How do you get a long with your sister or brother

I used to be close to my sister. We were close until she met her current husband (and that was through her first marriage and subsequent very serious relationship). She has completely changed since she met him. She used to be an intelligent, fun and outgoing woman. Now she is a total homebody who only leaves their (recently purchased) middle-of-nowhere mountain home. She's become a redneck (and not in the good way) trophy wife.

We talk maybe twice a year, and see each other at Christmas.

I still retain remnants of that younger sibling hero worship of my older brother who is 13 years older than me (half-brother really), although now that he has a wife and child and lives in NoCal I don't talk or see him much. Considering he is a half-brother 13 years older than me we are fairly close.

I absolutely adore my younger brother, who is almost 16, and am always trying to take credit for how well he has turned out (but I suppose my parents deserve some). He comes and spends the night w/ me and my bf all the time and my friends have been known to hang out with him as well (despite the fact he's 7 years their junior).

But the important thing is, they are both really good people.

If either of them were abusive (financially, physically, emotionally, verbally etc) it would be a different story. I see no reason to try and maintain ties with someone who only causes you main, no matter if you share branches of the family tree or not.

I love my brother. He's one of the most important people in my life. He is 11 years younger than I am but we get along wonderfully. He really is an awesome kid and a lot of fun to be with. I just wish I got to see him more often.

Rhonda.. I am very sorry to hear about your sister. My grandmother had the same sort of relationship with my dad. She was always helping him out so he knew she would always be there to help him out.. you know what I mean? Maybe you should tell her you will be there for her emotionally but unless she makes an attempt to help herself you can't help her either.

Eh, my sister and I had our share of catty moments in childohhod, but now that we're older, we're m uch more sedate around each other. She's going through her "reckless teenager" phase so I don't exactly have a deep, fulfilling relationship with her, but it isn't bad by any stretch. She'll get over it and we'll be ok. She's a wonderful person who's insisting upon making some dumb choices right now.

My brother, who is 11 years my junior, and I have a tremendously wondeful relationship. Because of teh difference in our age, we get along wonderfully...I think he has kind of growm up with my being a junior mom rather than a big sister, which isn't weird to me at all! It's very exciting to watch him grow up and I know he looks up to me.

My sister (eight years my junior) is one of my favourite people. My brother (four years my junior) is more problematic. I love him, but he's kind of difficult.

I can't stand my brother. He's an ass. One of the most racist, sexist, homophobic pigs you could meet, and I am ashamed to call him my brother. I've talked to him maybe once or twice in the past year, and I don't see it changing for the better until he changes his ways, and at 30 it's unlikely that's going to happen.

I have one sister; she is 2 years older than me.

We never got along as kids, always fighting. I'd go my way, she'd go her way. We are polar opposites. Heck she even pushed me down the stairs when I was in a baby-walker. And in high school, she was so jealous of me she switched high schools, middle of her senior year!

She uses & abuses my mom ("mom my life sucks, gimme more money waa waa") and hates all four of her children. Plus, she had four abortions inbetween giving birth to her four living kids; and my mother paid FOR ALL OF THEM.

We rarely see each other, really. She doesn't hang with my family anymore during the holidays, because there's nothing in it for her.

I basically feel like an Only Child.

Ah sweetie that sounds so horrible. I wish I had something more comforting to say other than I'm thinking of you and I hope that something falls into place. I was going to say I hope you land on your feet, but then I recalled your surgery and stuff - talk about saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I don't have the experiences you've had - my brother and I are so close - I really don't know where I would be if I didn't have him. He and I have helped each other out whenever we've needed each other - he's dropped everything to help me and especially when I was newly single with a baby to raise. At only 15 years old, he stepped up to the challenge of the male role model - and 5 years on, I sincerely hope that my little boy grows up jsut like his big uncle David. I love my little bro so much... life really would be empty if I didn't have him.

I have one sister who is 2 years older than me. We used to fight like cat and dog when we were younger, but we get on pretty well now. She still knows how to push my buttons though!

When I lived at home, me and my brothers (oldest is 17, youngest is 14) used to fight all the time!

After I moved out, we all get along so great, we talk all the time, and my visits home are so much better, we never fight anymore...I love it so much

My sister is 11 years older than me and growing up, I HATED it because I had TWO moms(which actually I STILL do have 2 moms). Now that we don't live together, we get along but when she was home and home from college we fought ALL THE TIME! She tried telling me what to do all the time and I would pull the "You're not my mother" line, which she really wasn't and I hated her.

She's getting married in September next year and I will be her Maid of Honor.

The things I still dislike about her are that:

1. She thinks she is better than everyone else and it SHOWS especially around Christmas because let's face it: my mom's family is kind of not normal but we won't get into that.

2. She doesn't like Travis and I never understood why. She never would answer me when I ask. Mom doesn't understand either. I think this all comes back to her thinking she is better than everyone

Other than that, we get along great

I have four older brothers. Three of them live 850 miles away in my dad's town. The fourth one lives three blocks and one million emotional miles from me. His biotch of a wife made a scene in front of my dad on the day of my mom's funeral and as far as I'm concerned she and my brother are no longer in my family. Not very Christian, but it's how I feel.

There's a thirteen-year span between the oldest and me, with a six-year gap between #3 and #4, so #4 and I were basically raised like two kids together. I barely remember the days when all five of us were still living at home because they were over by the time I was six. (And I'm 40 now, which doesn't help the memory. LOL)

I wouldn't say I'm close to any of my brothers although we do talk on the phone. #1 is the one I'm not speaking to; #2 and #3 are probably the ones I'm closer to. #4 and I fought so much as kids that it sort of affected our ability to relate to each other like adults now. Besides, he's sort of like Rhonda's sister. LOL It's hard to relate to a scrounge.

I wouldn't say I'm that close to any of them. In fact, I wonder now if I'll have that much of a relationship with them after Dad's gone. I am very close to my parents' generation, but not so much to my own, and they're dying off one by one.