Remidies to forget someone?

I know you could never forget someone who was special in your life..

But, i want to help my self settle down a little bit, i dont know why but the last three weeks i was fine, now when ever see its picture, hear its voice, or even seeing my kitty that misses him makes me cry!

I´m not hormonal right now, i just dont understand why all of a sudden i break down.

Any help, and hugs will be appreciated

Because everything takes time, Fran.

Very true..you will probably go in spurts of being sad, then mad and maybe even indifferent. It took me a year of crying off and on after a break up once. But just remember you have lots of friends here to talk to about it. Many hugs to you!

It sounds like you must have had a real loss of someone special to you.
There is no time frame for grief...some go throught it faster than others....and some of us recover in splurts....seeminly doing better for awhile, and then revisiting the grief.
Don`t rush yourself through it. It`s OK to be sad . Allow yourself to feel it and express it instead of trying to rush yourself through it.It only stands as proof of how mush you have truly loved.
One day you will look back and realize that things really are better than they were and that you have moved on in life.
I`m so sorry for your loss.
Linda

I'm sorry you're feeling down

Believe me, I know how hard it can be to move on after the end of a relationship. Recovery is a roller-coaster and you'll have many ups and downs. As time goes by, the downs will get less frequent and less severe. But in the mean time, give yourself time to heal.
Remember that it's ok to cry. It doesn't mean that you're not recovering. It's all part of the process. If you're having a really though time right now, cry. Go lie down in front of a good movie, wrap yourself in a warm blanket, snuggle with your kitties and cry.

When you're feeling better, put away your pictures of him if they're still in your line of view somehow. Take on some activities that you like - go for walks, go out, get involved in some sports or community classes - whatever you like to do. It will help you move on and build a new life.

And just remember, we're here for you. If you need a virtual shoulder to cry on, post here as much as you need. We'll send you lots of virtual hugs. And when you feel better, we'll be right here still... and we'll be happy with you.

Originally Posted by stampit3d

Don`t rush yourself through it. It`s OK to be sad . Allow yourself to feel it and express it instead of trying to rush yourself through it.

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This is always my advice too. I'm going thru the same thing, and I keep crashing with sadness over and over again.

Originally Posted by marie-p

Recovery is a roller-coaster and you'll have many ups and downs. As time goes by, the downs will get less frequent and less severe.

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And then this will happen eventually.....trust me.

When I got divorced, sometimes I missed being a couple more than I missed him specifically. I missed having someone to do things with, a warm body at night, etc.

It took a while to recover, but knowing he was totally wrong for me helped. Now I am truly happily married, and it is so different. I have never cried myself to sleep feeling lonely in this marriage. I always feel valued and loved by my currrent husband.

Someday you will have the same, Fwan. You will meet the right guy, and build a healthy relationship, because you were strong enough to end the wrong relationship. (You are smarter than me-I married Mr. Wrong!) And you will have all the things you miss, and a best friend you can count on.

Hugs to you, Fran! If you didn't live an ocean away, I would make plans to meet you this weekend and go see a movie, or have dinner!

It does take a long time. Just remember he was not good to you, Fran!

you could always get a cat In all seirousness, the others are right, its gonna take time, you didnt get those feelings in one day, and its not going to take one day to make them go away. Hugs to you!

Fran, keep your chin up girl. You were far too good for him.

And I know in time you will think less and less of him until he's barely a memory.

One thing you might try is doing for others. It will take you out of yourself, maybe give you some perspective. Sometimes you just need a break from your own thoughts, a breather, and volunteering is a great way to get that break.

Fwan, it takes time and it takes keeping your life going in a positive direction. There's no quick fixes. Just keep your life moving forward in whatever you do.

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry! Do something every day to be good to yourself. I know what it feels like to be brokenhearted (whether you leave or vice versa). Personally, I think journaling, reading, and watching movies with a nice tub of buttery popcorn (once in a while is OK!) are a great coping mechanism and temporary escape! My favorite "escape" books are the Chronicles of Narnia series.... Talk about engrossing and uplifting! After my divorce from my first husband, I read these books every night. I could not put them down, and they made me forget some of my own worries.

Laughter is very healing, so seeing a funny movie with your girlfriends (even though you might not feel like it) might just make you laugh your head off and realize you're in need of some fun times again. Also, movies that are very hopeful are great. I love "Cast Away" - it was sad sometimes, but it made me cry, laugh, and look forward to the future. Another of my favorite movies is "Sliding Doors" - perfect for a time when you're wondering about a decision you've made - I know it's just a movie, but I love how it gets the point across that everything happens as it should, and there's a reason for everything. I have watched it soooo many times and still love it!!!! (That, and "Next Stop Wonderland"!! For the hopeful romantic in all of us!)

Now I am happily married to my current husband and I'm so happy for everything that happened in the past - without those experiences, I would not have learned what I did, would not be the person that my husband fell in love with, would not be able to appreciate all that *the future* and God had prepared for me. And you have something wonderful in your future, so take as long as you need to let go, but remember that there is so much more in your future than the temporary sadness you feel right now.

Many, many hugs!!!!! I would so take you out for a girls' night if I could!

http://www.lollie.com/love/love5.html

This is a nice web site to check out, as well....

It sucks breaking up. It does take time though, fwan! You'll be fine!

When you figure it out PLEASE ... let me know

it is so hard - but every time something like this happens we come out of it stronger and having learned something. Others have given good advice, I think, but we are all here for you any time you need someone. And one day, probably when you least expect it, there will be another, and much better relationship waiting for you.

Ending a relationship, even a bad one, is a huge upheaval in your life. Everything changes, and it will take some time to get used to the big change. Take this time to be totally self absorbed, and make your life about you. Do stuff you like, go places you like to go, and don't worry about anyone you don't have to. You have been through the wringer, and you deserve some time to yourself.

This is still all very new to you, so of course you are still grieving. And of course, as Amy says, you won't ever forget Ben 100%, nor should you. If, though, after a period of time, you feel you have not made enough progress in building your own life or think you might need help figuring out how to make better choices, you might want to consider talking with a therapist. But for now, it's going to hurt for a while.

I found these sites that might contain some helpful suggestions.
http://www.counsel.ufl.edu/selfHelp/...lationship.asp
http://www.columbia-stmarys.org/13066.cfm