What gender is more friendly towards people?

I've always had male cats and all of them have loved being pet. I just recently adopted a female kitten and she'll let you pet her for just a minute before she starts to growl and tries to attack you. I was just wondering if female cats tend to be less friendly than male cats or maybe it's the type of breed she is, a calico/tabby mix I believe, or maybe it's just her own individual personality. Any thoughts from people that have owned both genders of cats might know something about this, thanks.

None.
This is a very widespread stereotype.
Properly loved and nurtured cats of any gender can be just as loving and affectionate as any other cat.
Some cats just don't want that much attention.

As far as kittens go, think of it like this, how many toddlers want to be held and cuddled a lot?
Not many. They want to explore and play and test their limits and boundaries.

I have 6 cats, 3 males, 3 females, I have lovey males and lovey females, I have an aloof male and two females that are in between the two extremes.

I dont think it goes off gender, more off personality. Calico's are known for being temperamental though. I have only met 4, but not been able to pick any of them up for long periods of time.

It is definitely based on the individual cat. In my own experience, the female cats I've been around tend to bond more with one person, whereas the males are often more likely to treat everyone equally.

You can probably get her most accustomed to being held and petted if now you always stop short of the point where she gets annoyed and let her go. Then, hopefully, you can gradually increase it. The problem is that now she associates it with getting overstimulated and annoyed and it turns into an unpleasant experience, one that she's not interested in extending. If you can always make it pleasant for her, do it on her terms, then she might be more willing as time goes on.

It's all the luck of the draw with cats. I've had many males and females throughout the years and they've all been different with people. Tigger was a male and he loved everyone. Reilly on the other hand will hiss and run away. Same thing with the females I've had....you just never know

I tend to think each cat is different. When my cat was young he was fairly aloof, unless he wanted to play. But now that he is a senior all he wants to do is cuddle.

The female cat we had several years ago, was very affectionate towards adults. She did not care for children though and tended to ignore them. She did not growl or attack though.

My vet said that males tend to be more affectionate because of their nature of not having to be the providers for their young. I guess a male wild cat exists solely to lure the females and be attracters. haha. My vet also noted that calicos tend to have some issues and he can't figure out why. He says the best cats are your domestic orange kitties, gray tabbies, and black/white or black kitties.

We have three kittens, two male orange and white tabbies, and one female gray tabby. The males are very affectionate to both hubby and I, while the female is definitely my hubby's cat, from day one. She picked him at the adoption home. She will cuddle up to me, but only when he is not home. When he was out of state last week, the first day she bit me twice. I imagine she thought that I did him in!!!

Ah I'll have to say my boy cats are the friendliest.

I have 3 boys & 3 girls; all fixed!!! So hormones don't play a role in the amount of lovin' they give... it's all in their personalities.

I come home and find Hammie, Snickers and Zorro waiting for me. They all three do figure-8's around my legs, climb up & trill and meow and cry. They greet everyone & follow people into bathrooms, etc.

My girlcats are picky. Jessie stays away from strangers, hates my mother; and runs from my daughter. K.C. only comes near ME and me alone. And Dusty, while she loves people and swats at the other cats, is very loving ... but picky about who she loves.

My boys aren't picky. They'll give love & crawl all over anyone!!!

For me, when I went and picked out Harley, (he had 2 other sisters) he was the only friendly one, the other 2 females didn't like to be petted and would run away when you would try to pet or hold them. The mother is the same way, very un-social! But then there is Harley who loves to be loved all the time! I'm sure that all kitties are different but thats my experience! We have a family friend who has a male as well who is very un-social, so it has to depend on the cat!

My kitty Gracie was very unfriendly at first, though thats because my dad found her in a dumpster. But she ended up warming up to everyone. She is a very loving cat now, and follows people around..

Just give your kitty some time, and she should warm up to everyone :3

Originally Posted by booktigger

I dont think it goes off gender, more off personality. Calico's are known for being temperamental though. I have only met 4, but not been able to pick any of them up for long periods of time.

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I had never heard this about Calicos. Luckily I didn't hear this before I got my beatiful Calico (Callie, now 4 months), or I may not have adopted her. She loves to cuddle and give kisses, which is one of the reasons we adopted her (at the shelter she started giving kisses, purring like crazy, etc). She's the most affectionate cat my husband and I have ever had (when we were younger we both had cats, and we have cats together)