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Would this creep you out?

post #1 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:30am
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A guy that my BF and I know (an aquaintance, not a friend) said something that I found creepy the other day:
HIM: "Did you know that I can see in your window?"
ME: "Huh?"
HIM: "yeah, I was driving by at 2:30 in the morning last Friday and I was going about 55 mph, but I saw your light on and I almost went off the road!"
ME: "Who did you see?"
HIM: "I couldn't tell which one of you it was, but I could see right in your window!"
ME: "Well, its a kitchen window."
HIM: "Yeah, but I could see right in there."

We do have a valance on the window. I like it the way it is. I really don't want to cover it more and I don't walk around naked with the light on. We are on the 2nd floor, and I don't think from that angle anyone could see much. It did cross my mind that he pulled over and watched for awhile. I have heard some not-so-nice rumors about this man.
1) Would this bother you?
2) If it were you would you put up a blind and ruin the look of the window just so people like him won't peek? (or should I say PEEP - as in Tom)
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post #2 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:33am
It depends on who said it as to if it would creep me out. That guy sounds a bit creepy. But I have some strange friends from whom that would just sound sorta... random.

I would really only worry about the window if you have anything valuable (computer, TV, nice painting, etc) that could clearly be seen, or if you would wander by naked.
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post #3 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:37am
Yes, it would creep me out. And since I am a fairly paranoid person, I probably would put some sort of blind up, regardless of how fashionable it may (or may not) look. I don't like the idea of someone possibly stopping to stare, hoping to catch a glimpse of something. It's possible that no one else driving down that road would think of looking over, and he only did because he knows you guys live there. So if I was you, I would weigh those thoughts and decide from there. After all, it's not like it's your bedroom window, right? It's only the kitchen.

Also, I would probably go out there one night, and see what really can be seen from the road. That way, you know what you're really working with.
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post #4 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:47am
I would have told him that what he did made you feel uncofortable! I would see what all he can see from the road and go with your insticts from there. I would also try avoiding this guy as much as possible.
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post #5 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:53am
Dern tootin' that would creep me out!

I will never live in a house that does not have window coverings. We had a big bay window in our kitchen in the house I grew up in. It didn't have window coverings, so at night I'd avoid the kitchen b/c I never knew who could be looking in under the cover of night (sorry, had to get dramatic there ).

I'm a BIG advocate of keeping the blinds closed once it gets dark!
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post #6 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:54am
Nah, I wouldn't put anything up. There are a lot of people in my neighborhood that have windows without coverings because they're big and made not to have them (e.g. two big long ones on either side of the front door), and I look in them when I go down the street too. I don't think it's a big deal unless you walk around naked.

As for his creepy-ness, I guess it depends on the person. If one of my friends said that to me I wouldn't think it was creepy at all, but if a stranger said it to me it would freak me out!
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post #7 of 34
9/19/05 at 11:58am
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Thanks, everyone.
Sofiecusion, If I didn't think he'd enjoy making me uncomfortable, I would. I just got that impression by the way he looked when he was telling me this. I might be reading something into it thats not even there, though. I don't know... And we have lived there for years. He knows this.
Bossinova, I think I will take a look like you said and see what he can actually see.
Eatrawfish, I WISH he would steal my home computer. I've almost dissected it and pounded it with a hammer many times in the past!
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post #8 of 34
9/19/05 at 12:03pm
Well, there is are two alternatives of getting some privacy and not affecting the looks of the windows.

The more drastic one would be a mirror window, although not too sure if that would spoil the look of your window.

The other one is to get a window that is clear but upon a press of a button, it fogs up. It prevents people from seeing in as the changing room in some shops where you try on your clothes is made from such material and it fogs up when you close the door, which I think is pretty darn cool.
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post #9 of 34
9/19/05 at 12:03pm
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Quote:
Originally Posted by ugaimes
Dern tootin' that would creep me out!

I will never live in a house that does not have window coverings. We had a big bay window in our kitchen in the house I grew up in. It didn't have window coverings, so at night I'd avoid the kitchen b/c I never knew who could be looking in under the cover of night (sorry, had to get dramatic there ).

