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post #1 of 23
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Recently my husband and i but mostly my husband has been feeling like he's getting old.

we both catch ourselves saying 'kids these days' and have both lost a little interest in going to clubs.

i enjoy cooking, gardening and scrapbooking more and more and my husband spends more time building in the shed than going out for a drink.

we also like to go to bed earlier and have really started to enjoy making stews, especially since my husband brought his slow cooker which he totally loves, i do most of the cooking and love it but my husband really loves making soups so i leave that to him.

also, while shopping on the weekend, we were both wearing a white tshirt that says yalgoo, two teenagers walked past and the boy says 'awww sick' about our shirts and laughed, we actually thought they were pretty cool but maybe they aren't

we do still go out to clubs and have a dance but we also love doing more relaxed things now, my husband said the reason we are worrying is because were going through a qaurter life crisis, what is a qaurter life crisis? lol


thanks for listening


felicia
post #2 of 23
My cousin claims she is going through a quarter life crisis. She and her husband had been married 3 years. Thier agreement was she'd finish nursing school, then they would buy a house, and then one year later they would start a family. Well it came time to start the family and instead she asked for a divorce. Using not wanting kids as her reason for the divorce. She started dating her best friends NEPHEW who had just barely turned 19. He'd been infatuated with her since he was 11. The rest of the family just rolls our eyes.

Now I think I may be close to one myself. I had a friend accuse me of dressing too old and not dressing like I used to. I ignored her. But now I am totally seeing what she sees. When I go out even to Walmart with my husband I notice the girls my age dress different. I've gotten way to bummy. So last thursday i went and bought myself a 'hot stuff' outfit and wore it the next day! Now I know I've still got 'hot stuff' I just need to build my wardrobe back up!
post #3 of 23
I think I am sort of going through one too. I'm 27 and I think I'm trying to recapture my youth.
I wear more "young" looking clothes, dye my hair regularely (the only reason I don't dye them colors like blue or bright red is because I have curly hair and it would just make me look like a clown!).
I also try to go out more but it's hard because I don't have many friends.
These are all things I didn't do when I was a teenager. I started acting "young" in my early twenties but then moved in with my boyfriend and settled down. Now that I'm single again, I want to do all the things I missed on.

I particularely enjoy getting the part about having a crush on someone new just about every week.
Never people younger than me though. Younger men are so immature
post #4 of 23
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Originally Posted by marie-p
I think I am sort of going through one too. I'm 27 and I think I'm trying to recapture my youth.
I wear more "young" looking clothes, dye my hair regularely (the only reason I don't dye them colors like blue or bright red is because I have curly hair and it would just make me look like a clown!).
I also try to go out more but it's hard because I don't have many friends.
These are all things I didn't do when I was a teenager. I started acting "young" in my early twenties but then moved in with my boyfriend and settled down. Now that I'm single again, I want to do all the things I missed on.

I particularely enjoy getting the part about having a crush on someone new just about every week.
Never people younger than me though. Younger men are so immature
Some are, some aren't. Some men never grow up. My husband was 23 when I met him and I was 30. He was more mature than some men I had met that were 2-3 times his age. He's awesome! 29 years later I have no complaints. He's kind, generous, reliable, never out drinking with buddies, and devoted to his family.
post #5 of 23
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Originally Posted by Yosemite
Some are, some aren't. Some men never grow up. My husband was 23 when I met him and I was 30. He was more mature than some men I had met that were 2-3 times his age. He's awesome! 29 years later I have no complaints. He's kind, generous, reliable, never out drinking with buddies, and devoted to his family.
Yes, I guess you're right. My ex was older than me and so immature sometimes! Hopefully it can work the other way around too.
Actually, I tend to find almost all men immature. I'm just so used to having younger men around that they're my first target for complaining.
That's what happens when you're 27 and taking 1st year classes at University.
post #6 of 23
My goodness, a person 27 has hardly started life. Just relax and enjoy yourself. You are just a youngster.
post #7 of 23
My wife and I never go out anymore because we're both hooked on our computers!
post #8 of 23
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Now I think I may be close to one myself. I had a friend accuse me of dressing too old and not dressing like I used to. I ignored her. But now I am totally seeing what she sees. When I go out even to Walmart with my husband I notice the girls my age dress different. I've gotten way to bummy. So last thursday i went and bought myself a 'hot stuff' outfit and wore it the next day! Now I know I've still got 'hot stuff' I just need to build my wardrobe back up!


