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Mr. Big

post #1 of 25
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Many of you may remember the big orange stray that found his way to my house about a year ago. I called him Mr. Big because he was such a large cat! I guessed that he probably weighed close to 30 lbs. Mr. Big was always a stray and a little wild and I didn't think it would be a good idea to try and integrate into my household of 5 cats, so I just fed him every day. He'd always come about the same time and I'd put out a plate of food for him. He was always so sweet and happy to see me whenever he came walking up the driveway. He'd purr and rub all over me, weaving his way in and out of legs as I fixed his dinner plate.

Sometimes, he wouldn't come around for several weeks and I'd begin to worry about him. But then he'd always show up again, a little more beat up, but always hungry. Over the last couple of months though, he has changed. He's lost a lot of weight and become very aggressive. I worried that he probably had FIV, but wasn't able to get close enough to him to capture him and take him to the vet. A few weeks ago, a friend of my youngest daughter, had stopped by the house to drop off her backpack since my daughter had left it at their house. Mr. Big was on the back porch as usual and when my daughter's friend came up there, Big jumped up and bit her without any provocation at all. The girl's mom was understandably upset and called me at work. I told her to take her to the doctor and get her on antibiotics if it broke the skin....which it did. Fortunately, the little girl is ok and didn't sustain any permanent damage.

But Big has gotten so aggressive over the past 2-3 weeks that we've basically been held hostage in our house. My yard is overgrown because I haven't been able to go outside because Big bites me everytime I go out there. Luckily, all I've gotten so far is bruises because I don't dare go out with shorts on! He's also bitten my oldest daughter and caused a nasty bruise on her leg and he's chased my youngest and her friends if they try to get past him to the back door. We've had to resort to parking in the front of the house and running in the front door before Big realizes we're home. I had called Animal Control and they came and set out a trap, but Big was too smart for that.

Finally, today, I decided to try something because I can't continue living in fear that Mr Big will seriously injure someone. I put a phenergan (a pill that helps with nausea and often makes people sleep) in his food and took it out to him. He ate all the food and became somewhat drowsy. He still wasn't knocked out though, like I expected him to be. I called Animal Control again and told them what I had done and asked that they please come soon while he was still sleepy. Big was sleeping on the back porch and I went out the front door carrying a laundry basket and managed to put the basket over him, trapping him. Since Big is so strong, I had to put a box on top of the basket to hold him in and wait for Animal Control.

The guy from Animal Control arrived a little while ago and was able to capture Mr. Big. I know that they will put him to sleep later today since he has bitten someone. I had to report it when he bit my daughter's friend in case there were any ramifications from that. It made me very sad to see the guy put Mr. Big in that cage and drive away with him. I feel like it was the right thing to do, but I'm still feeling incredibly guilty.....because I am sending him to his death. I honestly didn't know what else to do with him.

Mr. Big....we're going to miss you....the way you used to be before you became sick and mean. I had high hopes that you could be tamed and turned into a nice pet for someone. I guess it just wasn't meant to be.



This is how I prefer to remember Mr. Big.



This is Big after he started losing weight.

post #2 of 25
Had this cat ever had any rabies shots or been tested.
post #3 of 25
To you Robin.
I know that wasn't an easy decision for you, I remember your posts of him in furpictures.
I think you did the right thing. Sounds like he was sick and in pain, which was why he was getting so agressive.

Will be keeping you in my thoughts.
RIP Mr. Big
post #4 of 25
Oh Robin, that must have been so heartbreaking for you

There was a big difference in size with Mr Big to what he used to be bless him

Will they not do tests on him first though before making the drastic step?!
post #5 of 25
Aw Mr. Big, you never knew me but I knew you from afar. Always admired you too!
post #6 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone. No, Susan, they probably won't do any testing before they put him to sleep, but they will afterward. They will have to test him for rabies too. I really don't think he had rabies because our county hasn't had a case of rabies in over 25 years according to animal control. I think it was probably FIV. I'm not all that familiar with FIV, but I am very familiar with HIV since I'm a nurse and often take care of patients like that. In HIV patients, when the disease progresses, they often get encephalitis which is an infection in the brain and central nervous system. This can cause them to become aggressive, psychotic, paranoid, and several other things. It can also just cause them to become comatose. So I don't know if FIV can cause the same type symptoms in cats or not....but it seems likely since it is a similar disease.

