Lonely Siamese, is it too late for a mate?

My traditional siamese is 6 years old. Its always been the three of us, Buka, me, and my husband. Recently the husband and I split, he moved out. I started working a lot of hours and spending lots of time with friends. I'm hardly ever home. Buka is very unhappy. He's home alone a lot. I always have the radio on when I'm home. So when I am not home I leave it on for Buka. Some times the TV too. I don't know if this helps.

Buka and I are very close. We sleep side by side everynight. When I am home I try to spend every minute with him. What can I do? I feel so bad. Is it too late for a mate for him? Is he too old. Would he reject a young kitten? Or how about an older siamese? I heard that you can't introduce a new cat to them if their older than 2 years of age. Is this true? Please help my lonely boy, Buka.

No, I really dont think theres a definate rule with the meezers. I know that they are very social cats. You may want to give it a try. I know that they can be picky, but if your cat is that lonley it may be a good idea. A kitten may be an easier adjustment. I will have to ask the breeder I know what she thinks.

I have to disagree with Sandie on the kitten thing - I think a younger cat (female) would be an easier adjustment for your kitty and a better companion once they get used to each other. A kitten might drive him nuts. With my rescues if there is only one other cat in the household of the potential adopter, it depends on the age of the cat as to what I suggest. A cat under two would probably like a kitten or under a year kitty - but a six year old would probably enjoy a 4 to 5 year old friend. Just do not get an older cat as your first cat must be the boss as he is your "first born" so to speak. Where do you live? There are a lot of breeders that have cats that they are willing to place for the price of altering - I have some Siamese and Orientals on my website that are available in New Jersey - Siamese are very social and I am sure he would like a companion. It would not take away from his love for you either - but when you are at work, or if you eventually choose to go out on an evening, you won't have to feel guilty if your kitty has a friend.

Im going to try and find a female companion for my Siamese.
Some one he can play with. Buka is a 6 year old traditional Siamese seal point. I prefer traditional looking Siamese. 5 years or younger. I live in Albany, NY. If anyone knows of a Breeder in this area, please let me know. Thanks

Jennifer and Buka

I assume he is neutered and looking for a striclty Platonic relationship ?

Then I'll be moving this thread to the behavior forum if you don't mind. It's a great question and some important advice that would help lots of people (not just those with Meezers )

Yes, of course he's nuetered.

I am a firm believer in having at least 2 cats together in a household rather than a lonely one. I have an 11 year old, a 3 year old and a 1 1/2 year old (the only male). It's surprising how the 11 yr old (Callie, a long-haired calico with an ATTITUDE) has accepted Sam (Siamese Lynxpoint), the youngest. They chase each other up and down stairs (sometimes in the middle of the night) but it is play. It took a while for Callie to accept the other two but she has taken on more energy because of them. I have noticed that Callie tolerates the 3 year old (Katie, part Siamese) but doesn't play with her altho she is very easy going and laid back (good for Sam who is really hyper).

I think you should have a friend for Buka, perhaps half-grown, and I think a female would be easier for him to accept. Just let him get used to another kitty in the house very gradually. I put up a screen door fitted to my den and that was the new kitty's home for a couple of weeks. The other cats could see the new one and could come up to the screen and hiss but then, they came up to the screen out of curiosity. Then I left the screen partially open so the new one could come out or run back in, if necessary. Didn't take long at all.

Hope you have a big bed because I have a twin and with all three cats on it at night, sometimes I cannot move (but I love it). Good luck.