Originally Posted by GailC
Have you ever thought about starting a journal to get your thoughts down on paper??
Sometimes writing it down is better than keeping all those feelings built up inside you.
As a matter of fact, I just started my own privet online one a cuple of day's ago. And yea, it is. I can say what ever I want and no one will ever see it.
|Yeah I've felt like that. I still do from time to time. Yes, some people call it depression, but everyone feels like that from time to time - it's all just part of being human. I learned from my experience with it - I was given a medication for depression and it reall did make me very very sick. I'd rather put up with feeling blue than feeling ill like that - seems that no-one is happy these days unless they have a "label" for how they feel without taking into consideration that sometimes what they feel is totally normal.
As for feeling blue sweetie, I know exactly what it's like to feel like a failure in your father's eyes. Mine is exactly the same. I can do everything I'm capable of and yet there is always a "but". I'm a creative person by nature too, and my math stinks. I studied really long and hard and I struggled so much to make the grade I did in math - and when I did I was so pleased with myself for having achieved three grades higher in the exam than I had been in normal circumstances. But it wasn't good enough. In the end, I learned to shut out what my father thought and the things he said.
Keep your chin up, keep on drawing, and you'll find it does get easier
yea, I shut him out alot to...and sometime's, when he's giveing one of his three day like lecture's I walk away. *Sigh's* he's a great dad...but sometime's I wish he'd just shut up about the thing's I did wrong and actuely say soemthing about what I did right
. And yea, I'd rather feel blue then ill. still...I wish I got more along with my dad, and maybe be able to talk to him. I don't really like talking to my mom about how I feel. >> last time I tried
to talk to her the subject went off course. I've given up since then. I've never felt cumfertable around people, exsept for my grandparunts. I used to love to go over and spend the weekend there....and then my aunt moved in with ehr kid's and that blew up in my face. Meh. she has to move out sometime anyway. But yea, I've made a vow to my self to make him proud of me someday...oo'' even if it mean's working my butt off. >> I so miss kindergarden and it's easy math....
|Have you ever sat down with your parents and told them how they make you feel? I bet they'd really like to know, because they're probably clueless. I understand that you probably don't feel comfortable doing that, but you'd be surprised how much of a difference it could make!
Sometimes when something makes me sad and I feel like I need to cry, I will play some really sad music and just bawl it all out. When the music stops, it's time to wash my face and move on. It really makes you feel better. I think all of us spend a lot of time trying not to cry when something is really bothering us; trying to pretend it's not there. It feels good to acknowledge it, and let yourself cry. The key is to not let yourself be mopey or short-tempered because of it, and to get it out (at least for the day) during your crying session. It's sort of like...(this is icky, but..) it's sort of like when you're sick and you know you're going to vomit, you keep feeling it but not actually doing anything, so if you make yourself vomit to get it over with, you feel a lot better. When something's bothering me, it's always in the back of my head and if I think about it for too long, I will get teary, so I get it out when I can so I'm not feeling it all day.
If you are sad for no reason (or your reason is "everything"), or are feeling this way for prolonged amounts of time, I'd say you should get help. It's not normal or healthy to be sad like that. I'm not saying you should wake up feeling chipper with rainbows and sunshine swirling around in your room, but you should feel peaceful and content--NOT sad or like: "UGH, another day..."
no, I don't feel like "ugh, another day"...though I do feel something simaler when I wake up on a dya that something I'm dreding comes(like dentest apointments!). and yea, crying does help alot sometimes. for me it real work's. and about the parunt's thing, I wish I could but I jsut....couldn't. it's just to hard to speak to thema nd REALLY get to the point of how I'm feeling. >> pluse it's ahrd speaking over my dad's three day like lecture's. I swear that man has them all planned out for EVERYTHING.
|I am sorry you are having this problem. Do you have any adult, like a pastor, family member or older brother or sister you could unload some of your feelings with. We will be praying for you.
I might of...if my boona(great grandma) where still alive. she was so awsome and understanding. and, sadly, I'm an only child, but I still have my sister-like friend Nikki. ^^ she's alway's there for me, and I'm alway's there for her.
|I have felt that way often - more so in my teens than I do now, but I still get it sometimes. It is hard to convey how one feels to others, especially if you are just unique enough and others have a hard time understanding. I agree that most of us feel this way at some point.
Parents really don't have a clue as to what is going on with you. I still have keen memories of not being understood by my parents, and now as an adult I sometimes wonder about teenagers I meet - the two groups are just so different! Your parents do love you, and want you to be reasonably happy - maybe they can't show that, but they do. It's easy to feel alone when you are in a house with two people who are so personally invested in you that it colors every interaction you have, though.
I would say, just keep trudging along, hug your cats, talk to your one friend who understands. One of my favorite sayings is "this, too, shall pass" because everything does, if you wait and act if you feel you need to. You will understand yourself better as time goes on, and that will make it easier to communicate with others how you feel.
And sometimes, truth be told, my own feelings are just that - my own. It's funny, but the "absolute understanding" I was hoping for, even in my marriage, just doesn't happen. It's not a bad thing, but we are all limited by our own experiences. I have kind of learned to treasure some things that only I feel or experience - they are my little "secrets."
You are OK!! I promise!
you have a point, indeed. I really hope everything will pass and, when we move into this new hosue, that thing's will change.
Y'all are aswome,