I could do with some MAJOR vibes right now...

Originally Posted by Purr

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.... .....don´t give it up Amy... ......

Oh my God Amy how awful! Bigs hugs and vibes coming your way. They'd be fools to sack you, and the armed forces would be in worse shape without dedicated people like you.

Don't give up Amy! You GREAT! I bet that pregnant wife thanks you everyday!
And well, the army is sometimes not all it's cracked up to be on the inside. Trust me I know, not from being there personally but from seeing friends going in and then coming out differently. It's strange. I wish you all the best and I know that if your superiors have ANY backbones, they'll tell that officer to shove it and that you did the right thing by doing your job!

Amy that just plain sucks! What a horrible situation you're in!

You've got as many good vibes as I can muster that your supervisors will be able to talk some sense into that man!

Plenty of good vibes for you!!! It infuriates me when someone presses the "patriotic" button as a means of defense...opposed to the war?...you're "unpatriotic"...disagree with the president?...."unpatriotic". The ugly stepsister of this is labeling someone "anti-soldier". I think you would be hardpressed to find someone actually "anti-soldier", but it's an effective weapon used to shut people up! My dad was career Army, (I grew up an Army brat) and I know he would be sickened to hear about them closing ranks around this guy!

Hey Amy.... I doubt that anything will come of this. This is your JOB. This soldier really needs to take a twig out of his bum. If anything this guys commanding officer needs to be reienforcing that he NEEDS to be enrolled in this class. Domestic abuse is high in the military and most posts are really strict about it. I'm shocked that this soldier is reacting the way that he is unless this wife beater brainwashed his commanding officer to think that he is totally innocent.....

Amy good luck. I'm behind you 100% as are all of us on the site.

Wow

. Thank you so much everyone for the encouraging words and vibes

. My sup did come in my office a little while ago and said that she *thinks* this'll all "blow over" so hopefully that is a very good thing. I guess only time will tell though.

Originally Posted by clixpix

Plenty of good vibes for you!!! It infuriates me when someone presses the "patriotic" button as a means of defense...opposed to the war?...you're "unpatriotic"...disagree with the president?...."unpatriotic". The ugly stepsister of this is labeling someone "anti-soldier". I think you would be hardpressed to find someone actually "anti-soldier", but it's an effective weapon used to shut people up! My dad was career Army, (I grew up an Army brat) and I know he would be sickened to hear about them closing ranks around this guy!

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I hear ya

. I am absolutely not anti-soldier. Yes, I am anti-this particular soldier because he an abusive SOB. But I would (and have) fight just as hard for a soldier who is being abused as well. I'm not anti-soldier; I'm anti-abuse!

YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING!!!
So this commander thinks its ok what one of his soldiers did????
Hello- this man SERIOUSLY injured his wife and that's Okay
Hopefully you have good people on your end backing you up!!!
Sending some vibes {{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}}

OMG thats horrifying!!!!!!!! It makes me wonder if this guy is abusive to his wife himself!

Can you get some legal advice/support in case they do try and close ranks and oust you? I would do that, just to be on the safe side - I mean they cannot dismiss you without any proof that you are "anti-soldier" (!?!?!?) This is so sickening - I cannot imagine how the poor woman feels, does she know what is going on?

Oh Amy, here is a hug for you And some vibes ~~~~~~~~~~~ (yep they are pink!)

Hang in there, and hopefully it will all blow over as your sup. thinks. In the meantime, if it were me, I'd be looking for a position elsewhere! Sounds like you've just been dumped on a lot lately, and, even though it means I've quit a few jobs in my life, I always feel life is TOO SHORT to have a miserable job!
I think you would be GREAT as a guidance counselor at a high school or college (if you have the license for it) or maybe its time to go back to school?

Good luck and keep us posted! Hugs!

Everyone else has pretty much said what I would have. I just can't believe this guy would seriously support someone so abusive. Makes me wonder what skeletons are hiding in HIS closet.

I'm sending major :::::::: your way in the hopes that it all does blow over...not just for your sake but also for the sake of the victims you do so much for.

sending you a big hug ... and a big kick in the pants to the soldier and his commanding officer..

I do hope it all works out. However, it will make it difficult to do your job properly in future - you are likely to at least think twice in a similar situation. Good luck with everything.

Originally Posted by ugaimes

I talked to my program manager yesterday. He is so cool. He told me that my sup, LaVerne, should not have told me that she was "worried about my job" the way she did yesterday morning. He said that the CSM has cooled down greatly and is not as angry now. Johnny (my program manager) told him to please chalk it up as a learning experience on my part. So hopefully (hopefully

) things will blow over....but please keep the vibes coming just in case.

Thank you again, everyone, for being so sweet!

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I'm glad you're feeling better, Amy. I am curious how the commander even knew that you checked to see if the abusive soldier went to the required group session? You would think that whomever (whoever ?) is in charge of that group would be cooperating with your office.

I worked at a youth services a long time ago. One of the things that took the air out of my sail was I got in trouble for giving a kid a 1-800 number to call to report abuse. She told me that she was afraid of her father and that he had been abusing her. Our office was only open M-F and we did some limited family counseling, but didn't have anyone who specifically dealt with abuse cases. It turned out that her father was a "prominent member of the community." The director of Youth Services told me that I had no right to give her that number!!! :censor::censor::censor:?

Anyway, moral of the story: If the abuser doesn't kill you, the red tape might.

Originally Posted by Rockcat

I worked at a youth services a long time ago. One of the things that took the air out of my sail was I got in trouble for giving a kid a 1-800 number to call to report abuse. She told me that she was afraid of her father and that he had been abusing her. Our office was only open M-F and we did some limited family counseling, but didn't have anyone who specifically dealt with abuse cases. It turned out that her father was a "prominent member of the community." The director of Youth Services told me that I had no right to give her that number!!! :censor::censor::censor:?

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Renee, you did the right thing, no matter what that dumb director said. That kid had a RIGHT to get help. Sounds like the director had a bug up her a$$ or something!

Originally Posted by Rockcat

Anyway, moral of the story: If the abuser doesn't kill you, the red tape might.

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You got that right!

Sending good vibes and prayers your way