I really need some support right now.

katspixiedust · Sep 26, 2005

Beth, stormy, slitty, Sam, Renee, Candie, scamper, and eatrawfish...thank you all so much.

Right now this is feeling really surreal and painful to me and it's so nice to have support from you all. Thank you for everything.

catsknowme · Sep 26, 2005

Oh, Katherine & Waffle - I am so sorry for you both!

kay: What a shock to your heart & mind! I hope that your mom gets there soon. I've been in your shoes before and it is such a lousy time of life to be in. Just remember that this, too, shall pass.
Have you found any relief in music today?
you are being very understanding to Brendan and I admire you for that.
You've been given some excellent advice

If it's not too much bother, maybe you could let us know what you've been doing to take care of yourself. Have you been able to eat anything nutritious today? (I often get sick when I'm upset)
I wish that you were closer. I'd love to have your company today; I've got a bit of a problem, too. I've got a UTI/kidney infection and have to wait for my husband to go to the pharmacy & pick up my anti-biotic, so I've got to keep my mind off feeling lousy till then. Guess it's an Ugly Day today, all right! Please keep in touch! susan

vespacat · Sep 26, 2005

Sorry to hear your news, Katherine.

I hope you will use this time apart from Brandon to grow as your own person as well. Please try not to ruminate and mull over all the "what if's". Whatever is meant to be will happen, and it will be for the best.

katspixiedust · Sep 26, 2005

Originally Posted by catsknowme

Oh, Katherine & Waffle - I am so sorry for you both! kay: What a shock to your heart & mind! I hope that your mom gets there soon. I've been in your shoes before and it is such a lousy time of life to be in. Just remember that this, too, shall pass.
Have you found any relief in music today?
you are being very understanding to Brendan and I admire you for that.
You've been given some excellent advice

If it's not too much bother, maybe you could let us know what you've been doing to take care of yourself. Have you been able to eat anything nutritious today? (I often get sick when I'm upset)
I wish that you were closer. I'd love to have your company today; I've got a bit of a problem, too. I've got a UTI/kidney infection and have to wait for my husband to go to the pharmacy & pick up my anti-biotic, so I've got to keep my mind off feeling lousy till then. Guess it's an Ugly Day today, all right! Please keep in touch! susan

Thank you so much for the concern Susan. I haven't listened to any music since this happened, mainly because most of the stuff I listen to has connections to him.

So far I haven't really done much of anything to take care of myself except talk about it and get my mom to come over here. I had eaten cereal and had tea for breakfast but this happened at about 1:30 (it's 5:16 here now) and i haven't eaten since then. I tend to not be able to eat when I'm feeling depressed or stressed, but my mom is here now and I know she'll get me to eat. Again, thank you for the support. I wish you and I were closer as well, I'd love to come sit with you.

kiwideus · Sep 26, 2005

Oh Katherine, this is a shock to the system for you! I wish I could offer you advice but the list that Beth gave you is great!
Your heart is hurting, it will take some time to heal and I do hope that Brendan will return in the near future. I know that he does still love you - but maybe right now, he just wants to have some time to himself because you are both still so young and he wants to experience some alone time before totally committing to you? I am just theorising here.
I know everyone says to eat nutritious food but I think it is okay to eat some chocolate, treat yourself to a facial or a pedicure or a massage and boost those spirits up. Katherine, you are a beautiful girl with a lovely personality - you WILL be okay.

coolcat · Sep 26, 2005

Originally Posted by katspixiedust

and Rigel: thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Your support really is a wonderful crutch for me right now.

Oh dear Kath...i really want to have the words correctly to say to you.......

but iÂ´m a poor guy that only can make some phrasals and so many words in english are unknow to me....

BUT IÂ´m here to listen to you everytime and every hour that you needed.

...

Search in the bottom of you heart and listen to your self........I know you can find a great solution...

with all love Kath...

wellingtoncats · Sep 26, 2005

Glad your Mum is there now, Katherine. She'll look after her baby girl.

gailc · Sep 26, 2005

Oh man,

that's the last thing I thought I would be reading about you.