It seems so strange now. I just got home from picking up my daughter at school and running a few errands and when I pulled up in the driveway, I was expecting to see Big there and having to figure out how to get in the house without getting bit. It was nice though being able to put my trash out tonight rather than having to let it stay inside until a time when Big wasn't out there.

It just makes me so sad. I think about what Big must have been like as a kitten. I bet he was so cute with those big blue eyes. Did he ever have a family who loved him? Did they decide they didn't want him anymore? Was he born on the streets and always live there? It makes me cry to think of that poor boy who had no one and just tried to survive the best way he knew how, only to become a victim of the streets and the cruel world.

I hope he'll find some peace, love and security now that he didn't have in life.
post #7 of 25
I am so sorry to read this, Robin. Poor little guy had a tough life.
post #8 of 25
I'm sorry Robin. I know you cared deeply for Mr. Big. That picture of you and him outside is great. He looked like a sweet cat. You gave him a good life for a ferral.
post #9 of 25
Robin, you must be heartbroken as well as relieved. Poor boy, he was such a love when you met him. It's so sad that his illness progressed to the point where he was attacking the people he obviously wanted to be close to. He did know love, though. You showed him kindness when no one else would. He knew where he could come "home" to, where he could be helped. And you did help him to the end. He had to be in so much pain, or so confused, to be attacking you and your family. You helped him move on to a better place where there is no pain or confusion.
post #10 of 25
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Originally Posted by valanhb
Robin, you must be heartbroken as well as relieved. Poor boy, he was such a love when you met him. It's so sad that his illness progressed to the point where he was attacking the people he obviously wanted to be close to. He did know love, though. You showed him kindness when no one else would. He knew where he could come "home" to, where he could be helped. And you did help him to the end. He had to be in so much pain, or so confused, to be attacking you and your family. You helped him move on to a better place where there is no pain or confusion.
I couldn't have said it better.

Mr Big will be waiting for you at the Bridge, thankful for the love you showed him.
post #11 of 25
Thread Starter 
I hope you all are right and that Mr. Big will be able to forgive me.

If it was the right thing to do.....why do I feel so bad?
post #12 of 25
Robin, you sound like a very kind person! Mr. Big will always know that you loved him and that you miss him. You did the best thing, though - your family's safety is really important. And he knows how much you cared and will always care for him.

Jeane
post #13 of 25
What an amazing story. Mr. Big was so lucky to have found you and your family.
post #14 of 25
Aww, Robin, I'm sorry you had to make such a painful decision! I remember Mr. Big well, and had even put out some "feelers" for possible homes for him (my best friend used to live in Nashville). I absolutely fell in love with his pictures (there was one where he was just sitting there, and his gorgeous eyes just glowed...beautiful!).

Judging by your most recent picture, you did the only thing you could do. He was obviously ill, and most likely in pain. His aggressive behavior sounds like it was escalating, and he could have seriously injured somebody someday.

I truly believe he will be waiting for you at the Bridge. He knows you loved him, and when he was more "himself", he was able to show you love in return. You represented the only love and security this boy probably ever knew in his life, and it won't be forgotten.
post #15 of 25
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Originally Posted by KittyKook
I hope you all are right and that Mr. Big will be able to forgive me.

If it was the right thing to do.....why do I feel so bad?
I'm so sorry for your loss. Mr. Big has nothing to forgive you for. He was critically ill! There is no other reason for him to turn on his family! And he still loved you, because he stayed home.

