ever hated where you live?

as most of you know, my husband and i are temporarily in the middle of nowhere due to his job, this town is in the real outback of Australia and is tiny, when i say that i mean it has one pub, one deli, a shire, museum and maybe 100 people, not all of who live in the actual town.

when my husband first got the job we were so excited, we had no money and this job pays very well.

when we first moved to the town it shocked me, the was just nothing....red dirt, kangaroo's, stinking heat and hardly any people, the people were friendly enough though and i started to make some friends my own age, the town is transient though and most of those people have now left.

we only have seven months until my husband can hand in his resignation then we have to wait another three months for some other poor person to fill his position, i know it isn't long but being here is really starting to depress me, all my husband and i ever do is dream about being back home where our family and friends are, where there are stores and beaches and life lol

we are both ocean people and used to spend every day at the beach, swimming, snorkelling, spearfishing....i love everything about it and the only water out here is in a huge old mine shaft, it's safe and clean...and very cold but it isn't the beach.

we could leave any time obviously but my husband gets a payout if we stay for the length of the contract and that will be a deposit on our first home.

we need to stay i know but i just can't stand living here....i'm always bored and the whole place is so depressing....

here's a few links so you can see what i mean -

http://www.walkabout.com.au/locations/WAYalgoo.shtml

http://www.smh.com.au/news/Western-A...500208766.html

sorry, i really needed to vent


felicia

I'm sorry you are having a horrible time where you live!

I took a look at the links and they seem interesting to me, as I have never visited Australia (yet!!) But I see what you mean about the red ground, and there was nothing to be seen around the points of interest!

Just think though, at the end of this difficult time, you and your DH will be able to get your own home and in a place you want to live! That's a great thing to know you will be able to have that! Don't concentrate on how long it is til then, spend your time enjoying the day and the experience! It'll come quicker than you know it!

Originally Posted by Sar

I'm sorry you are having a horrible time where you live!

I took a look at the links and they seem interesting to me, as I have never visited Australia (yet!!) But I see what you mean about the red ground, and there was nothing to be seen around the points of interest!

Just think though, at the end of this difficult time, you and your DH will be able to get your own home and in a place you want to live! That's a great thing to know you will be able to have that! Don't concentrate on how long it is til then, spend your time enjoying the day and the experience!

It'll come quicker than you know it!

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Thanks Sar

don't worry, most people do find it interesting so did i once

i will try to enjoy it a little more, it just gets hard sometimes....thank goodness for the internet!




felicia

Also, when things are difficult, just remember that you live in a place called Yalgoo!

I went through something similar. I went on an exchange for a year to West Virginia University. It was in a beautiful part of the country, with lots of interesting culture, and very nice people. But I was very very depressed for the entire year, mostly because it was so far from my old friends and family, and from the "landscape" of home. And because is was a very small town, compared to what I have been used to. I had no idea that I was such a "city" girl, until I lived there.

People came and visited me, and found lots to do. And I enjoyed showing them around. I even went back to visit quite a few times. But living there, I just didn't feel at home, ever, and didn't feel like myself. I only lasted a year, and was very very happy to get back on familiar ground. I called it severe homesickness.

I'm sorry that you're unhappy with your location. On the bright side, you are with your husband, and you seem to have a solid, loving relationship. So, you're not going it alone.

I once hated where I lived. It was a small town called Thayer, pop. 725. One restaurant and one gas station. That was it. No history, other than the fact that it was originally settled and established by local coal miners. And, because it was so small, EVERYONE was in your business. Made for a nasty place while going through a wicked divorce, let me tell you!

Hope things look up for you soon.

being from australia, although I have never lived anywhere like you are now, I appreciate what your saying. I know how remote this country can be.

I appreciate how hard it must be on you. Its wonderful that you have been able to accept that you need to stay there for the length of the contract and know in time it will be worth it. Obviously it doesnt make it any easier of course, but this is a good opportunity for you.

but your right - thank goodness for the internet, and thank goodness you could get it there!!! some small towns, especially those as remote as yours cant - so you are lucky!

I say GOOD ON YOU!! It takes a strong character to be able to do what your doing...

I finally am living where I love it. Three years ago my hubby and I built a house on my grandfather's old homeplace. What makes that really neat is that is where I grew up and where my daddy grew up. We LOVE it here.

to answer the question... yes. I absolutely despised Scotland. I'm finally in Copenhagen and I'm more at home here than I ever was in the uk. It feels wonderful! I'm so sorry to hear you hate where you live - but it is only temporary in the end isn't it? Chin up

I don't mean to be "nosey" but what kind of job pays great out in the middle of nowhere??

Thankyou all for your kind reply's, i do really appreciate it

Originally Posted by Sar

Also, when things are difficult, just remember that you live in a place called Yalgoo!

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Thanks Sar, i'll remember that

I don't mean to be "nosey" but what kind of job pays great out in the middle of nowhere??

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that's okay, my husband is second in charge of the entire shire which although has not many people, it has a lot of sheep land and is millions of acres or hectares...not sure lol

he also gets paid a lot because we are so remote, it's like to temp you to live out here or something

money wise, we are doing great and i know we will be ready to get our own place and start a business when we move back to Bunbury but it gets hard because i miss my friends and my old lifestyle....going to the beach and being able to go to a nice place for dinner etc.

i don't know what i'd do without the internet and my art


felicia

I would LOVE to live out in the middle of nowhere. I've never lived more than 10 minutes from a good sized town, and never more than 30 from a major metro area (Birmingham.) Now we live in suburbia with huge strip malls and tons of shopping (not my thing) within 5 miles and the largest mall in the South is within 30 miles! We have to live within commuting distance of Sunny's job though. When he retires ...

