Hi all,
For those of you who know the story, my mum is very ill with terminal cancer. Though I don't know how long she has, its not very long, relatively..
I am guessing 3-6 months? But I am too chicken to ask my stepfather exact time lines. She doesn't know either.
Anyway, please don't blast me for this inquiry...as I have had a very sensitive day with her..but she voiced to me that she would like a kitten to keep her company and play with...As it is now, she is in bed all day, on and off morphine..She sleeps for a long while but when she is up, she is slow moving, but alert and lucid still. She cannot walk unassisted though.
They are moving into the apartment she will die in next week. Its beautiful, river view and very peaceful..They allow pets.
We had a bit of a talk today about it. SHe hadn't told my stepfather her request yet as he is not a huge cat lover (he does tolerate them, but doesn't LOVE animals as he never had them). As I was leaving, I mentioned it to him. I know he would fulfill any request she wanted. My sister also lives there and she IS a cat lover. And I am there daily as well.
She said her only concern is where it would go when she is gone..She thought of giving it to my sister (to take care of for the rest of its lifetime).
I said that if this was something she wanted, that I am also here to be able to care for the cat while its with her and then take it if my sister can't, when she is gone. SHe said "oh..you have too many.." I said "no, mom , if the cat had nowhere to go, I would be there".
Yes, I did comment that it may be a good idea to adopt an adult cat rather than a kitten due to the commitment and activity level...
She said she would prefer a kitten and nothing seemed to deter her (she simply doesn't like the idea even though I have always done exactly that and she likes my cats and my previous dogs...well, she may be referring to Lovey as he was an adult adopt and is not very friendly with anyone but me..Can be mean even)... I will bring that option up again though.
This was a rash statement but I meant it. I think it would be very good for my mum to have some pet therapy and have a "job" to do..She is a very active and loving woman and I think she feels she has no purpose now..
ANyway, tell me your thoughts on the matter...Just be gentle
Thanks!!
For those of you who know the story, my mum is very ill with terminal cancer. Though I don't know how long she has, its not very long, relatively..
I am guessing 3-6 months? But I am too chicken to ask my stepfather exact time lines. She doesn't know either.
Anyway, please don't blast me for this inquiry...as I have had a very sensitive day with her..but she voiced to me that she would like a kitten to keep her company and play with...As it is now, she is in bed all day, on and off morphine..She sleeps for a long while but when she is up, she is slow moving, but alert and lucid still. She cannot walk unassisted though.
They are moving into the apartment she will die in next week. Its beautiful, river view and very peaceful..They allow pets.
We had a bit of a talk today about it. SHe hadn't told my stepfather her request yet as he is not a huge cat lover (he does tolerate them, but doesn't LOVE animals as he never had them). As I was leaving, I mentioned it to him. I know he would fulfill any request she wanted. My sister also lives there and she IS a cat lover. And I am there daily as well.
She said her only concern is where it would go when she is gone..She thought of giving it to my sister (to take care of for the rest of its lifetime).
I said that if this was something she wanted, that I am also here to be able to care for the cat while its with her and then take it if my sister can't, when she is gone. SHe said "oh..you have too many.." I said "no, mom , if the cat had nowhere to go, I would be there".
Yes, I did comment that it may be a good idea to adopt an adult cat rather than a kitten due to the commitment and activity level...
She said she would prefer a kitten and nothing seemed to deter her (she simply doesn't like the idea even though I have always done exactly that and she likes my cats and my previous dogs...well, she may be referring to Lovey as he was an adult adopt and is not very friendly with anyone but me..Can be mean even)... I will bring that option up again though.
This was a rash statement but I meant it. I think it would be very good for my mum to have some pet therapy and have a "job" to do..She is a very active and loving woman and I think she feels she has no purpose now..
ANyway, tell me your thoughts on the matter...Just be gentle
Thanks!!
