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post #1 of 16
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My Mother passed away February 15 and things had been pretty busy dealing with the funeral and last weekend I helped my niece move. Every Saturday night my brother, sister-in-law, mother, and I have been getting together and playing cards (rook, spades, phase10), we have been doing this for years. Well, this Saturday night we played but it just wasn't the same. Now, I really didn't expect it to be the same, I just didn't know what to expect. I cryed all day Sunday. I miss her, and I know it will get better with time. Thanks for listening.
post #2 of 16
Oh, Missy, that must be so hard for you. I'm sorry your mother passed away. I don't know how I would cope if my mom died. If you ever need to "talk," we're always here!
post #3 of 16
Missy,I'm very sorry to hear about your Mom. It seems especially hard when Mom's pass from our lives.

Mine has Alz and it's tearing me apart to watch her slowly get worse and worse. Especially since she just refuses to admit that she's anything but "just fine" and "Don't need anybody's help". I know in my mind that it's a matter of time,but....oh well.

This is also the reason I don't come around much anymore. I recieved a Pm from a member here hoping that Mom dies in agony. It's kinda hard to look at this site as I once did.
post #4 of 16
My heart aches for you Missy. I lost my mom 11 years ago June 1st. It never gets any easier, it just doesn't flare up as often. Although I've found in the last 2 years or so a whole new level of loss and heartache.

I watched my mom waste away, go from walking, to using a cane, to being in a wheelchair. from being 5'10 170 to 5' 95lbs. Those are the memories that haunt me.

Take comfort in your family and in your memories. There is solace in those who loved her like you. I feel best when sharing memories with family members. Makes me feel closer to her.

If you ever need to talk, I know all too well what you are going through. I have a shoulder if you need it.
post #5 of 16
I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. It must be one of the most difficult losses to deal with. I haven't experienced the death of a parent yet myself, but do I know that day will come.

I work in a nursing home, and I know how hard it to watch people keep getting worse, and not be able to really help them. You have my sympathy.

post #6 of 16

Who PM'd you such a horrible thing?
How horrible .....

I'm sorry for all of those who have lost their moms or dads recently or in the past.
post #7 of 16

I lost my mom in 1984, to cancer. It was hard to watch her go, and it's still sometimes hard, esp. at life-altering moments. But after a while life does get normal. Took me 10 years to finally feel like myself again, but of course you feel especially horrible in the beginning and after a while it's only at odd moments.

It's nice to continue playing cards with your family. If it is upsetting for you, maybe you'd like to keep getting together but choose another activity, a board game or bowling or something.

My heart goes out to you. This is a difficult time for you.


I can't imagine anyone here being that mean-spirited, how terrible for you! I can see how that would make it hard for you to be here.
post #8 of 16
Missy - I am so sorry about the pain you are suffering. I hope that it does get easier with time. If you ever need to vent just pm me.
post #9 of 16
Very sorry to hear your sad news.
post #10 of 16
Missy, I'm so sorry to hear that your mother has passed away. I wish that I could offer more condolence, but I have never lost a loved one. I will keep you in my prayers and if you ever need to talk, there are alot of people here who are more than willing to listen.
post #11 of 16
I am soooooo sorry about your pain. Thankfully my Mom is still with me and I hope for many years to come. When my Grandma passed, my mom did a lot of crying, like you and to this day (grandma passed about 8 yrs. aga) at times she still reaches to the phone to call her for their Sunday chat- grandma lived in Germany. She still misses her, but now she smiles instead of cries when she thinks about her. So you see time turns pain into
wonderful memories.
post #12 of 16
Sorry to hear of your Mom's passing Missy, it must be very painful for you. Take Care, hon.

post #13 of 16
Missy for your loss.... I've never lost my mom or dad, but I can't imagine how hard it is for you. Take care of yourself - she is in a better place now....
post #14 of 16
Missy - Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mom. Time will heal your heart ~ may your sorrow turn to happy and warm memories very, very soon.
Deb M.
post #15 of 16
You have such a nice way with words!
post #16 of 16
Missy, I am so sorry about your mother! I lost my mother 4 years ago, after watching her have stroke after stroke for 10 years. She ended up like a small child, and couldn't even talk. Her mind just got worse every year. And dad passed away a little over a year ago.
It is so very hard. I know how you feel. Please feel free to PM me or any of us, if you need to talk about it.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and after awhile it does get a bit easier, though with dad, it took me at least 6 months before I could even go to sleep at night without crying for him.

We are here for you, hang in there.
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