Feeling alone......

Im in the last year of my teens and when i read your posts it just reminds me being younger and i laugh at my self.

I threw away my last two years being devoted to a man who cheated on me with more than 30 women.

So when you think about how much of an a$$ some of these boys are that give us that feeling of happyness even for a few days you just realise that your best friends give you a much better feeling. (does that make sense?)

and yes keep your self busy, i have just gone through a rough break up my self and it still hurts for what he has done to me.
But in a few years i will look back and say "oh my god wasnt i so stupid" i mean i even do that now

I remember that I was all heartbroken about breaking up with one of my ex's in high school... But the worst thing I did was hang out with him afterwards. I really wish that I'd just gone on with my life. I didn't want to know that he'd completely moved on in a week or so, or that he was dating a gorgeous girl, or that he was having fun. I wish that I could have imagined him single and heartbroken.

It might sound awful, but cut all ties with the controlling dude, and don't date for a while. Once I finally realized that I should do that, and I started living for myself, rather than living for a relationship, I was so happy, and I actually met the guy who I've been with for four years and eight months. The best thing that I did for myself in high school was to find out who I really am, and not let myself act any other way for anyone.

Originally Posted by keith p

You think thats bad! Im a guy and im going to be 20 in November, yet I have NEVER been kissed by a girl or ever had a girlfriend!

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I've never been kissed either.........

Originally Posted by Nebula11

My only advice really....is get out of your teens.....

All I can say is it definitly gets better....things that were such crisis' when we were 17, kinda make us laugh when we're 24......

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I wouldn't go as far to say it always gets better.....BUT.....it definately gets *different*. I also must say that I just turned 45 and looking back some of the things that were a *crisis* when I was 24, REALLY make me laugh now

I think Lil Axl Gurl and Keithp should start talking!!!

The "mom in me" is saying.....don't encourage them!

Originally Posted by jane_vernon

I think Lil Axl Gurl and Keithp should start talking!!!

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That's okay

Well, if Keithp is willing to admit he is 20 and never been kissed then he can't be too bad a bloke!!! Plus a new friendship can never hurt!!

Originally Posted by Winter Hawk

I also must say that I just turned 45 and looking back some of the things that were a *crisis* when I was 24, REALLY make me laugh now

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I bet.....

Aaah I'm with everyone else on the "get out of the teenage years" thing. Being a teen sucks. Too many hormones and not enough places to get rid of them I know it's easy to say, but don't wallow in the self-pity... get out there and meet new people and see new places. Boys are well, boys, and I suppose that about sums it up... and there's SOOO much more to life than them. Find a new hobby, take up a new sport that you'd never have dreamed of doing before, I dunno... underwater buffalo tanning, or something! Something you've never tried and you've always said "I'd like to maybe try that some time" but haven't ever gotten around to it. Besides, being depressed doesn't help the "finding a new man" very much. Go out and be happy and you'll more than likely meet someone very new and exciting in a couple of weeks. I think as a teen I dind't stay in any relationship longer than a week..... I liked to keep my options open

Originally Posted by Winter Hawk
I also must say that I just turned 45 and looking back some of the things that were a *crisis* when I was 24, REALLY make me laugh now

Beb, crises are crises no matter how old you are... I think you're right, they just change in severity. My last crisis as a school kid was the fact that I needed to have my ice-skates sharpened in time for the ice-disco on a Friday evening. Or that I needed to be home by 10pm at the latest..... Now my crisis is that I can't recall what I had for breakast.

Originally Posted by LilleKat

Beb, crises are crises no matter how old you are... I think you're right, they just change in severity. My last crisis as a school kid was the fact that I needed to have my ice-skates sharpened in time for the ice-disco on a Friday evening. Or that I needed to be home by 10pm at the latest..... Now my crisis is that I can't recall what I had for breakast.

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How true is that! It's even worse if you can't remember if you even had breakfast! Memory of a goldfish me!

Amen to that. I retain memries like a seive holds water.

Originally Posted by keith p

You think thats bad! Im a guy and im going to be 20 in November, yet I have NEVER been kissed by a girl or ever had a girlfriend!

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Hey Keith!, your young and you will experience it one day sweetie!

Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl

I'm at school right now so if I get caught I'm gonna have to just put up what I've got.

Basically is what happened is I was dating this guy who seemed to be really obsessive over me, and I just mainly felt really smothered but really just kind of blew that off. Well then we broke up for awhile and I went with this other guy for a short time until the first one was able to just pull me back (and I am so mad at myself for leaving the other guy). Well when school started back up I wasn't able to call him as often as I was before, and I guess that really upsetted him. What I then started to really notice was that he was trying to take control of my life and I can't have someone like that. Especially if most of my friends are guys, I can already see the jealousy that would start up. So I gave him a call and broke it off..first thing he did was try to guilt trip me.....then he got reeeeeally mad when it didn't work. Well I tried to get back with the other guy because he was a really great guy and I don't know why I ever left him.

But he's already with someone and yeah I miss him soooo much, we still talk but I still feel "away" from him.

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This is NOT a good relationship...this guy could be dangerous. You don`t want to be harrassed, stalked or worse...and this guy is WAAAAAY tooooo controlling....Just my opinion of course.
Linda

When i first kissed it was horrible!! he opened his mouth so wide open and technically swallowed me
BUt the second guy ooo, i still get butterflies in my tummy when i think about him and how we kissed that was when we were 13... (we broke up because his mum didnt like me )

Originally Posted by fwan

When i first kissed it was horrible!! he opened his mouth so wide open and technically swallowed me

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Fran i love how you explain things!

The importance of having good friends is worth stating again. Also, it has been my experience that when a relationship doesn't work, someone you passed up suddenly seems pretty darn close to perfect! He isn't. There's a reason he wasn't good enough before and nothing has changed. If someone better came along, you'd pass him up again. Do not rebound!

You just have to be strong and realize that there are so, so, so, many more guys you'll have the opportunity to be in a relationship with later. You don't need to be in a relationship to be complete or feel loved. There are a lot of people that love you!