What should I do?

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My ex that told me off when he broke up with me apologized and is asking to "Just be friends." All I keep thinking about though is the disrespect he showed me when telling me off. But I also see that he is apologize so right now my mind is in a spin and I don't know if I should be friends with him or just break him off entirely. What would you do?
 

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I would say leave him alone. If he didn't show you respect earlier, he won't show you respect again. At the very least, give yourself some time so your thoughts are clear and not "spinning".
 

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Originally Posted by katachtig

I would say leave him alone. If he didn't show you respect earlier, he won't show you respect again. At the very least, give yourself some time so your thoughts are clear and not "spinning".
Same thing I would have said.
 

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He could have said it out of anger. I would tell him you are not ready to be friends yet b/c of the way he handled the break up and give it some time. If you are still interesting in talking to him later on, and I'm talking weeks or months then be friends.
 

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Well, I think I would tell him that youre still angry about the way he handled things. Maybe after more time has passed you can consider being friends with him, for now I think hes just trying to keep a part of you he clearly does not deserve from the way he has treated you.
 

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Oh, that is such a LOUSY position to put you in! The others are right on in their advice! Just follow the example of cats - they just don't tolerate much abuse. If your boyfriend wants someone he can treat shabbily, and it will come begging for attention & forgiveness, he should consider a dog....although, IMO, people who mistreat dogs because of a dog's need to belong to the pack makes it tolerate the intolerable are the lowest of the low..
 
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Well I wasn't even considering talking to him again.

My friend and I we were talking and apparently he blames the break up on me.
So I think I'm going to take the advice to just let him be and we'll see who comes crawling back. And I know it's going to be him because I can live life JUST FINE withouth him!

So uhm..bye bye Alex..have a nice life!!
 

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In that case I would just forget the whole thing!! Who needs friends like that anyway. I've noticed that everyone blames a breakup on one party or another, but in the end, it doesn't matter who's fault it was. My EX was all about dumping me, and then we took sometime apart and I realized I was MUCH happier w/out him. He tried to come crawling back and I shut him down. Of course he says he broke up with me, but I don't really care. We have been civil but have been geograpically far apart for a long time. He was over 10 years older then me I was 19, he 30. Now I'm almost 28, married own my home, have a good job, and happy with a great guy. He is now 39, still a loser and last I heard, living with his parents. I think the only good thing I got from him is my love of cats!
I am still friends with two of my Ex's from high school - they were both at my wedding!
 

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Guess what!

I got dumped on Saturday night by my boyfriend of two months because (And these are his exact words) I wanted to spend too much time with him!

He said but don't worry we're still mates, I told him to go and shove it and that I never wanted to hear from him again!
 

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Give em the boot.....never settle even with friends.....

I am sorry that you and sam lost boyfriends.....but you guys will find someone great for you one day.....someone who treats you with respect
 
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Originally Posted by Nebula11

Give em the boot.....never settle even with friends.....

I am sorry that you and sam lost boyfriends.....but you guys will find someone great for you one day.....someone who treats you with respect
Yeah respect seems to be a big issue on my part.

Alex I'm serious he acts like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!!!!! One minutes he's the sweetest person you'll ever meet..the next he's cussing you out!!
 

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Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl

Yeah respect seems to be a big issue on my part.

Alex I'm serious he acts like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!!!!! One minutes he's the sweetest person you'll ever meet..the next he's cussing you out!!
He sounds like a psycho......

I am glad you guys are not together anymore.....you deserve better
 

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Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl

What would you do?
I'd move on. Someday you'll find the right people to have in your life and you'll be kicking your self over how much time you spent worrying about the wrong ones.
 

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hehe
boys...boys...boys...
I swear we all need a good girly night out!
 

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Alex I'm serious he acts like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde!!!!! One minutes he's the sweetest person you'll ever meet..the next he's cussing you out!!
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Sounds like he has a serious control issue....both anger and attempts to control you. Let him know you're not ready to let him come crawling back...and move on. If you go back to him "as a friend" it looks like you are trying to hang onto him. And he's not worth it
 

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Originally Posted by fwan

hehe
boys...boys...boys...
I swear we all need a good girly night out!
Too bad there isn't a TCS chat room. Or is there? LOL

I'm game for a girls night out on TCS....anyone else?
 
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Originally Posted by 4kids4cats

Too bad there isn't a TCS chat room. Or is there? LOL

I'm game for a girls night out on TCS....anyone else?
DEFINITLY!!
 
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