Our precious Sumo passed away in August. It has been 2-1/2 months. I got another kitten three weeks after Sumo passed, at the advice of my husband who is currently stationed overseas (we're a military family), and Kuri (kitten) and Geisha (1-1/2 years old) seem to be getting along well. They tousle and play-fight and Kuri is such a spitfire (although extremely cuddly with me) that he doesn't back down from a rumble, even though Geisha is twice his weight. However, they don't sleep next to each other or cuddle up the way Sumo and Geisha used to do. I know I can't expect that, but sometimes I feel so sad because Kuri and Geisha aren't buddies the way Sumo and Geisha were.
Geisha actually seems to be doing OK without Sumo. She grooms Kuri like a little brother, and Kuri does keep her company and they play together. But I miss him so much still, and sometimes I want so much to bring him back and I know I can't. He used to follow me everywhere and was so dependent on me. He was not the most affectionate cat and did not head-butt me or cry for attention, but he was just soooo gentle, special, and a one-of-a-kind kitty. The second anyone would touch him, he would be purring, and he was so patient. I remember how I used to pick him up and lay him on my chest like a baby, and he would just purr and purr with his eyes closed and fall asleep so contentedly. He was really my baby!
Anyway, I don't know what I'm saying. I just thought I was doing pretty well, and then today Geisha was purring as I was scratching her head, and all of a sudden I started bawling. I felt so sad for her that she did not have her other half, her big brother who she used to nap with on our bed, who she used to play leapfrog with, who she used to steal toys away from. But actually I think she is doing a lot better than me.... Mostly it is me that is still hurting. I remember Sumo anyway, but sometimes when I look at Geisha, I remember him more because I feel saddened that she has also lost someone close to HER.
I just wonder how other folks' "other kitties" are coping with the loss of a member of their fur family... I know I should be counting my blessings that Geisha is coping as well as she is. I don't know if kitties from the same litter are more sensitive when their siblings are gone? (My kitties were just three months apart from completely different litters, but they used to sleep together.)
Geisha actually seems to be doing OK without Sumo. She grooms Kuri like a little brother, and Kuri does keep her company and they play together. But I miss him so much still, and sometimes I want so much to bring him back and I know I can't. He used to follow me everywhere and was so dependent on me. He was not the most affectionate cat and did not head-butt me or cry for attention, but he was just soooo gentle, special, and a one-of-a-kind kitty. The second anyone would touch him, he would be purring, and he was so patient. I remember how I used to pick him up and lay him on my chest like a baby, and he would just purr and purr with his eyes closed and fall asleep so contentedly. He was really my baby!
Anyway, I don't know what I'm saying. I just thought I was doing pretty well, and then today Geisha was purring as I was scratching her head, and all of a sudden I started bawling. I felt so sad for her that she did not have her other half, her big brother who she used to nap with on our bed, who she used to play leapfrog with, who she used to steal toys away from. But actually I think she is doing a lot better than me.... Mostly it is me that is still hurting. I remember Sumo anyway, but sometimes when I look at Geisha, I remember him more because I feel saddened that she has also lost someone close to HER.
I just wonder how other folks' "other kitties" are coping with the loss of a member of their fur family... I know I should be counting my blessings that Geisha is coping as well as she is. I don't know if kitties from the same litter are more sensitive when their siblings are gone? (My kitties were just three months apart from completely different litters, but they used to sleep together.)