Hiya gang,
I'm feeling so lost at the mo, and could do with some advice. Firstly I upped sticks and left London to move up here to be near my brother, as he is the only family member I get on with, and I missed him and his family so much.
I was really unsure having been born and bred in London, and it was a scary choice to make, but they encouraged us 100% and we made the move, We did say if we come up you won't move away will you, they was like no we love it here, we'll be here for life.
So anyway I now get a phone call, they are moving away, right up north! I feel abandoned, we don't know a soul here, we left our jobs and friends behind and apart from going back to seeing them maybe once or twice a year i'm so angry, I mean of course I want them to be happy but I feel like I made that move and now you're leaving me!
But that's not all
My daughter wants to start a course at college, the only one which has that specific course is 160 miles away, so she will be moving away to study! I know she is 18 now but it feels like my heart has been pulled out my chest! I know you have to let them find their own way in life, but aren't they always your babies?
I have spent nights sobbing myself to sleep, and to make it worse she leaves next sunday, and my brother the week after. She can cook, wash and iron and is responsible and mature and has secured a job for the days she isn't at college, but you can't help worrying, and because we are so close I'm going to miss her so much its tearing me apart
I feel like this isn't a trip and she's coming back, I feel this is the start of her adult life and i'll be lucky to see her a few times a year.
So how did you deal with your children leaving home? did you make them a package with essentials to take with them? did you send them money 'just incase'? and as for my brother issue do I have any right to be upset?
I'd appreciate any views you may have, to help me cope!
I'm feeling so lost at the mo, and could do with some advice. Firstly I upped sticks and left London to move up here to be near my brother, as he is the only family member I get on with, and I missed him and his family so much.
I was really unsure having been born and bred in London, and it was a scary choice to make, but they encouraged us 100% and we made the move, We did say if we come up you won't move away will you, they was like no we love it here, we'll be here for life.
So anyway I now get a phone call, they are moving away, right up north! I feel abandoned, we don't know a soul here, we left our jobs and friends behind and apart from going back to seeing them maybe once or twice a year i'm so angry, I mean of course I want them to be happy but I feel like I made that move and now you're leaving me!
But that's not all
I have spent nights sobbing myself to sleep, and to make it worse she leaves next sunday, and my brother the week after. She can cook, wash and iron and is responsible and mature and has secured a job for the days she isn't at college, but you can't help worrying, and because we are so close I'm going to miss her so much its tearing me apart
So how did you deal with your children leaving home? did you make them a package with essentials to take with them? did you send them money 'just incase'? and as for my brother issue do I have any right to be upset?
I'd appreciate any views you may have, to help me cope!