Poor Mr. Big, those last days must have been hard for him, too. Great thinking to sedate him so he could be captured. What a very sad way to lose such a nice Big boy. Condolences on his loss. Even if the very beginning and very end of his life were not very good, you filled most of his life with love, care and good food.

Rest in peace, Mr. Big!
post #16 of 25
aww im so sorry for your loss..mr big was really gorgeous.
post #17 of 25
oh sweet Mr Big, rest in peace darling

Robin, I weep with you right now, what a painful decision you had to make - please know we are all here for you. Mr Big sure was a sweetheart, I remember his story well when he first came to you. You did everything possible and I am so very very sorry for the outcome.

RIP sweet angel Mr Big - you will be missed
post #18 of 25
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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
I'm so sorry for your loss. Mr. Big has nothing to forgive you for. He was critically ill! There is no other reason for him to turn on his family! And he still loved you, because he stayed home.

Poor Mr. Big, those last days must have been hard for him, too. Great thinking to sedate him so he could be captured. What a very sad way to lose such a nice Big boy. Condolences on his loss. Even if the very beginning and very end of his life were not very good, you filled most of his life with love, care and good food.

Rest in peace, Mr. Big!
Beckiboo said it better than I could have.
post #19 of 25
Giant hugs to you! Your did everything you could, and I believe you did the best for Mr Big! May he have an easy cross over the bridge!
post #20 of 25
Hugs for you Robin.
post #21 of 25
So sorry to hear this Robin.

You did show him love AND compassion. Especially with his recent outward aggression, you had to help him to cross over so he wouldn't have such a long painful journey that seemed to be his future.

RIP Mr. Big. Play hard at the RB.
post #22 of 25
I agree totally with the wise words of the others on this thread. You did the only thing you could do, but you did it as much for Mr. Big as for any other reason, because you knew he was suffering and you couldn't bear to see suffering that could not be treated. He did have a hard life, until he found you. YOU made Mr. Big happy, because you accepted him and you loved him. And he loved you in return--I believe that even at the last, when he was aggressive from his illness, that deep inside he still felt that loving bond with you--as someone said, why else did he keep coming back to you? And you have no reason to feel guilty--you made him happy during his life, and you made the totally unselfish decision to end his suffering. Just remember him with love and I am sure that Mr. Big is now in a happy place returning that love. I have a particular fondness for orange tabbies--and what a beauty he was! RIP, Mr. Big and know that you will always be loved and remembered.
post #23 of 25
What a sad story. You really did do the right thing though, his aggression was obviously due to being in pain, and you cared enough to let him be free of that, that is what truly matters. This guy was lucky to have someone who cared enough, and he obviously knew you cared cos he kept coming when he was ill rather than going away.
post #24 of 25
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much everyone for your words of encouragement. Hard to believe it's been a week since Mr. Big left and I still look for him every day when I pull into the driveway.....expecting him to be there.

It makes me sad to think that he ended up the way he did because of the irresponsibility of humans. Did someone just get tired of taking care of him? Did they move away and leave him behind? Did they just not care enough to make sure that he was neutered so that he wouldn't wander out into the streets and live a life that was ultimately his demise?

In the beginning, he was such a sweet cat, that I really believed he had once had a family. He didn't seem like a feral to me, although he was very skiddish until he learned to trust me. He always purred and "talked" to me. I'll miss those times......the way he was before he got sick. Once he was sick, he'd meow in a long wail as if he wanted to be close to me, but then the aggression would take over and he appeared not to be able to help himself. He'd walk around panting with his mouth open and almost growl. It was heartbreaking to see him decline like that.

I pray that he is at peace now.
post #25 of 25
wow, I am so sorry for you loss, and I admire the strength you had in yourself to do the right thing for the kitty. It sounds as if his illness was really starting to take over. please let us know if the tests say anything!! you did the right thing, who knows what could have happened, he may have bitten someone and was tortued by some cruel person as a result, he will be waiting at the bridge for you with a big smile on his face, knowing that you really loved him.
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