I'm a BIG advocate of keeping the blinds closed once it gets dark!
You might be right, but since its on the 2nd floor, I never thought it was a big deal. I guess I'll look at it from the street and see. Its such a small kitchen its really going to bum me out if I end up covering the window.
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post #10 of 34
9/19/05 at 12:08pm
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Purr
Nah, I wouldn't put anything up. There are a lot of people in my neighborhood that have windows without coverings because they're big and made not to have them (e.g. two big long ones on either side of the front door), and I look in them when I go down the street too. I don't think it's a big deal unless you walk around naked.

As for his creepy-ness, I guess it depends on the person. If one of my friends said that to me I wouldn't think it was creepy at all, but if a stranger said it to me it would freak me out!
I used to think he was creepy before - not really scary though. He's someone we say hi to, but haven't hung around with.
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post #11 of 34
9/19/05 at 12:09pm
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Quote:
Originally Posted by bumpy
Well, there is are two alternatives of getting some privacy and not affecting the looks of the windows.

The more drastic one would be a mirror window, although not too sure if that would spoil the look of your window.

The other one is to get a window that is clear but upon a press of a button, it fogs up. It prevents people from seeing in as the changing room in some shops where you try on your clothes is made from such material and it fogs up when you close the door, which I think is pretty darn cool.
Thanks, Bumpy, but this week I'll be happy if I can afford a mini-blind!
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post #12 of 34
9/19/05 at 12:28pm
I would be freaked out by this freak!
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post #13 of 34
9/19/05 at 1:04pm
If this was a friend of mine, it wouldn't creep me out..Its kind of a strange acquaintance thing to say ,but you would need to use your own judgement on that one..I honestly don't really care if people see me in my kitchen though. The bedroom would be a different matter altogether
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post #14 of 34
9/19/05 at 1:40pm
My neighbor, who went to school with my husband, and only ever comes over here for a favor or to barrow something, said the same thing to me! And yes it creeped me out! He came over when my husband wasnt here and this is how our conversation went:

HIM: You know I can see right in your workroom window and I can see everything your doing.
ME: Oh really.....
HIM: Your usually at your desk working on something
ME: Well, it is my workroom...that's weird you can see me from the street
(the window is at the back side of my house)
HIM:Yup, I can see everything....

Well, this just told me that he stands outside my window and watches me, because I've tried to see in my window from the street and I cant see much. CREEPY!!!!!!!!!
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post #15 of 34
9/19/05 at 1:45pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by ugaimes
Dern tootin' that would creep me out!
Haha!

Yeah, it sounds like you could need some sort of drop down cover for at night - I dont like people being able to see in at night since I sometimes act like a bit of a twit.
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post #16 of 34
9/19/05 at 1:57pm
My motto is "Better safe than sorry" and "Listen to your intuition". If you're getting a bad feeling from this guy I think it's best to cover the window.
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post #17 of 34
9/19/05 at 2:20pm
Whoa. That is truly creepy.
My advice is:
Measure every window in the house.
Go to Lowe's, or Home Depot, or whatever home improvement store is closest.
Buy light-blocking opaque blinds for every window. Aluminum blinds usually are, and some plastic blinds are. The packaging should tell you whether the blind is opaque or not. If they don't have the exact right sizes, ask an employee if they can cut them to fit the window. Most places do this at no extra cost.
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post #18 of 34
9/19/05 at 9:27pm
That's what I did the next morning! I covered every window in the house. It's a shame because I've only got a couple of distant neighbors. I wouldnt have to worry about it if it wasnt for that one creep! I like to see my veiw, even at night as I sit here and work. I have a river with the moon hanging over it, and the moonlight on the water, and shadowed trees.....well, that's what I used to have...now it's a shiny white blind
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post #19 of 34
9/19/05 at 10:19pm
that would creep me out majorly course i have been known to have an adversion to clothing LOL
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post #20 of 34
9/19/05 at 10:57pm
Yeah, definitely a little on the creepy side. We have Hunter Douglas duette blinds, they can open either from the top or the bottom. If you pull them all the way up, then you can see right out the window, but if you just want some privacy but want to let light in, you can pull them down from the top.


(picture from the hunter douglas website--not our house, unfortunately!)

See how they can come down from the top? Its a really nice way to keep people from seeing in while still letting in light. They're a little more expensive than the standard blinds, but worth it, IMHO.
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post #21 of 34
9/20/05 at 1:56am
I'm so glad you went for safety over good looks.

