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post #1 of 26
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I got engaged on the 7th ( ), and my boyfriend... oops! FIANCÉ, gave me a beautiful, slim engagement ring with a single diamond mounted on it. It's gorgeous, and has particular sentimental value since it belonged to my grandmother before. He had it resized to a 4 1/2, which turned out to be too loose. We brought it back in yesterday and had it resized again to a 4 1/4. Do your fingers swell at the end of the day, or when you're excited? Because it fit fine when we picked it up, and now it's too loose again... I had to put a piece of tape around my finger to keep it from spinning around. I heard about gold beads, but the jewler didn't seem thrilled with that idea, and I'm thinking that a size 4 would be too small. Any ideas?
post #2 of 26
Yes, your fingers swell at the end of the day.
post #3 of 26
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Originally Posted by thh20
I got engaged on the 7th ( ), and my boyfriend... oops! FIANCÉ, gave me a beautiful, slim engagement ring with a single diamond mounted on it. It's gorgeous, and has particular sentimental value since it belonged to my grandmother before. He had it resized to a 4 1/2, which turned out to be too loose. We brought it back in yesterday and had it resized again to a 4 1/4. Do your fingers swell at the end of the day, or when you're excited? Because it fit fine when we picked it up, and now it's too loose again... I had to put a piece of tape around my finger to keep it from spinning around. I heard about gold beads, but the jewler didn't seem thrilled with that idea, and I'm thinking that a size 4 would be too small. Any ideas?

Congrats on your engagement!!!!!!!!!!
I would suggest you go with a size 4. I had that problem with my ring too, and although it felt a little odd when my hands were a bit swollen, I got used to it. Your finger will "acclimate" to the band width and size. Because it's a slim band, you shouldn't have a problem getting it off even if it is a little tight. It will also fit a little tighter when you have your wedding ring on with it.

You don't want to mess around with diamonds! Mine chipped about a month after I got it and it's not like they can fix it!

You may also want the prongs checked regularly...they get loose!

Hope this helps!
post #4 of 26
Yup, your finger size will change throughout the day. Even washing your hands in very hot or very cold water can change the size of your fingers by that much. I wouldn't worry too much, tho -- I think you're just hyper-conscious of the ring now bcuz you're still getting used to wearing it. If it fit when you picked it up, and it's not uncomfortably tight when your hands are warm and swollen, I'd leave it alone.

PS, I really hope ring sizes are different in Canada than they are down here -- I have fairly slender fingers, and I wear a 6 1/2-7 - you'd have toothpicks for fingers @ 4 1/4!!!! But you'd be able to buy really cute children's jewelry
post #5 of 26
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Originally Posted by RicaLynn

PS, I really hope ring sizes are different in Canada than they are down here -- I have fairly slender fingers, and I wear a 6 1/2-7 - you'd have toothpicks for fingers @ 4 1/4!!!! But you'd be able to buy really cute children's jewelry

I was thinking the same thing. Dang thats tiny! I didnt even know they made a size four!
post #6 of 26
My fingers are small too and I originally had to have my ring sized down to a 4 and 1/2. I actually was going to go back and get it sized down to 4 and 1/4 because it seemed too big when I first got it. I never did though and I am glad because it seems in the mornings my fingers swell and the rings fits fairly snug.

Also, like someone mentioned, you are very concious of the ring because it is new. It actually drove me nuts when I first got it I have had it for 8 months now and it feels like it's been there forever. I have even had to double check to make sure it was there before.
post #7 of 26
You can ask about a ring guard, I think it's a small piece of plastic that fits on the underside of the ring to hold it in place, it's clear in color and thin like the band part of the ring, just till you can figure out for sure if you need to take it down more
post #8 of 26
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Originally Posted by squirtle
My fingers are small too and I originally had to have my ring sized down to a 4 and 1/2. I actually was going to go back and get it sized down to 4 and 1/4 because it seemed too big when I first got it. I never did though and I am glad because it seems in the mornings my fingers swell and the rings fits fairly snug.

Also, like someone mentioned, you are very concious of the ring because it is new. It actually drove me nuts when I first got it I have had it for 8 months now and it feels like it's been there forever. I have even had to double check to make sure it was there before.

Yeah, you will get used to it, and reflexively check if its there.
I have developed this habit of leaving mine on the nightstand...it's kind of funny because I stared at it so much when I first got it (year and a half ago), and constantly was making sure it was still on my finger...oh well. Husband gets irritated too...I might have to work on that!
post #9 of 26
I really don't ever take mine off. I even wear it to bed. The only time it comes off is when I am putting on lotion. When I am doing that I hold it in my mouth, not inside my mouth but I press it between my lips. The reason why I think I do that is because the first week I had it I had taken it off and set it up on the shelf in the bathroom while I took a shower. My fiance walked by and took the ring and hid it from me. I freaked out while he let me go on believing it was missing.
post #10 of 26
I would wear it for a few weeks before having it sized down. That way you can determine how much your fingers do swell.
post #11 of 26
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Originally Posted by gardenandcats
I would wear it for a few weeks before having it sized down. That way you can determine how much your fingers do swell.
I have mine at 5 1/2 (and I thought they were small!) and sometimes they spin and somtimes it feels like sausages squeezed to tight.
post #12 of 26
When I lost a good deal of weight last fall/summer my fingers shrunk, and I was sleeping and my ring fell off while I was asleep! Well lemme tell you, I didn't realize it until I was out and about with my dad and started really freaking out. My mom found it ain the bed and hid it from me, the wench.

