Originally Posted by emb_78
My husband and I just "celebrated" our 2 year anniversary on Tuesday. We have been together for 9 years total... I don't know what to do anymore. We don't make enough money to live... We bicker all the time. Never really say I love you any more. We are in cousiling but it doesn't seem to be working.. All of our problems seem to be about money!!!
I don't know what to do anymore... My parents have helped us out sooo much. The cats aren't an issue beause I get vet care discounts. I hate life!!! We never talk, and if we do it isn't like people in love do!
oh boy, my husband and i went through a very tough patch involving money...or lack of and it wasn't easy at all.
With the money issues, we brought stuff from garage sales, renovated it and resold which made us enough to get by.
When a money issue comes along, even if your husband argues with you about it, try to just talk to him in a civil way about the issues then tell him you love him and that you will always be supportive no matter what, try doing special things like cook his favorite dinner,give him a massage, go places that don't cost money, wine tours are a good one, the beach, picnics...anything that involves just the two of you, we had absolutely no money and it was hard sometimes, i was tempted to argue when my husband got upset but i found that if i was just loving and supportive then he wouldn't get so upset either.
also, try to work together on ways you can make some extra cash, we used garage sales as i mentioned above but there are plenty of other ways, does your husband or you have a talent that could make money? my husband would build things and sell them too, like tables and chairs....it didn't generate a lot of money but it helped a bit
above all, stick together as a team, having no money is hard enough when you have someone but a lot harder when you are trying to deal with it alone, if you pull together and your relationship improves then the other problems won't be so heartbreaking.
it is a very difficult thing to go through, goodluck and if you need to chat, pm me