i still dress kind of young but i know i don't dress anywhere the same as 'teenagers' do, i think i'm reasonably trendy

my general attitude is very young and even my husband says i act like a teeneager at times but when it comes to going out or other things teenagers do i just don't have the interest anymore, especially when it comes to dancing all night and getting drunk.

i'd much rather sit at home and have a bbq and do some photo editing or watch a movie and cuddle with my husband

i have tried but when we go out now we always end up coming home early and falling asleep


felicia
post #9 of 23
As a 31 yr old mom with a kid in high school...... BOY can I RELATE

The past two or three years I have been feeling the "I'm a mom...not young adult anymore" blues. Luckily Dave and I still hit the bars and comedy club every now and then. I love live bands and cold beer.

My taste in music is definately not "young" though. Luckily my son has figured out who Guns'N Roses is and likes them. Now we can talk about something again!

I saw on the 12yr olds (Dave's daughter) My Space account that her favorite word is "PIMP". Boy did I feel old when she said the word means cool. I told here a pimp is a man who makes money off a woman selling her body for sex and I never want to hear a word like that come out of her mouth again. Now I REALLY feel old. I think if you look up the word Mom in the dictionary it will say

mom: mean, uncool, boring


Oh well! I like being 31 and a mom. I get to be in charge and have no bed time. I can also stay up until 5:00am watching reruns and not care.
post #10 of 23
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Originally Posted by pandybear

also, while shopping on the weekend, we were both wearing a white tshirt that says yalgoo, two teenagers walked past and the boy says 'awww sick' about our shirts and laughed, we actually thought they were pretty cool but maybe they aren't

we do still go out to clubs and have a dance but we also love doing more relaxed things now, my husband said the reason we are worrying is because were going through a qaurter life crisis, what is a qaurter life crisis? lol


thanks for listening


felicia
Hey Pandybear,

Now I could be wrong -- or something could have changed in the last five minutes, but doesn't "sick" in teen speak actually mean "cool" "groovy" "right-on". So maybe they were giving you a compliment.
post #11 of 23
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Originally Posted by Huffypeg
Hey Pandybear,

Now I could be wrong -- or something could have changed in the last five minutes, but doesn't "sick" in teen speak actually mean "cool" "groovy" "right-on". So maybe they were giving you a compliment.
oh....

i don't know

i also didn't have a clue PIMP meant groovy

sigh....

at least i have a good marriage and my husband thinks i'm pretty cool, although even he calls me a dork because i read a lot, love computer games and like working with photo's.

one of my eyes is a bit blurry so i may need glasses soon, i'm sure that will add to my 'dorky status'

the funny thing is, i can see fine with that eye close up..it's only from long distances
post #12 of 23
Okay we can all get "old" together .........



I'll even share my kids. Not my cats though!

Yeah... Pimp... was new to my uncool ears. The word still is not allowed in my house though.


Hey do you all know what MILF is? I was once told by a friend that I was one. UGH!!!!!!

I guess I really am old!
post #13 of 23
Some of you kids are making me giggle.

I stay on top of what's trendy by osmosis. A number of my close friends are a good deal younger than me. I'm told I look young. I still get carded for smokes and beer. I just turned 33 at the end of last August.

I love elephant and raver pants, platform sneakers, and manic panic. I still like the way my hair looks in pigtails. Age is just a number and no indicator of either maturity, or cool quotient.

Be yourself. Do and wear what you like. If someone says "Act your age" what they mean is "conform to a stale steriotype of your age group." I just ignore people like that.

