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Now that I've talked to him I keep getting the urge to call him! All of these questions that I want to ask keep swirling through my head and I just want to tell him more about how I feel! Each time I get the urge I've been contacting friends instead. This is so difficult!
My roommate gave me her perspective of what she thinks is going on. She said taht it's pretty obvious that he doesn't want a girlfriend right now. He's still young and immature and so he reacts immaturely at times in relationships. Her thought is that he's just trying to figure out who he is right now. She said that it's obvious taht he cares a whole lot about me and is really not wanting me to be out of his life, but that odds are he's going to end up hooking up with some random girls during this time while he figures himself out. Her opinion is that hooking up with these girls could potentially open him up to realize how much he really needs and wants me in the end, but that he'll have to live through these experiences and deal with these issues he's having with himself first. She's done pretty much the exact same thing a few times now and so she thinks that he understands where his head is right now, though of course only he can know for sure. Of course she doesn't think his behavior is fair, but she thinks she gets it. I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens, but sometimes timing is a real pain in the behind! I honestly feel that if we were a few years older things would be at a different place right now because he'd have done his maturing and finding himself, since this break-up was not due to a loss of functioning in the relationship or a loss of caring, respect, or attraction for each other.
What a pain in the arse age this is. I get the feeling that when I'm older and looking back at my early 20's I'll be saying, "That was fun, but thank God I'll never have to go back there again!" All I want is my boyfriend back, because I am well aware of how incredible our functioning as a couple was, and I just miss him so much. Why can't the boy have just already done his maturing and gotten it over with? I get the feeling that he's going to discover that he wasn't missing out on much in pretty short order since I never stopped him from going out with his friends or anything of the sort. Whether or not he'll come back to me after he realizes taht is a totally different story, but at this point I wish he would.
Any thoughts or words of comfort? You all have just been so incredible so far.
My roommate gave me her perspective of what she thinks is going on. She said taht it's pretty obvious that he doesn't want a girlfriend right now. He's still young and immature and so he reacts immaturely at times in relationships. Her thought is that he's just trying to figure out who he is right now. She said that it's obvious taht he cares a whole lot about me and is really not wanting me to be out of his life, but that odds are he's going to end up hooking up with some random girls during this time while he figures himself out. Her opinion is that hooking up with these girls could potentially open him up to realize how much he really needs and wants me in the end, but that he'll have to live through these experiences and deal with these issues he's having with himself first. She's done pretty much the exact same thing a few times now and so she thinks that he understands where his head is right now, though of course only he can know for sure. Of course she doesn't think his behavior is fair, but she thinks she gets it. I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens, but sometimes timing is a real pain in the behind! I honestly feel that if we were a few years older things would be at a different place right now because he'd have done his maturing and finding himself, since this break-up was not due to a loss of functioning in the relationship or a loss of caring, respect, or attraction for each other.
What a pain in the arse age this is. I get the feeling that when I'm older and looking back at my early 20's I'll be saying, "That was fun, but thank God I'll never have to go back there again!" All I want is my boyfriend back, because I am well aware of how incredible our functioning as a couple was, and I just miss him so much. Why can't the boy have just already done his maturing and gotten it over with? I get the feeling that he's going to discover that he wasn't missing out on much in pretty short order since I never stopped him from going out with his friends or anything of the sort. Whether or not he'll come back to me after he realizes taht is a totally different story, but at this point I wish he would.
Any thoughts or words of comfort? You all have just been so incredible so far.