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Ever get a "bad feeling" about someone??

post #1 of 27
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Have you ever met someone and you had a "bad feeling" about them from the get-go. There's this guy that comes into my workplace and from the moment he spoke the first word to me, he terrifies me. He is a normal, ordinary guy. Whenever he comes around, I get panicky inside and just want to run. I don't know why. His presence really creeps me out. I really think it is my "woman's intuition" letting me know to steer clear of this guy. Anyone ever experienced anything like this?? Did the person turn out to be bad??
post #2 of 27
It could be that your intuition is telling you something you need to pay attention to, or it could also be that your subconsciously transfering some feelings onto this person based on past situations or events. Sometimes we feel a certain way about a person before we even know who they are because they remind us of someone or something that we may not even recognize. The next time he comes in really pay attention to your feelings and whether it is a case of intuition or if there's a chance it could be transference. Both are totally possible, and transference is certainly a very common experience. If you're having feelings that he could be dangerous, just make sure that you do whatever you can to feel safe around this person. I hope he turns out to be all right for you Kelly!
post #3 of 27
Most serial killers were the average, unassuming run-of-the-mill type guys. Hopefully this dude is not a serial killer or anything else, but trust your instinct! Women's instinct is a wonderful gift that we've been given! Do you guys have security guards in Belk?

I had a feeling just from our phone conversations before I even met the chick that my new coworker and I would not work well together. But I said, "Naw, I'm being paranoid, I'll give her a chance." Turns out I was right all along .
post #4 of 27
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Originally Posted by ugaimes
Most serial killers were the average, unassuming run-of-the-mill type guys. Hopefully this dude is not a serial killer or anything else, but trust your instinct! Women's instinct is a wonderful gift that we've been given! Do you guys have security guards in Belk?

I had a feeling just from our phone conversations before I even met the chick that my new coworker and I would not work well together. But I said, "Naw, I'm being paranoid, I'll give her a chance." Turns out I was right all along .
There is ONE security person at any time there. And they're mostly watching for shoplifters . Luckily, I only have 6 days left to work at Belk. Then it's on to my next job! Hopefully I won't run into this guy anywhere else.

I don't know what it is about this guy. He comes out to Belk about 3 days a week and NEVER buys anything or even looks at stuff to buy. He just walks around (maybe for exercise, maybe not, I don't know). If I'm behind a rack straightening and I see him, I'll duck down so that he doesn't see me. I've never hidden from anyone. I'm definitely trusting my instincts----I don't get this feeling often.
post #5 of 27
Yeah, trust your woman's intuition. Had I trusted mine in the past I'd not have gotten involved with such angry, psychotic or otherwise mentally disturbed men.

But yes trust what you FEEL, woman! We have that intuition for a reason! And stay safe.
post #6 of 27
I'm glad you're trusting your instincts This guy does sound creepy. It is just not NORMAL to go to a department store 3 times a week just to walk around (unless you're me and that store happens to be a jewelry store and you're just there to fantasize about engagement rings....*sigh* )

When you walk out to your car, is there any way you can get an escort? If you do have to walk to your car alone, be aware of your surroundings and do NOT talk on your cell phone while you walk out there. Rapists (hopefully he's not one, but you never know) look for women who are distracted and talking on a cell phone is the #1 distraction they look for. Walk with your keys sticking out between your knuckles (to slash if you have to). Also, a little bottle of hairspray makes a great stand-in for mace!
post #7 of 27
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Originally Posted by ugaimes
I'm glad you're trusting your instincts This guy does sound creepy. It is just not NORMAL to go to a department store 3 times a week just to walk around (unless you're me and that store happens to be a jewelry store and you're just there to fantasize about engagement rings....*sigh* )

When you walk out to your car, is there any way you can get an escort? If you do have to walk to your car alone, be aware of your surroundings and do NOT talk on your cell phone while you walk out there. Rapists (hopefully he's not one, but you never know) look for women who are distracted and talking on a cell phone is the #1 distraction they look for. Walk with your keys sticking out between your knuckles (to slash if you have to). Also, a little bottle of hairspray makes a great stand-in for mace!
I have pepper spray on my keychain and I always carry that in my hand when i walk out. Most of the time, everyone that closes at night walks out together. If I miss the "herd" I'll wait and walk out with the manager on duty. I never walk out alone, there's nothing as creepy as walking in a poorly lit parking lot alone at night.

Good advice about the cell phone. I never thought of that.

Thanks for all the advice, guys!
post #8 of 27
Have you reported this guy to security at all? I would esp if you see him alot and he never buys anything.
post #9 of 27
I absolutely trust my instincts, I am convinced they have saved my life at least once.