First of all...

Its been a long long time since I experienced what you are going through but I've been there. You are in shock right now. The best thing is to take care of yourself. I think your mom can help you with that.
Will you be alone tonite?? Give waffle a big hug, grab that box of kleenex and let it all out.

Only you can predict your future....
Perhaps in a few days you can contact Brenden sit done and talk??

Take care. Remember we are all here for you...

antares · Sep 26, 2005

Katherine, I tell you something, might not be of help now. But I hope, it is understandable.

If you love someone, let him go. If he comes back, he is yours. If not, he never was.

I am so sorry for you, but, think: You ARE a person without this man. Who knows, of what it is good for.

Kisses

rosiemac · Sep 26, 2005

Awwwww Katherine

I think most of us have been where you are now, and i'm one of them.

Just pm me if you need to chat sweetie

valanhb · Sep 26, 2005

OMG! BBBIIIIIGGGG HUGS to you sweetie!

I think we are all taken aback by your news.

But as others have said...if it is meant to be, it WILL be.

captiva · Sep 26, 2005

I'm sorry that you are hurting so much.

chester&piper · Sep 26, 2005

Oh Katherine sweetie, I'm so sorry.

Everyone here has given you such great advice, I don't have any more to add. But know you'll be in my thoughts.

tari · Sep 26, 2005

Oh, Katherine, I'm SO sorry for you.

I'm a little teary-eyed reading this because I remember what it was like to go through. About seven years into our relationship, my (now) husband decided that he didn't know if he wanted to be in a relationship just then. We split up for a while, and it still hurts my heart to think about that time. But we love each other very much and our relationship was meant to be, and it only took him about two weeks to realize that he couldn't live without me. (It was just the worst two weeks, though.)

The others have given you some great advice. Take care of yourself, and a little ice cream and chocolate can't hurt. Try not to be alone if you can avoid it, and be with people who love you. It helps. (I took off for my brother's place downstate. It helped to get away. Even though I was pretty mopey at the time, they understood. And being with my wonderful little niece helped heal my heart.)

Try to keep some hope in your heart, too, though. This may not be the end of your story with Brandon. One of my favorite quotes is from Gracie Allen, "Never place a period where God has placed a comma."

beckiboo · Sep 26, 2005

Originally Posted by Tari

One of my favorite quotes is from Gracie Allen, "Never place a period where God has placed a comma."

That is a great quote!

I am very sorry for the pain you are going through right now. When I went through my divorce, I had a little book. One one cover, it said "the tough thing about living alone" and that half of the book talked about bad things about living alone. Like if your feet get cold at night, there is no one to put them on to warm them. If you flip the book over, instead of a back, it was another cover that said "the nice thing about living alone" and that half of the book gave good examples. Like you can wear your pjs all day.

It was very helpful, because at the time I saw nothing good about being alone! Sometimes I cried when I read it, but it was a really cute book, and mostly made me smile!

Hugs to you at this difficult time, Katherine!

ollyextra05 · Sep 26, 2005

I know exactly how you feel right now: my husband and I broke up several months into our relationship, for seemingly no reason, and I was absolutely crushed.
Fortunately, in our case, the time apart made him realize how awesome I was!

Everything will work out in the end, for right now, eat a lot of Ben and Jerrys, watch sappy movies, and just allow yourself to wallow for awhile, it's really the healthiest thing to do. In a few days you'll feel like rejoining the living and, slowly, everything will start to seem a little less depressing.

Boys can sure suck, can't they?

sunnicat · Sep 26, 2005

I'm sorry you are hurting right now.

lisalee · Sep 26, 2005

I don't know what to say Katherine, but I'm very sorry you have to go through this right now. It will get better, don't worry and take care of yourself during this time. That's so wonderful that you have such a great relationship with your mom. Don't forget to hug Waffle too! I'm sure she will make you feel a lot happier.

miss mew · Sep 26, 2005

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this pain Katherine. I am here to support you 100% and I'm sending you a great big hug.

kittywarden · Sep 26, 2005

I really need some support right now.

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