Originally Posted by Cynthi
I will be taking Madison back to the vet. She is diabetic. My boyfriend loves cats. He brought his now 23-year-old neutered male with him. (Xon makes 5)
Ah-ha, that tells us a lot!!
I know you've had Madison for 7 years, but calicos are usually very guarded, shy, a little aloof. Believe me, I've learned this from my 3.5 y/o girl, Cassie (also a typical calico cat-titude).
I'm not sure if your boyfriend is the "problem" per se in this scenario. Are the new cats left alone a lot during the day? Have they been properly introduced? Meaning, did you keep them separated and slowly integrate them? Keep in mind, Madison is used to being the queen of her domain, now a foreign element is being introduced, not to mention she has to *share* you with your b.f now
Def take her to the vet to rule out any illness. But it sounds to me like she is just scared, and needs some extra TLC.
In the meantime, keep her separated with her own food, water, toys, cat box, bed, etc and have your boyfriend start talking to her, giving her treats, feeding her, so she can gain his trust.
My Cassie was extremely bonded with my boyfriend Charlie, then again, he found her. But she is extremely protective of him too. I mean, he and I would snuggle on the couch, and she would get JEAL-OUS (and she's known me since she was a baby too!). So someone recommended we introduce a cat to her, and we have brought Napoleon into our lives. OK this is a LOT of work...lots of play therapy with the cats, spirit essences, food treats, extra TLC. Cassie has gone from sick to depressed to happy to guarded to shy to b*tchy with Napoleon...and hasn't found a happy medium LOL! I will be happy when she's her normal aloof self again.
It's a lot of work, but worth it, because I have two sweet kitties
Good luck to you, your boyfriend and to Madison.