It makes me shudder to think of it.

Ugh.
post #10 of 27
ditto what all have said.. trust you inticts..
post #11 of 27
Sounds suspicious. Give the security guy a heads up the next time he comes in. Explain that he never buys anything etc. It couldn't hurt.
post #12 of 27
I used to work in a video rental store about two years ago and I'd work from 11am to 10pm 5 days a week so it was always dark when I finished.

There was this one guy who used to come in about once a week and rent movies. He was middle aged, normally dressed just normal really but he gave me the creeps. Every time he'd come in he'd ask if we had Bonnie & Clyde in yet (the movie lol) I used to hate talking to him *shivers* anyway one week I was sick and another girl took over my shift...he came in a asked where I was she said I was sick and off he went. When she was closing up she noticed him hanging about in a nearby side street this creeped her out so she went back in and called her boyfriend, he came to walk her home, and he said he saw this guy staring at the shop *shivers* so after that I totally trusted my gut about people and the guy was banned from the shop and had a caution by the police. He may have been harmless but you never know.
post #13 of 27
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Originally Posted by Kellyyfaber
"woman's intuition"
With all respect to you Kellye,... I don´t have...........you know... ..... ......
post #14 of 27
YES!!! Some people just give off that vibe. I always trust my instinct about things...
post #15 of 27
Yes, trust your instincts. I like most everyone, but occasionally I will just NOT, for no obvious reason. When I was a kid, my oldest sister got married (2nd time) to a guy I just didn't like. He just gave me the creeps for some reason. Turns out he was molesting her daughter from a previous marriage.

One of our execs at work gives me the same feelings. I just don't like him. Most others do ... I just don't, and I can't explain it. So I am always polite and respectful to him, but never in a million years would I want to be his direct report OR, say, get in a car with him.

OTOH, I don't like my father, and so I am also inclined not to like men who remind me of him, usually in the way they look or carry themselves. I can recognize that tendency for what it is, though. Not quite the same thing as instinct.
post #16 of 27
I've never thought about the mobile phone thing. If I'm out late and walking to my car, I always pretend someone's on the phone because I figured that if he thought I was talking to someone and they heard me scream, they'd call 911.

Trust your instincts. I was almost kidnapped twice when I was a child, and my instincts are what saved me both times.
post #17 of 27
Yes... I am usually right!
post #18 of 27
Trust them. Always trust them. My instincts saved me from being in NY for 9/11
post #19 of 27
I have found that my first instincts are usually correct. If someone makes the hair on the back of my neck stand up, there has always turned out to be a reason.
Please be very careful if this guy is giving you the creeps. There is probably a good reason.
post #20 of 27
Like everyone else, I'd tell you to trust your instincts. There is something that is causing you to feel this way, and I doubt that it is imagined. Be careful.
post #21 of 27
The thing about instincts is that they are not necessarily as random as they seem. I believe mostly they are built on things we notice subconsciously; most of the processing in your brain occurs under the surface. So when people say, "Trust your instincts," what they're really saying is, "Trust your brain to process this stuff without your conscious attention." Brains are good at that. It's what they do.
post #22 of 27
Yes, Trust your instincts. They can never streer you wrong. Whenever I have that feeling, I'm usually right about it. Please be careful.
post #23 of 27
I do get "vibes" from people - and my instincts are almost always right. I have seen some scary people - and I see ppl from all walks of life in my work and I can aways tell the ones who will be hard to cope with.
post #24 of 27
It's not purely intuition with such relevant observation Kelly. Anyone who comes into a store 3 times a week without even looking at anything is up to no good.
post #25 of 27
I met a guy my friend was just starting to date once. I was a little drunk and very loud about how I DID NOT like him much. Should have been embarrassed by being so vocal, except it turned out when things went south that he told everyone where they'd both worked that SHE was a stalker; plus he also had a criminal record. The mother of his children, whom I later met, was putting their daughter in a car and he tried to break the glass to keep her from leaving - never mind the little girl was behind the window he was trying to bust. So yeah, trust those instincts. My friend was totally wary after I told her how I felt and did some checking him out at the P.D. and that's how she knew to try and ditch the creep. If your feelings are that strong, something's surely wrong.
post #26 of 27
You keep your eye on him. Bad or not, a feeling like that shoul never be ignored.
post #27 of 27
I often get "bad vibes" from people, and generally just steer clear of them by going with my instincts. Even from passing someone on the street, I can get creeped out at times.
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