our new addition vs, 9 yr old squirt

yesturday my husband and I with our 3 yrold went and got a 12wk old kitten and our 9 yr old is so madd I feel bad but we are giving just as much attention as before and more but she also I think smells all the other animals from the pet store. squirts not to bad she just usually hisses but today she tried swatting marbles but marbles just want affection from her we took her from 4 of her siblings any suggestions or comments to this situation or if u have gone through it yourself

I`m going to send this response to your post, so that it goes back up to the top so someone will see it.
I know that they suggest you do NOT just put the 2 kitties together right away. There is a whole article on here about it, and when i first read your post I tried to find it but I`m fairly new here too and was`nt sure where to look. Hopefully someone who does will see it now.
If you don`t get another response then you might try to PM Hissy....she has a mountain of good advice.
Welcome to TCS.....I hope all goes well with both of your kitties. They`ll probably be "best buds" before you know it.

Misconception #6:
My Older cat needs a kitten to liven him up!

In general, adopting a kitten (1½ years or younger) as a companion for an older cat ( 5 years and older) is not a good idea. A youngster has boundless energy, wants to play and run constantly, and requires very high amounts interaction--all of which are likely to overwhelm and irritate an older cat in short order. Likewise, a kitten is apt to be frustrated that its companion does not have the same energy level as itself. At the very least, this can lead to two very unhappy cats. Worse case scenario, behavior problems such as litter ox avoidance or destructive scratching can occur as one or both cats act out their frustrations on their surrounds. Long-term, it is almost certain that the two will never have a close, bonded relationship, even after the kitten matures, since their experience with one another from the beginning of the relationship are likely to be negative. An older cat is better matched with someone of their own age who has similar temperament. Likewise, kittens as a rule need other young cats to play with in order to be happy. If you insist on adding a kitten to a household that already has an older cat, at least get two--this way they will entertain one another and the older cat can participate or not depending on its mood.

Gosh, is this really true? I have a 7 yr old female that is quiet/mellow/lazy but I know is bored. She tolerates the boredom fairly well, but I think would like someone to play with as she can be energetic when rightly stimulated. I know this b/c she will only play w/ interactive toys like 1-2 times then will ignore them, and wont play with any toys on her own -- just acts disinterested.
I just brought home a 2.5yr old female who is nicely energetic but can be mellow and is a huge cuddler. She plays very well w/ interactive toys but isnt overly hyper -- she is somewhat skittish and just likes to be cuddled and to lay/stretch for petting.
I am just introducing them and so far my 7yr old is barely tolerating her being in the house. No more hisssing, but she gets very irritated and pouts when the 2yr old is anywhere around. Any advice about giving them some play time and companionship and also to make sure my 7yr old doesnt get irritated/worn out by a more spry youngster? I would hope they would enjoy each other (that was the point!), but both being female and a big age difference am I just a wishful thinker?! haha!

Oh and by the way, sorry to add my question/rant to your post. I would say to check out the 'introducing kitties' sticky and follow it. It has made a huge difference to my 2 at least tolerating each other and to keep drama to a minimum.

thanks for the replys but the thing is when we had first gotten sadie(my diabetic we just put done a month ago) she didn't play with squirt barely she wanted to be left alone and even months ago when sadie got sick squirt always tried to play and sadie was the noninterested one so thats why we got a kitten thought it was a good idea but so far she still does not like the kitten a thought of giving her a bath to take the pet store smell off of her any ideas?

Originally Posted by misspiggy

thanks for the replys but the thing is when we had first gotten sadie(my diabetic we just put done a month ago) she didn't play with squirt barely she wanted to be left alone and even months ago when sadie got sick squirt always tried to play and sadie was the noninterested one so thats why we got a kitten thought it was a good idea but so far she still does not like the kitten a thought of giving her a bath to take the pet store smell off of her any ideas?

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Asking a cat to adjust to a kitten is like asking an adult to adjust to a baby..some do really well, but most don't want to be hassled. Instead of a kitten....it would be better to find another cat with the same temperment (probably around the same age). As for the kitten..if you intend to keep it...then I would follow the suggestion and get 2...that way Sadie has an option whether she wants to participate or not.

Katie

Originally Posted by jettafer99

Gosh, is this really true? I have a 7 yr old female that is quiet/mellow/lazy but I know is bored. She tolerates the boredom fairly well, but I think would like someone to play with as she can be energetic when rightly stimulated. I know this b/c she will only play w/ interactive toys like 1-2 times then will ignore them, and wont play with any toys on her own -- just acts disinterested.
I just brought home a 2.5yr old female who is nicely energetic but can be mellow and is a huge cuddler. She plays very well w/ interactive toys but isnt overly hyper -- she is somewhat skittish and just likes to be cuddled and to lay/stretch for petting.
I am just introducing them and so far my 7yr old is barely tolerating her being in the house. No more hisssing, but she gets very irritated and pouts when the 2yr old is anywhere around. Any advice about giving them some play time and companionship and also to make sure my 7yr old doesnt get irritated/worn out by a more spry youngster? I would hope they would enjoy each other (that was the point!), but both being female and a big age difference am I just a wishful thinker?! haha!

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Has your time with your 7 year old decreased since you brought in the other cat?? Remember, cats are territorial...and you were first 'claimed' by the 7 year old before the 2 year old came into the picture. MaKe sure you greet her first. As for making their relationship smoother....time is the big factor. There is still a big difference between a 7 year old and 2 year old...so it may be that they only tolerate each other.

Katie

Originally Posted by TNR1

Asking a cat to adjust to a kitten is like asking an adult to adjust to a baby..some do really well, but most don't want to be hassled. Instead of a kitten....it would be better to find another cat with the same temperment (probably around the same age). As for the kitten..if you intend to keep it...then I would follow the suggestion and get 2...that way Sadie has an option whether she wants to participate or not.

Katie

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sadie is no longer with us her diabetes and infection got to her and we put her down last month that's why we got another cat for squirt we thought she needed a friend again she started losing weight and being very vocal

Originally Posted by misspiggy

sadie is no longer with us her diabetes and infection got to her and we put her down last month that's why we got another cat for squirt we thought she needed a friend again she started losing weight and being very vocal

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Sorry..it was a bit difficult to determine exactly who the kitten was supposed to be a friend for.....I do understand wanting to get her a friend, however she may have preferred one that was closer to her own age. Believe me, you aren't the first person who has adopted a kitten to be the friend to an older cat. The problem is that oftentimes kittens are a bit "overwhelming" for a cat that is set in it's ways. BTW...so sorry about Sadie. My parents had a diabetic cat..she was the sweetest thing ever and it was heartwrenching when she died.

Katie