It looks very peaceful to me! But I once lived in the bad area of Charleston, SC. I would take my baby for walks in the stroller, and we always saw hookers walking, any time of day. We were just off the Navy base, and my ex had picked out the trashy trailer to live in. I was so lonely, living 17 hours from my family. And he would be gone for 6-8 months at a time.

So I do understand some of what you are going through. Maybe consider it a long honeymoon, just you and dh, getting to know each other! Go ahead and vent and rant, then try to look at the positives. If this is what it takes for you to become independent, it is certainly worth it.

At one point, my dh suggested moving to Alaska, because he wanted to go to where there weren't very many people. I told him there wouldn't be many people, because the kids and I wouldn't go! (No offense to anyone in Alaska, but you have to be made of tough stuff to live there!) Maybe he would like your town! LOL!

Originally Posted by RoseHawke

I would LOVE to live out in the middle of nowhere. I've never lived more than 10 minutes from a good sized town, and never more than 30 from a major metro area (Birmingham.) Now we live in suburbia with huge strip malls and tons of shopping (not my thing) within 5 miles and the largest mall in the South is within 30 miles! We have to live within commuting distance of Sunny's job though. When he retires ...

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i love the peacful part but i don't like living too far from my friends or the beach.

i used to live in a small coastal town, they call it a city but it isn't like one at all, my husband and i want to live a little bit out of town on some land, where there's plenty of tree's and we are close to the ocean, probably not far from where we lived before we came here, it's quiet and there are some fantastic snorkelling spots, winerys, a lovely camping area where the possums come out at night, they even sit on your arm....sigh

plus, we both miss having bbq's with friends

i'm not a city person at all but i'm also don't like towns with nothing in them...i love the coast too much.


felicia

I know exactly what you mean.I am from the US living in the Netherlands,and it is so hard getting used to the adjustment.I dont 'hate' it here,but sometimes I get so homesick I can feel it down to my bones.I am very lonely and the language barrier doesnt make it any easier.
Is there any towns you can drive to for the day?How about having a friend come and stay with you for a while or take a long trip back to visit family?

Sure, I've hated where I lived. When I was seventeen through nineteen, I still lived at home and I hated every day of it. My mother, God rest her soul, drove me up the wall and I couldn't wait to get away from her. LOL

Fortunately for everyone, I eventually grew up, and my mother and I had a lovely relationship the last dozen or so years of her life.

And I was in a lousy relationship with someone I lived with, and until I was able to get up the nerve to leave, I hated where I lived.

I don't mean to appear to be scolding you, but if you and your husband love each other, you can rise above geography. Know that 'this too shall pass,' and once the contract is up you'll be living someplace else. Love each other and ride it out.

Good that you are sticking it out, really. That will be great to have a downpayment on your home. I am sorry that you are so bored and lonely. I know you are going into summer know and it must get very hot there,. There probably aren't jobs to be found. but is there be something you could volunteer for to help pass the time?

Originally Posted by Vibiana

I don't mean to appear to be scolding you, but if you and your husband love each other, you can rise above geography. Know that 'this too shall pass,' and once the contract is up you'll be living someplace else. Love each other and ride it out.

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we always stick together, we talk about it and we both know it's not forever, love is what helps us both the most.

sorry if my thread sounded like i totally hated the place, there are some good things.

i just have days when i get very homesick and today was one of them.

thanks for all of your support

felicia

It doesn't sound like you are complaining. It sounds like you are homesick for the ocean. I think that the landscape of our happiest times of life are what we always want to return to, even if its not what other people see as beautiful. I've lived in Southern Ontario for most of my life, but still don't feel at home until I am among the rocks and scrubby trees of Northern Ontario, where I spent my early childhood.

I HATED (like, fire and brimstone HATED) the town I grew up in. It was, and remains, the most loathesome place on the planet, in my humble opinion. It is this horrid, wretched place called Naperville, Illinois. If you ever get the chance to visit...don't.

The place was a throwback to the 1950's. It was like The Stepford Wives. It was Conservative to the point of intolerance and racism (not that there were really any minorities there, other than the handful of affluent Asians). It was kids getting brand new Lincoln NAvigators for their sixteenth birthdays. My family's 5000 square foot house is considered small. No one reads the paper or watches the news. My family's next door neighbor pulled her kids out of violin lessons because it was 'too expensive' and then bought herself a 24K diamond. There was a Starbucks across the street from Starbucks. And malls...oh, the malls! And SUVs...does anyone outside of a major metro even drive a compact car anymore?

By 15 all the girls look the same, dressed up in their couture without 3 and half inches of MAC makeup on their faces. Seriously- couture. You also couldn't walk ANYWHERE. Need a gallon of milk? You hop in your Expedition and drive half a mile to the Quik-E-Mart which is inaccessible by foot.

I got a ticket for playing my flute after 10PM. THe neighbor couldn't hear me, but he could see me through my window. Apparently, that's causing a pulic disturbance. or how about the time I got a parking ticket in a 9AM-2AM zone because I got there at (I am not making this up) 8:56 AM? The guy ticketed me AS SOON AS I LOCKED MY CAR, but while I was STILL STANDING THERE. Or, how about my best friend, who got a ticket because one of teh Riverwalk geese started chasing him?

I HATED THIS TOWN.

Anywhre that the Mayor's name is Officer Friendly, you want to stay away from. Heed my advice.

The curious part is this: My mom hates it. My dad hates it. My sister hates. As soon as my brother is old enough, he'll hate it too. everyone wants to live INSIDE Chicago. The magnet schools are good. The private schools are good...and a doctor and a CPA should be able to pay for one kid to go to private school.

Ugh!!

So, I sort of know how you feel.

Personally, I die on the inside when I get too far away from a major metro. I spent a month in the middle of nowhere this summer and boy...do I admire you for sticking it out.