authoritative-parents are the bosses, children have no say
permissive-parents always give in
uninvolved-parents are egocentric and don't respond to children[/QUOTE]
Aurora.......are you sure that you didn't get *authoritative* mixed up with *authoritarian* ??? I just had a psychology college course two quarters ago and my wife has the same this quarter. I looked it up in the book and I believe that the styles of parenting are listed in psychology as follows.......
Authoritarian- Always the boss, children have no say, just because they said so.
Authoritative- Lets talk it over and decide together, sometimes (depending on the consequences involved) left to the child to decide.
Permissive- Lets the children do as they please.
As far as psychological studies go.......from their perspective and as a result of many case studies, the opinion is that the children raised by *authoritative* parents are the most responsible and have the least amount of problems throughout their lives. Coming in a * distant* second is the *authoritarian* parents. Last, and least, in the studies were the *permissive* parents, the children grow up to be very irresponsible and very egocentric adults......bottom line.......the worst, usually. I'm sure there are exceptions to all things, but overall these are the results......
As for your question as to our choice of parenting style....we were very thankfully.....authoritative parents. Neither my wife or myself knew anything about psychology or the different styles of parenting until we took the class in college. We just always tried to treat our children with the same respect that we expected them to give to us, so, this seemed like the best way to be.