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post #1 of 17
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Hi all it's been awile so hi ok I would really aprushiate some help with makeing up my mind weather or not to get another kitty I have 1 kitty now Jasper he is 7 years old and is a big old mummas boy witch is what is worring me I have room for another kitty and can offord to look after it and all the important stuff Jasper is my only concern is he to old to introduce a play mate ? and if he really dose hate a new kitty what then ? these are the 2 big ones I'm am trying to decide on so any advice would be more than welcome the reason I am thinking of another kitty is for company for him I have started work and think he is spending much to much time alone and I think if I can sucsefully pull it off he would benifite greatly and so would the new kitty as I love my kittys and spoil them rotten I supose my main fear is getting another kitty and finding that he wants nothing to do with it and then I would have to rehome the new kitty and I know that would be really hard cause it takes me all 7 seconds to fall in love with my babies I'm sure you all know what I mean so as said above all opinians welcome I will be back tonight I have to go to work so thanks all in advance
post #2 of 17
You should be around to introduce the new kitten so I don't think it's a good idea to get one when you will be out of the house most of the time because of work.
post #3 of 17
I don't think Jasper's too old at all, I know cats that have accepted a new kitten easily after living alone for 13, 15 years. The real question is, in my mind at least, how sociable a personality Jasper is? Has he met other cats? Perhaps you could borrow some friend's cat for a fortnight or so to test Jaspers' reaction after the probably inevitable initial shock? Of course there are also ways of making the introduction easier. There is still always the chance that Jasper won't accept the newbie.

In my experience most cats are indeed happier with a feline companion, cats give each other something a human can never quite replace. I thought it would be difficult to introduce a new cat to our Usva, who's experiences of other cats were mostly negative and who had lived alone for two years. It took three days from Milla to charm her into playing mommy, after much hissing, growling and slapping.
post #4 of 17
How is Jasper? Is he lively or does he love to lay down and sleep?

If lively you can have a young kitten too.

If sleepy - try to get some more peacefully.
One alternative than could perhaps be to have a grown up cat seeking a new home. Or a grown up cat from a good shelter.
But. Important you know this new cat likes other cats, is friendly with others cats.

In this way it will be almost a sure thing the two cats will be friends.
post #5 of 17
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Originally Posted by yayi
You should be around to introduce the new kitten so I don't think it's a good idea to get one when you will be out of the house most of the time because of work.
I probably made it sound worse than it is the time frame it feels bad from were I am but I am home most of the day and hubby gets home before me so its about a 5 hour a day gap he just seems so lonley probable just me being silly thank you I aprushiate your help
post #6 of 17
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Originally Posted by Ryn
I don't think Jasper's too old at all, I know cats that have accepted a new kitten easily after living alone for 13, 15 years. The real question is, in my mind at least, how sociable a personality Jasper is? Has he met other cats? Perhaps you could borrow some friend's cat for a fortnight or so to test Jaspers' reaction after the probably inevitable initial shock? Of course there are also ways of making the introduction easier. There is still always the chance that Jasper won't accept the newbie.

In my experience most cats are indeed happier with a feline companion, cats give each other something a human can never quite replace. I thought it would be difficult to introduce a new cat to our Usva, who's experiences of other cats were mostly negative and who had lived alone for two years. It took three days from Milla to charm her into playing mommy, after much hissing, growling and slapping.


Thats good to know his age is a big worry for me so it is nice to know it wont nesaseraly be a problem Jasper has met other cats but only through the frount screen and he always seems happy to see them so long as they dont hiss at him as for sociable he is not very sociable with people he is a 1 person kitty ( Mine ) he likes my hubby but he only tolerates other people he tends to stay clear of other people most of the time but I dont know if he would be the same with another kitty or not thank you for your help I really aprushiate it I just dont want to end up haveing to rehome a kitty and mainly to be totally honest because I know I will get to attached to quick I'm such a sucker I really dont wont to be unfair to Jasper or another kitty it really worrys me so I'm just trying to way the odds to see if it is worth the risk you know
post #7 of 17
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Originally Posted by StefanZ
How is Jasper? Is he lively or does he love to lay down and sleep?

If lively you can have a young kitten too.

If sleepy - try to get some more peacefully.
One alternative than could perhaps be to have a grown up cat seeking a new home. Or a grown up cat from a good shelter.
But. Important you know this new cat likes other cats, is friendly with others cats.

In this way it will be almost a sure thing the two cats will be friends.
Jasper is a lazy kitty he likes to lay around and have his tummy rubed he has his moments of crazyness but he is mainly lazy I had not thought of getting an older kitty thats worth some thought thank you for your help it is aprushiated
post #8 of 17
I read something that said if you have an older, less active cat and want to get a kitten, it's actually best to get TWO kittens, that way they can torment each other all day and the older one can join in when he feels like it. So that's another option as well. (That's what we did, and it worked out really well.)

The older cats sure have a hard time getting placed, though; it'd be awesome if you could find a way to take one in.
post #9 of 17
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Originally Posted by evnshawn
I read something that said if you have an older, less active cat and want to get a kitten, it's actually best to get TWO kittens, that way they can torment each other all day and the older one can join in when he feels like it. So that's another option as well. (That's what we did, and it worked out really well.)

