not the same lonely feeling as when you're at home wishing you were out. It's worse. I've had it happen to me. If you lived in my city, I wouldn't hesitate to invite you out for coffee and desert.
post #11 of 25
Oh hun that's horrible Dear of you I wish I could help... while I'm here if anyone needs to talk I'm on MSN Mesenger ( metallicpinkcat@hotmail.com ) and you can PM me anytime.

post #12 of 25
Sweetie I know how you feel - I don't really know anyone here ouside of the family - I do have classmates, but we're not close. It's just people I know, as opposed to friends i can go out and have a laugh with from time to time. Keep your chin up though beb, because it will happen It's difficult for me to make friends too because I actually keep myself to myself most of the time (Except for on here ) perhaps you could call this guy later on and let him know that this is what happened, and maybe you could arrange to meet up another time. I know you're lonely, but things will change
post #13 of 25
I'm so sorry you're going through this, Marie. My heart especially goes out to you, as I've been in your position. I understand your feelings of having a difficult time making new friends and how it is to find yourself spending the weekend with yourself. Sending lots of love to you today, and sweet snuggles from my babies!

What a great weekend to cuddle up with Kinah and Joshua and a good book or movie! Just you see, you'll meet new friends, but only when the time is right! Enjoy this time with yourself and your babies. As you better get to know yourself, you'll feel all the more comfortable meeting new people!
post #14 of 25
Hows your weekend going Marie? I was looking for you here this morning...did`nt see you posting....was going to hop in and extend a few words of friendship to ya!
Maybe too early in the morning, huh? (It`s 9:00 or so here in Michigan now)
Maybe catch ya later then.
Linda
post #15 of 25
Thread Starter 
I'm here.
I read the messages but when I came to reply, my keyboard wasn't working. All fixed now.

I am feeling a little better now. Still a little bit on edge but as long as nothing bad happens for the rest of the weekend, I'll be fine. My mood is on a delicate balance right now and I have to be careful to make sure it doesn't go bad again.

I really wish I could spend the rest of the weekend snuggling with my kitties and watching movies but I can't. I have 3 essays due in the next two weeks so I have TONS of work to do.

I think later today I'll go out to a coffee shop and bring my books with me. I like being around people... even if I don't talk to them. It should make me feel better (and I'll get school work done at the same time)

Now I should probably go back to work. I wish I could stay here but I really should go. Unless you all want to hear about my essays
post #16 of 25
Well hello there! I did`nt "see you" before....sure i`d love to hear about your essays...what subjects are they on?
Linda
post #17 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by marie-p
sorry. I just needed to get this off my chest.
you don´t need to say "SORRY"..

Marie.... ......many people like I...can´t help you directly... ...

BUT I can listen to you not only the funnie moments....but also the sad momments of the life!...that´s why are the friends! .....

I´m here to liste to you! ...

my best wishes to you!
post #18 of 25
Thread Starter 
You guys all rock. Thank you so much for the words of comfort.

It really helps me to know that I can always come here to get things off my chest and get some virtual hugs.

Quote:
Originally Posted by stampit3d
sure i`d love to hear about your essays...what subjects are they on?
Right now I'm working on an essay for my class in American Foreign Policy. The topic I chose is African American anti-imperialism during the Philippine-American war of 1899-1902. Or something along those lines.
post #19 of 25
Hugs, Marie! That would have upset me, too! I hope you are able to talk to the guy later, and get in on the next get together!

Wow, your essays sound pretty deep! Better get to work, girl!
post #20 of 25
Lots of hugs for you, Marie!

My babies send you hugs too. Butters has told me that he wishes to lick your eyebrows and nose...kisses! Don't worry, he's still a little baby, not a lecherous old cat...hee hee!

Good luck on your essays - they sound very intellectual! I couldn't tell you if having pressing work may make loneliness better or worse, but at least you have something to throw your attention into (if you can).

If it helps, right now it's Sat. night, I am on here, my hubby is watching TV in the other room, and it's as good as being alone! Even my kitties left! I find that I care less and less about being social as I get older.

Hang in there!
post #21 of 25
I know the feeling too. Right now it feels like I've lost most of my friends. I'm married, DH works night shift right now. All my friends are either still single or married and have kids, so I don't fit well into either 'hanging out' class. I mean I cramp the single girls style and I can only discuss toddler and infant things for so long ya know?

I just come here and play with my furbabies!
post #22 of 25
Hope your weekend gets better! I agreee with what others have said about socialising as you get older, it seems to get harder. Everyone has kids, busy with jobs etc and it's just harder and harder to get together. This forum is great though! Lots of really nice people to chat with at all times of the day!
post #23 of 25
Oh dear. Thinking of you!
post #24 of 25
As some one who has moved around alot (hubby's work), I to, find it hard to make friends. Some people seem to have a couple of best friends but I dont ever seem to get a connection like that. I do what you said that you will do, have a coffee down town so that Iam around people. I have also started work with more social hours (no night shift) so hopfully I will make some friends now.

Marie try not to take it to heart, some people just dont know what they are missing. Hope that you have a easy time with your essay although it sounds way way to hard for me.

All the best Debbie
post #25 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone.

I am feeling a lot better now. Things aren't as good as I would like but at least I am getting a lot better.
A few years ago, when I first went to University, I barely knew anyone. I went to the same university for 4 years and by the end, there were maybe 2-3 people who actually knew my name. How sad is that?
Now I've been at the new university for only two months and I already got that beat. I can think of at least 8 people who know me by name and quite a few more who would recognize me.

So I guess I can be pretty proud of myself
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