And yeah, "Sick" means wickedly cool. The surfers started that one. Rappers started pimp, but it's all common lexicon now. *shrug* When I was still in school sooo many kids got in hot water for saying "Bitchin"
post #14 of 23
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Originally Posted by 4kids4cats
Okay we can all get "old" together .........



I'll even share my kids. Not my cats though!

Yeah... Pimp... was new to my uncool ears. The word still is not allowed in my house though.


Hey do you all know what MILF is? I was once told by a friend that I was one. UGH!!!!!!

I guess I really am old!

Bwahahahahaaa gigglesnorts******

Ummmm, Don't fly off the handle but it means Mom I'd Like to F@ck...
post #15 of 23
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I'm told I look young. I still get carded for smokes and beer. I just turned 33 at the end of last August.

i still get that too! thank goodness, when that stops i'll really freak out
post #16 of 23
Aw I'd rather stay at home and watch a movie with my boyfriend too! Even though I'm single for the first time in two years! What a relief! LOL!
post #17 of 23
Ahhhhhh gee you guys are all still babies To be 20 something 30 something, 40 something where did the time go, I'll be 58 next month my hubby is 50 I have 3 daughters one is 42, one is 41, one will be 38 next month, 5 grandkids, 1 that is 18, two that are 17, one is 14 1/2 one is 12... 8 cats 1 basset hound and a pretty nice life I have no idea where the years went really, I thought I would never get out of my 20s, Just enjoy life, it's very short
post #18 of 23
I'm in the same boat...26, and no interest in going out, partying, getting drunk, or whatever. I spent a lot of this year wondering..."what's wrong with me??" People call me "Ma'am" now! Ack! I husband and I call each other "mommy and daddy" because of the cats.

I used to be quite the wild one, but I guess things change. It's good to know I'm not alone! It's COOL to be domestic (boring, settled, not trendy, etc...)

Beth
post #19 of 23
I was feeling the same way (I'm 27 myself) I don't have much interest in what I guess you'd consider "younger behaviour" but you know what..the way I see it is..I've been there done that..and I'm happy to be in a more mature chapter of my life.
post #20 of 23
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Originally Posted by Miss Mew
I was feeling the same way (I'm 27 myself) I don't have much interest in what I guess you'd consider "younger behaviour" but you know what..the way I see it is..I've been there done that..and I'm happy to be in a more mature chapter of my life.
That's my view too. I'm also happier now because I never enjoyed clubs or loud pubs anyway, always preferred the quiet life, and now that I'm getting close to 30 people don't expect me to go clubbing or be in pubs drunk every Friday night. I'm no longer the boring stay at home one, but am in the majority
post #21 of 23
Wow, I must be the oldest 23 year-old ever then.

I've never liked clubs, partying or drinking. I went to zero parties in High School and one in college (because a guy I liked was there). I do enjoy the occasional drink, but usually when out to dinner or in the quiet of my home with my bf.

Luckily he's pretty much the same. We'd both rather lay around and watch Law and Order than go out 90% of the time.

I guess we're more geeky anyway.
post #22 of 23
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Originally Posted by eatrawfish
Wow, I must be the oldest 23 year-old ever then.

I've never liked clubs, partying or drinking. I went to zero parties in High School and one in college (because a guy I liked was there). I do enjoy the occasional drink, but usually when out to dinner or in the quiet of my home with my bf.

Luckily he's pretty much the same. We'd both rather lay around and watch Law and Order than go out 90% of the time.

I guess we're more geeky anyway.
That's me too. 23...never partied....never drink (never have either.) Total home body!
post #23 of 23
hehe I'm glad I'm not the only "old" 27-year-old out there. I haven't been to a bar for any reason other than to see a band in years, and I only drink about once or twice a year. That is, if you can call a few shots "drinking", because that's all it takes these days to get me good and drunk! LOL
Maybe it's a cat person thing...we are more mature than others our ages. hehe My BF is 25 and he's the same way...again, a cat person.
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