I hope this isn't too far off topic but this behavior is disturbing to me and just wondering if anyone else works with someone or acts this way themselves. Not going to use names so no one will know who I'm speaking of, but it seems very odd to me.
I've been speaking with someone across country about adopting a bobtail to show in the alter classes and possibly take on as a second breed down the line. I've been talking to her since before I had Maus and she seems to forget EVERYTHING that we ever talk about. She's made several deals for me to make her a website in exchange for a kitten that she's never followed threw with (literally, I'll pick out a kitten and she'll never send me the information/pictures to do the site and then just not contact me until after the kitten is sold). She also said last year she was sending me an alter as a baby shower gift, never happens, although I didn't really expect it.
But it's when I am trying to adopt with cash that it really aggrivates me. I picked out a kitten last year, had the deposit ready to go the next day - then she contacts me and says the kitten died (not her fault of course), but she had a Mi-Ke girl I could have instead. I say okay, a week later she decides she's keeping the Mi-Ke, but a breeder she knows in my state has a kitten available now. She gets that breeder to contact me and we start to go threw the process when the first breeder comes back and says she forgot she'd already agreed to adopt that kitten I was looking into (HUH? makes no sense...).
I didn't talk to her for a long time after that, but then she wrote me about her money troubles and asked if I still wanted to show an alter. I waited a few months, she had a litter in July and basically picked out a red and white kitten for me. I went along with it as I love to have a good show cat and it never hurts to have another breed under your belt, anyways, she said she would snail mail me pictures and all that so I could make a final choice, that was August 9th. I heard from her for the first time (no pics or anything) again today, she told me she has two girls left, one is going to the breeder in my state, that person gets to pick, and the other is being sold to me - with NO explanation as to what happened the the red/white, where she's been, what this cat looks like, or even asking if I would still be interested - she just flat out told me I was taking the leftover kitten from that litter to show and RW.
I said no in a very longwinded message, but does anyone else do this to people? I feel completely used, manipulated, and controlled, and this seems like a disgusting way to conduct a cattery on a continuous basis. I know it's sort of a fool-me-once situation and I've been a fool to keep taking the bait, but she acts so nice in between the crazy times that I keep falling into the trap so to speak. So I'd just like to know if there's a method to the madness that I just don't understand, or if she's gaining something by this; is this some ultra strange way to prove devotion? Do other breeders behave this way as a standard or am I right to cut ties? I dunno, just thought I'd get some feedback on the topic since I don't see much of this here.
I've been speaking with someone across country about adopting a bobtail to show in the alter classes and possibly take on as a second breed down the line. I've been talking to her since before I had Maus and she seems to forget EVERYTHING that we ever talk about. She's made several deals for me to make her a website in exchange for a kitten that she's never followed threw with (literally, I'll pick out a kitten and she'll never send me the information/pictures to do the site and then just not contact me until after the kitten is sold). She also said last year she was sending me an alter as a baby shower gift, never happens, although I didn't really expect it.
But it's when I am trying to adopt with cash that it really aggrivates me. I picked out a kitten last year, had the deposit ready to go the next day - then she contacts me and says the kitten died (not her fault of course), but she had a Mi-Ke girl I could have instead. I say okay, a week later she decides she's keeping the Mi-Ke, but a breeder she knows in my state has a kitten available now. She gets that breeder to contact me and we start to go threw the process when the first breeder comes back and says she forgot she'd already agreed to adopt that kitten I was looking into (HUH? makes no sense...).
I didn't talk to her for a long time after that, but then she wrote me about her money troubles and asked if I still wanted to show an alter. I waited a few months, she had a litter in July and basically picked out a red and white kitten for me. I went along with it as I love to have a good show cat and it never hurts to have another breed under your belt, anyways, she said she would snail mail me pictures and all that so I could make a final choice, that was August 9th. I heard from her for the first time (no pics or anything) again today, she told me she has two girls left, one is going to the breeder in my state, that person gets to pick, and the other is being sold to me - with NO explanation as to what happened the the red/white, where she's been, what this cat looks like, or even asking if I would still be interested - she just flat out told me I was taking the leftover kitten from that litter to show and RW.
I said no in a very longwinded message, but does anyone else do this to people? I feel completely used, manipulated, and controlled, and this seems like a disgusting way to conduct a cattery on a continuous basis. I know it's sort of a fool-me-once situation and I've been a fool to keep taking the bait, but she acts so nice in between the crazy times that I keep falling into the trap so to speak. So I'd just like to know if there's a method to the madness that I just don't understand, or if she's gaining something by this; is this some ultra strange way to prove devotion? Do other breeders behave this way as a standard or am I right to cut ties? I dunno, just thought I'd get some feedback on the topic since I don't see much of this here.