The older cats sure have a hard time getting placed, though; it'd be awesome if you could find a way to take one in.
Thanks for your help sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you I dont think I would be able to get 2 kittens but what you say makes a lot of sence we dont have a huge house and I dont let my babys out side at all J has a run but he is never out side un caged or un supervised I like the idea of an older cat I do worry a bit about an older cat I worry he mite not take to an older cat I could be totally wrong I'm flying blind here as we have never been in this position before a wile ago we had a kitten picked out but he was unfortunatly killed before he came to us and I have not had the hart to even think of another kitty since so I really want to get it right you know but I think we have decided to get another cat for sure so now is the hard bit baby or adult ? I'm not sure witch to look at my mother has kittens at the moment so a kitten would be the easy out but I do like the idea of an older kitty so I'll have to think about it a tad more I think

I'll let you guys know what we decide could enyone tell me if they have had the same delemar and if you have what have you done about it ? did you get an older cat ? a yonger cat ? and how has it turned out for you ?
post #10 of 17
Just want to say good luck! This worries me as well. I want to get my cat a kitty companion when I get a job because I won't be with him as much, but I'm really worried one of them won't like the other. Cupid is priority number one, but I want to be fair to the new cat too. I'm also worried I can't love another cat as much as I love Cupid but that's probably just silly. It's a difficult situation. I hope it works out for you and they become the best of buds!
post #11 of 17
How about adopting another cat around Jasper's age from a shelter or something or a person who's cats need a new home. Then you would be a great person for rescuing a cat that may not have a chance otherwise because many people who go to shelters to adopt go for the kittens. Plus Jasper would have a playmate, but due to his age, the playmate won't be a crazy little kitten bouncing off the walls.
post #12 of 17
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Originally Posted by Jaspers Mummy
Hi all it's been awile so hi ok I would really aprushiate some help with makeing up my mind weather or not to get another kitty I have 1 kitty now Jasper he is 7 years old and is a big old mummas boy witch is what is worring me I have room for another kitty and can offord to look after it and all the important stuff Jasper is my only concern is he to old to introduce a play mate ? and if he really dose hate a new kitty what then ? these are the 2 big ones I'm am trying to decide on so any advice would be more than welcome the reason I am thinking of another kitty is for company for him I have started work and think he is spending much to much time alone and I think if I can sucsefully pull it off he would benifite greatly and so would the new kitty as I love my kittys and spoil them rotten I supose my main fear is getting another kitty and finding that he wants nothing to do with it and then I would have to rehome the new kitty and I know that would be really hard cause it takes me all 7 seconds to fall in love with my babies I'm sure you all know what I mean so as said above all opinians welcome I will be back tonight I have to go to work so thanks all in advance

hi
what StefanZ said really makes a lot of sense- if you get a very lively kitten it may drive your poor Jasper nuts wanting to play all the time. esp if Jasper is used to his beauty sleep.
if you adopt an adult cat, it does not have to be as old as Jasper, you could get a 3 yr old even and it would be far less likely to be as crazy as a kitten would. that way Jasper won't be stressed out.


a lot of shelters will have tested the cats personalities and will know which cats should not be placed with other cats, it does not happen a lot but there are some cats who really insist on being only cats.

the idea to borrow someones cat to see how Jasper responds is a good idea too, or maybe foster a cat and that way if it works out maybe you could adopt that cat.

i had the same worries when i got a second cat, i was afraid they would not get along. there was about a month of getting to know each other but after that they were the best of friends, and *i* felt left out!! they only wanted to play with each other!!

good luck whatever you decide
post #13 of 17
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Originally Posted by catnapt
hi
1. what StefanZ said really makes a lot of sense-


2. i had the same worries when i got a second cat, i was afraid they would not get along. there was about a month of getting to know each other but after that they were the best of friends, and *i* felt left out!! they only wanted to play with each other!!
1. Thanks!

2. Oh? This is bothering me! I always though they bind both to each other AND the human MOM/PA.
Are they stil lefting you out of their love??
post #14 of 17
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Originally Posted by StefanZ
1. Thanks!

2. Oh? This is bothering me! I always though they bind both to each other AND the human MOM/PA.
Are they stil lefting you out of their love??

well this cat made a strong bond with my teenage daughter and when she moved out and got her own place, this kitty went with her. they are very close and if i catsit for her sometimes, her kitty gets very depressed missing her mom! so yes she bonded with the other cat and a human, just not me LOL
i am very happy for my daughter though.
and i ended up taking in my sisters elderly cat, who gets along with my other girl, so it worked out well.
post #15 of 17
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Originally Posted by Purr
Just want to say good luck! This worries me as well. I want to get my cat a kitty companion when I get a job because I won't be with him as much, but I'm really worried one of them won't like the other. Cupid is priority number one, but I want to be fair to the new cat too. I'm also worried I can't love another cat as much as I love Cupid but that's probably just silly. It's a difficult situation. I hope it works out for you and they become the best of buds!
Thank you I aprushiate your suport I don't think it's silly to worry I have the exact same fears but I think it is worth the risk I hope you find a nice kitty to
post #16 of 17
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Originally Posted by Jen
How about adopting another cat around Jasper's age from a shelter or something or a person who's cats need a new home. Then you would be a great person for rescuing a cat that may not have a chance otherwise because many people who go to shelters to adopt go for the kittens. Plus Jasper would have a playmate, but due to his age, the playmate won't be a crazy little kitten bouncing off the walls.
Thats exactly what we have decided to do Jen get another cat around his age
post #17 of 17
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Well I would like to start with saying thank you to you all your help has been wounderful and as a result we have decided to go ahead and adopt an older kitty we think it would be easyer for JJ to ajust to an older kitty we have decided to get a female to so we checked out the local RSPCA Adopt A Pet site she will cost us 90 dollars but she will be desexed , wormed , vac's done and she will have been socalised and it also helps with one of my biggest fears if things should go horrably wrong and they can't get along we have the option of returning her knowing that she will be rehomed not that I really expect that to happen the more I think about this the more I can see it working could be just me talking myself into it but I think it will be ok so I will let you all know when we go in it will probably be 2 to 4 weeks from now so I will keep you all up to date thank you all for your help
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