Oh my, how the mail does pile up while one tends to matters of rest and edibles. Let's work backwards, old boy. Easiest on a full tum and sleepy eyes.
*Claws open the first envelope.*
Oh! Fan mail! That's the ticket to starting one's morning on a good paw, yes indeed.
Dear Bijou (and Mika),
Thank you for writing to let me know that you are enjoying the results of my little passtime. I hope that you will continue to find my work entertaining, and shall certainly do my best to make sure it is.
Happiness may be fleeting, but there's humor in every situation.
Yes, that feels good. Let's see who's next... Aha. This one seems to require a bit of length and seriousness. Nonetheless, I will attempt to keep some lightheartedness about as I write.
Dear Shenandoah and Co.,
Before I dispense advice, I must make clear my opinion that your Mother has a firm grasp on comedy, naming a fellow feline 'Humble'... Now. Affairs of the heart are always tricky business. I may not be a billionaire playcat, but I will do my best to help her.
Age, as I see it, is generally of no real matter of importance when it comes to relationships. Especially not human ones, as the silly pink creatures seem to be built very sturdily. (I once met a tortoise that said he knew a human almost as old as himself, you know.)
As you also may well know, we cats are somewhat prone to jealousy (and other such vices), and I recognize what may be a twinge of the green-eyed feline in your Mother. It is hard to be sure of what anyone on the Internet is up to, and a distance of many states from the other person can easily make it even harder. And, naturally, most creatures have a tendency to worry about whether another is after their romantic interest. These two factors seem to be combining here to make a situation for her almost as aggravating as when I can't quite groom that one spot on my head.
My question to her is this: does this human man know she likes him this way? If he doesn't, she can not expect him to understand that she might wish he would call her more, or that she might like to be reassured that the other woman is simply a good friend. We males are oblivious sometimes.
If he does know, then there are a pawful of other issues to be addressed here. Firstly, can he be asked to call her more often? Or go old-fashioned and write letters? Distance is a tricky thing to work with and getting the level of communication down pat is too. I would also think that if your Mother says he has never gone to meet the other woman and does not want to, and has never actually called her, then she must take a look at that very statement and ask why she should be worried. The other woman would seem to pose no threat.
In either case, I believe your Mother and her man-friend could do with some more practice communicating to each other. Whether she chooses to do so about her feelings, the frequency of phoning, what he thinks of his friend (and I note here that the third subject is potentially dangerous territory and should only be explored under surer footing than seems to currently be present), or to change nothing at all, is up to her. I wish her luck in her endeavors no matter the case.
In the future, if it doesn't work out, assure her of two things. Firstly, that love can come of something when you least expect it, no matter how old you are. And second, even if she should never be able to find that one suitable human male, this will not make her any less successful in life. And there are always other creatures happy to be loved and cared for by such a wonderful lady as she.
But I'm sure the both of you know that already.