Big Decision to Make

A friend called me today. It so happens someone she knows has a four and a half month old black and white male kitten who needs a home. I am partial to black and white cats and right now I don't have one. I lost my Max, a tuxedo cat, in July. However, I do have two cats, Speedboat 9 yrs. old a yellow tabby, and Muffin, a 6 yr. old gray and white cat. In my heart, I don't feel like I am ready to have another cat. On the other hand.......this little fellow needs a home. What to do??????

I think there is only one thing to do - go and see the cat. You will know (so will he) if you are right for each other. It is an impossible decision to make blind.

Listen...IMO if I were in your position I´ll take the poor kitty.. because he need´s love and a warm home....I think you did´nt have a big problem because you has another kittys and the surely going to "welcomed" at the new.....
My Case is different beacause his "majesty" wants his kindom alone, he´s very jelaousy but we ´re looking for a kitten too!.. ...

Good Luck!

Just follow your heart..do whatever you feel is right go see the kitty and you will know.

It depends on what you mean by in your heart you don't feel ready, yet. Give it some time and thought. Maybe you are ready, and just don't realize it? Or maybe you need to wait a little longer.

Best of luck to you. Kittens are so cute and full of life, but they are also such little stinkers! Such a difficult decision....

I agree that you would do well to go visit this baby. If the two of you are meant to spend your life together, you will know know instantly! God brings our babies into our lives at exactly the right time!

I'm with the others on this. Go visit the kitty and let your heart guide you.

Originally Posted by dawnofsierra

I agree that you would do well to go visit this baby. If the two of you are meant to spend your life together, you will know know instantly! God brings our babies into our lives at exactly the right time!

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Originally Posted by eilcon

I'm with the others on this. Go visit the kitty and let your heart guide you.

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Absolutely!

So, whats the word, Bugaboo? Are you ready for a new one, a tuxie baby?

I think a visit to this little kitty would be the right thing too. When you are there (assuming you go) then go with your heart. If it doesn't feel right, don't take the kitty. If the little kitty grabs your heart, then I guess it's found a new home.

Best of luck to you

I have decided not to go after this cat. My husband and I talked about it. He wants to wait a while before we decide if we are going to get another cat. Our two cats, Speedboat and Muffin are trying to work out some "dominant cat issues" and I don't know what effect adding a young cat would have right now. I guess they are still trying to get used to Max being gone and deciding who is boss. So for now, I am on hold.
But I feel like there is a hole in my heart. I have tried spending more time with my two remaining cats and I just feel empty somehow. I am not sure if adding another cat would change that or not.

sweetheart - the pain caused by the loss of Max will ease... it will never go away but it will ease... you will know when/if the time is right to add another cat to your family - no need to rush these things.

Originally Posted by Bugaboo1

But I feel like there is a hole in my heart. I have tried spending more time with my two remaining cats and I just feel empty somehow. I am not sure if adding another cat would change that or not.

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I think you made a wise choice. I do not ever believe that a new pet fills the emptiness in the heart that was left by a loss. But a new pet is a new distraction, and a new love, and fills its own spot!

My foster baby Twinkie, now known as Rusty, was adopted by a co-worker after her husband suddenly died. He has helped her healing so much. She tells me that he is a blessing. When the time is right, if your cats and your family are ready, maybe you will add another cat to your family. As time goes by, your heart will heal. You will remember Max with a smile, although you will always miss him.

You folks are just the sweetest people. I so much appreciate the kind words. I can tell they come from the heart. I spent some time looking at the thread about the Katrina cats. I think is was on the Cats SOS forum. I picked me out one just for fun. Today I was going to show him to my friend, but guess what. It said all those cats had been adopted. For now we are on hold though about bringing home another cat.
If the Lord wants us to have one though, it will happen. Who knows, he may show up at my door like Speedboat did in '96. Thanks again for your sincere sympathy and concern.