Unfortunately I gained all the weight, and when my wedding rolled around, I had to have it sized up to go on my other finger. But now it's loose again so who knows.
post #13 of 26
When I got my ring from John, it was a 6 1/2, way too big! I had to have it sent in and resized to a 5 and when I went in and got it, it was at the end of the day and my hands were so swollen, but now it fits perfectly, it could be a 4 1/2 tho, but a 5 fits pretty good without it being too tight!

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!!
post #14 of 26
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Originally Posted by halfpint
You can ask about a ring guard, I think it's a small piece of plastic that fits on the underside of the ring to hold it in place, it's clear in color and thin like the band part of the ring, just till you can figure out for sure if you need to take it down more
I had a metal one that was undetectable unless you looked at the palm side of your finger. I agree that it might be your best bet for now. My hands change a lot depending on the weather and how much salt I ate the day before.
post #15 of 26
Congratulations

I'd agree with the ring guard idea too, if your hands swell & shrink a lot.
post #16 of 26
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Originally Posted by tuxedokitties
Congratulations

I'd agree with the ring guard idea too, if your hands swell & shrink a lot.

I just have to tell you that I that tuxie of yours, I have 3 of them, but that one has the sweetest expression. I also had 4 from last year (rescues) I Think they are all one big family.
post #17 of 26
I think the perfect size is loose, but not so loose that if you shook your hand it would fall off. My fingers get bigger when it's warm and smaller when it's colder but it's hardly noticable at all.

Congratulations!!
post #18 of 26
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Originally Posted by halfpint
I just have to tell you that I that tuxie of yours, I have 3 of them, but that one has the sweetest expression. I also had 4 from last year (rescues) I Think they are all one big family.
Awww...have you posted pictures in the tuxedos/black & white kitties thread?

Mr Underfoot says thank you & sends purrs.
post #19 of 26
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Originally Posted by tuxedokitties
Awww...have you posted pictures in the tuxedos/black & white kitties thread?

Mr Underfoot says thank you & sends purrs.


Yes I did it's number 31, that 1st picture is sideways I didn't even notice that, The first one is miniman, and the second one is his sister sissy, and her baby zazzy, they were ones I rescued from a shopping center parking lot. at least I think there what you would call tuexdos
post #20 of 26
your fingers do swell, not just at the end of a day, but when you're too hot or too cold. So you're probably right to have it fitted to a 4 1/4, because that will be at a neutral temperature.
post #21 of 26
When my husband bought my ring, it was sized at 6. He had to have it downsized to a 4, and he was afraid that it wouldn't fit, it looked so small! But it does, it doesn't spin and it doesn't slide, but it's not too tight. It's perfect!

I would suggest that as long as it doesn't slip over your knuckle and you're not afraid of it slipping off, I would wait a few weeks just to get used to it, and then re-evaluate.

Congrats- isn't it a great feeling?!
post #22 of 26
4

I am a 6 and my ring sometimes spins around. I never thought anything of it. I just flip it back around

I know you can buy some plastic thingys to put on the band from it moving around.
post #23 of 26
I've never been married, but I wear my late mother's engagement and wedding set. She had a smaller finger than I do, but let's just say neither of us was a size 4, in rings OR clothes. lol

When I inherited her rings, I had them sized up to fit my finger and they're actually a bit loose sometimes in the mornings. Recently they slipped off my finger in the middle of the night, rolled under the nightstand, and I didn't notice they were gone till the next morning when I was bleary-eyed and scooping litterboxes. Then I panicked, thinking I'd lost them down the drain when I washed my hands or in one of the boxes. I went pawing through all the boxes in a panic, ran and looked down the drain, and was just about to take the trap apart when it occurred to me that I'd have felt the rings slipping off my finger if I was awake. So, I went and looked by the bed and there they were. I was so relieved I cried.

My mother was pregnant so many times during her first 20 years of marriage that she had to stop wearing her engagement diamond -- her fingers would swell up and she'd have to have it cut off. She went through a couple of bands before putting it in a drawer. Dad had it reset for her on their 35th anniversary in 1981. Mom died last year, around 5 AM on the morning of their 58th wedding anniversary. May she rest in peace.
post #24 of 26
also, when you're older, your knuckles will probably swell (it happens to everyone) if it's a litle loose now, it will fit when you're older.. and from a 4.25 there's no resizing it bigger
post #25 of 26
As an almost-professional flutist...yes. Yes, your fingers will swell. I'm trying to get a colleauge to tell me how she keeps her engagement ring on so that I can give you better advice, but... For our hands, we use anti-inflammatory lotions throughout the day to stay on top of things through our evening practice...anything that includes olive oil will do it. I don't know if that's an option for you, but thats how I get through my practice! I don't have an engagement ring yet and I've always been wondering what I'm going to do about my fingers! In the past, I've never worn rings.
post #26 of 26
Thread Starter 
hello all and thank you for your advice! I've decided by default to wait a few days to see how it feels, partly because I've had to put in a few 11 hour days at work, and by the time I'm off, the jewler is closed!
It's starting to feel a bit more comfortable, although I'm thinking a 4 still might not be a bad idea.

...and for the record, my fingers are *not* toothpicks! lol
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