Originally Posted by Loveysmummy
sorry,didn't think of it that way!! I likely use it as a way to tell myself its "real" or as a way to put it in my face, if you will. I go back and forth between Kubler-Ross' stages I find. One day its denial, then anger, then I might wake up in denial again..The cancer counselor assures this is "normal"..I am going to think about not using that word anymore
Yes, it is indeed normal emotions to go through, it is after all quite a shocker to be told your own mother may not be around for much longer. People grieve in different ways, and there is nothing wrong with that. It is very common and normal to feel the way you do. You'll probably feel other emotions too, as you all go through this process.
I'm so sorry you have to go through all this!
The word "terminal" is of course a word often used by doctors and others when someone is that ill, and it gives a certain idea of the seriousness of her illness. At the same time, I too think it is sad if this is "who she becomes". She is more than "terminal", she's your mother and the same person she used to be, just not as healthy.
This label easily becomes who the person is, when really noone knows how long she'll be around. I think it is sad too, when they give a certain number of days a person has to live; after all, we may all be gone by tomorrow, and if not, many people have lived much longer than anticipated. It's not "wrong" to say "terminal", just a word that can become a label on a person very easily.
I agree with the others; let your mom enjoy caring for a little kitten, it'll bring her so much joy and will help her to focus on something else than "dying".
I think it is important for her own sake, to get a hold of a kitten who is content sleeping on a lap or close to her, so that she may enjoy it still, those last days of her life. I LOOOOVE the idea of letting her have a pet, even if she could not care for it at all; as long as someone is there to take care of the kitty of course...
And don't worry so much about your sister; if she loves cats, I'm sure she'll take good care of the kitty when she gets it. If your mother wants her to have the cat, then just leave that alone and don't worry about it. Honor her wish, and keep the peace in the family. That'll mean a lot to your mother as well, I'm sure! You sound like an awesome daughter, so caring and concerned about her needs!