This guy must have gotten very excited when he realized he could see in your window from the street -- and he wanted you to know it, too. It made me wonder if he followed up by checking out your other windows.
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post #22 of 34
9/20/05 at 5:26am
We have a peeping tom.. but we live in the basement. I just put the blinds so no one can see if while I am geting changed, then I open it again so the kitties can look out the window. As far as I know the guy is gone.. the only evidence we had of him was that he was leaving prints in the snow last winter.. can't tell if he's stilll around or not.. but i am thinking that its just the neighbor kid. last winter he had a crush on my sister so -shrugs- We have a fence up now anyway.
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post #23 of 34
9/20/05 at 6:06am
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Thank you all for your comments and advice. I decided that I refuse to let that little twerp intimidate me. I found out that you can see from the street, but you can't see much because it is on the second floor and in the back, making it pretty far from the road. The sink is in front of the window, so unless I'm doing dishes (which is rare, my BF does them) topless, there's nothing to see. Ok - well, there wouldn't be much to see even if I was, but thats another topic.

I talked to my neighbor too, and we decided to confuse the guy. I'm going to ask him "what window were you looking in anyway?" If he says the back one, I'm going to tell him we live in front. My big truck driver neighbor will back me up too.
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post #24 of 34
9/20/05 at 6:57am
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Originally Posted by consumercity
My motto is "Better safe than sorry" and "Listen to your intuition". If you're getting a bad feeling from this guy I think it's best to cover the window.

Exactly what I was going to say..too often I think we ignore our instincts if this guy gives you the creeps pay attention to that feeling.
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post #25 of 34
9/20/05 at 6:34pm
That would totally freak me out. Totally. We live out in the sticks, and my bathroom window has no covering, but you would have to enter our yard and stand between the polebarn and the house to see in. Otherwise, I would cover it with a blind!

But you are brave, and I love your idea of confusing him. Sounds like a good plan! But don't bring it up, it will just let him know you thought about his creepy comment. When he says something again, then go for it!
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post #26 of 34
9/21/05 at 7:54am
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Beckiboo
That would totally freak me out. Totally. We live out in the sticks, and my bathroom window has no covering, but you would have to enter our yard and stand between the polebarn and the house to see in. Otherwise, I would cover it with a blind!

But you are brave, and I love your idea of confusing him. Sounds like a good plan! But don't bring it up, it will just let him know you thought about his creepy comment. When he says something again, then go for it!
Thats the plan! You know, if we were on the 1st floor or if it were some window other than the kitchen, I would feel worse about it. All the rest of the windows already have blinds.
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post #27 of 34
9/21/05 at 8:08am
Are you sure he wasn't telling you to warn you? I mean I would so tell one of my friends if I was worried for their safety. I wouldn't want anyone to see in my house.. sure in the day when the blinds are open but at night that is just too freaky.
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post #28 of 34
9/21/05 at 8:18am
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Quote:
Originally Posted by annabelle33
Are you sure he wasn't telling you to warn you? I mean I would so tell one of my friends if I was worried for their safety. I wouldn't want anyone to see in my house.. sure in the day when the blinds are open but at night that is just too freaky.
It is very possible, but it wasn't the impression I got.
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post #29 of 34
9/23/05 at 10:41am
I wouldn't have been bothered by that comment, but I don't tend to care whether people see me or not. We live in a 3rd floor apartment, with no blinds or curtains on the window and balcony sliding door in the living room and I totally walk around here naked sometimes. I'm very much of the opinion that the naked body is nothing to be ashamed of and isn't always (or even most of the time) sexual in any way, so if some guy or gal wants to stare up at me from the road, that's their perogative. But, obviously, that's just my opinion and everyone has their own comfort level that needs to be met.
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post #30 of 34
9/23/05 at 10:59am
Add me to "completely freak me out"! I stayed with a friend for a while in new york, and they had a window in the shower! With no curtain! The dad told me "Oh it's the second floor, nobody can see in." I didn't beleive him, so I hung my T shirt over the window while I was taking a shower. My bathroom now doesn't have any windows. I hate not having windows covered though. But I'm down to only one blind, and 3 windows, in the living room, because the darn cats and little dog keep tearing them up! I don't want to have to put clothes on to run downstairs real quick in the middle of the night, but I'm not running around naked with my windows uncovered, either! There's way too many perverts around here (registered, that is!), and I'm home alone way too much.

Amber
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