Letting Go

kluchetta · Oct 21, 2005

It's time to let go, and let my baby go to the Bridge. I feel like I want to "keep" something, but what do you keep? His soft fur, his beautiful gaze, his loving purr...help me think of mementos I could keep or make to help me let go of my baby. Thanks

katachtig · Oct 21, 2005

Kim,

I'm so sorry. It happened so fast. We all have memories that you have shared with us and will treasure them.

Thank you for sharing little Smudge with us. He was really special.

Jana

kluchetta · Oct 21, 2005

He hasn't eaten all day, so he won't last long. My daughter is having a hard time. It sounds so stupid, but I wish I could save his fur or something. Jeez, that's gross, but you know what I mean.

katachtig · Oct 21, 2005

I do. When I lost the love of my life, Petunia, I kept her collar and the little tufts of fur that they shaved off when they administered the drugs to help her over the bridge. But it is still hard because what we really want to keep, we can't have.

Jana

mercymanic · Oct 21, 2005

I noticed that you've posted some really magnificent photos of Smudge. Maybe you and your daughter could get an album and print those up, putting them in with some typed up memories and stories about the good times you have had with him.

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I know it's hard to say goodbye. Focus on the happy memories as much as possible and let the tears flow where they will.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

catsrnmom · Oct 21, 2005

Hugs and prayers are sent to you....

kluchetta · Oct 21, 2005

Oh, how nice. I read Moogle's thread, and I can't remember if I posted, but he was such a sweet little thing. I've been having trouble getting my thoughts together lately.

My husband says my daughter is lugging the cat around taking all sorts of pictures! At least he'll get his exercise. My son's like "whatever" but I know he's sad.

I probably shouldn't have posted in this forum yet, but I did wonder what would help, and what has helped others...

captiva · Oct 21, 2005

I am so ashamed of myself. I didn't read your post about Smudge because I saw it was an eye infection and didn't realize until now how serious it was. I am so sorry you are having to let go this early.

He has been loved and taken care of by his human family

AbbysMom · Oct 21, 2005

Kim, I have a little bit of Molly's fur and her collar. I went around collecting it after we had to have her put to sleep. It's not weird or gross.

kluchetta · Oct 21, 2005

Well, I am hoping that others see that what they may think is an eye infection may not be. In a way, I'm happy (or at least relieved) to get a diagnosis. I felt that something was wrong, and my vet just wasn't getting it. Frankly, I do think he knew subconsciously, but didn't want to go there. The last time I saw him, he choked up and had to leave. He wasn't the one to diagnose FIP, that was an eye specialist.

hissy · Oct 21, 2005

Kim-

You keep the memories and the love alive in your heart. Smudge was a lucky kitty to have crossed your path and you really have all the tools inside to get through this without a kitty keepsake. I know it is difficult but you are doing the right thing in a very difficult situation and my heart goes out to you. Perhaps your daughter can decorate Smudge's food bowl with pictures of smudge? Using decoupage or resin, you can create a lasting tribute to the kitty that stole your heart.

kluchetta · Oct 21, 2005

Originally Posted by hissy

Kim-

You keep the memories and the love alive in your heart. Smudge was a lucky kitty to have crossed your path and you really have all the tools inside to get through this without a kitty keepsake. I know it is difficult but you are doing the right thing in a very difficult situation and my heart goes out to you. Perhaps your daughter can decorate Smudge's food bowl with pictures of smudge? Using decoupage or resin, you can create a lasting tribute to the kitty that stole your heart.

I like that idea a lot!!!

ugaimes · Oct 21, 2005

Kim, I am so sorry for what you and your daughter are going through right now with sweet Smudge. My heart goes out to you both (as well as your baby boy) during this most difficult time

. He is in my prayers that his remaining time as an angel on earth is peaceful and painfree

.

batgirl2good · Oct 21, 2005

I would wait til the end and get some fur. Could you make a collage or something out of pictures? Make a baby book. Print out all the prayers and PM's. Do you have a copy of the catnap story?

I am sad, Kim.
He is an angel kitty.

Originally Posted by kluchetta

It's time to let go, and let my baby go to the Bridge. I feel like I want to "keep" something, but what do you keep? His soft fur, his beautiful gaze, his loving purr...help me think of mementos I could keep or make to help me let go of my baby. Thanks

kluchetta · Oct 21, 2005

I like those ideas, Bobbie! I saved the Catnap Story when you first wrote it, so I should have that. And all the pms I've got have been very inspirational too. It's just so hard trying to put it all in the balance and decide if he's suffering or not. He seems to enjoy us still, so he has another day or two, I think.

Thanks again, everyone!

eatrawfish · Oct 21, 2005

We just have the worst luck.

I think doing something creative as a tribute is a great idea.

I'm so sorry about your Smudge.

huggles · Oct 22, 2005

I like the idea of creating a scrapbook with photos and stories of smudge. You could put some of his fur on there and his collar.

I am so very sorry. We dont know each other but I have been following Smudge's story silently - I could never find the right words to say to you. I am so sorry that your going through this right now and my heart bleeds for you.
we love you Smudge - you have many from all over the world watching over you and thinking of you right now

dawnofsierra · Oct 22, 2005

Kim, I'm so incredibly sorry.

I have no words. We love you, precious Smudge!

jennyr · Oct 22, 2005

Once again, I am so sorry, also that I did not pick up on it till so late on. It is a terrible thing to go through and I send you vibes for the strength to deal with it.

jcat · Oct 22, 2005

I'm so sorry about Smudge, and I know what you mean about wanting to have some sort of keepsake. One thing that has worked for me is to have a good photo made up as a needlepoint kit (you can probably find a company that will do that on the Internet), and then to work on it and think of my departed "baby".

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