omg guess what

I have a boyfriend!! His name is Brett and he lives in California. He's into the same music as me and he is just soooooooo sweet!!

Great!!, congrats on the new guy!

Good luck with the new beau!

Awesome! Have you met him?

That's great!

A cat person too?

Originally Posted by yayi

A cat person too?

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Yes and he likes dogs too!! I asked him if it was okay that I have a cat and I even told him that my baby comes first ALWAYS and he said "That's cool!"

Originally Posted by WellingtonCats

Awesome! Have you met him?

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Nope I talked to him on the phone. So when I get done with school and everything he's buying me a plane ticket to head over there. He's sooooo sweet!!

Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl

Nope I talked to him on the phone. So when I get done with school and everything he's buying me a plane ticket to head over there. He's sooooo sweet!!

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How old is he?

Congratulations!

I know you have probably heard all the warnings, but just in case......
I am assuming you met this guy online. Please be very careful about giving him any personal information about where you live, go to school etc. I am not saying that it isn't possibly to meet someone great online but you need to take precautions to make sure that you are safe just in case....

That being said, I am happy for you and hope it works out great

Originally Posted by Purr

How old is he?

Congratulations!

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He's 17

Originally Posted by squirtle

I know you have probably heard all the warnings, but just in case......
I am assuming you met this guy online. Please be very careful about giving him any personal information about where you live, go to school etc. I am not saying that it isn't possibly to meet someone great online but you need to take precautions to make sure that you are safe just in case....

That being said, I am happy for you and hope it works out great

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I know I was careful before I told him everything. I heard his mom talking to him so it's not a rapist lol

I double agree with Tanya's warning. I suppose if you are going to hang out on a website with mostly adults, you are going to get parental advice. I wouldn't call anyone a boyfriend who did not live somewhere where I could actually meet him and have my parents meet him. There are way too many people in the online world pretending to be someone they aren't. Sounds like a pretty big promise that he is flying you out to California. Have you informed YOUR parents of this boyfriend? They deserve to be in the loop so that they can look out for your safety.

I agree with Deb, you need to tell your parents about this guy even if you are waiting until you are done with school and 18 to fly out to see him. Someone would need to know where you are and what your plans are.

Also, are you saying that you all ready gave him your personal information??? If so, now might be a good time to have that talk with your parents. Just because you heard his parents yelling at him still doesn't mean that he isn't up to no good. You would be amazed at what people go through to disguise who they really are.

Holy smokes! I hope you are not going to take him up on that trip? I really would not like to hear about you on Unsolved Mysteries, or American Justice.

Just because the guy has a mom, doesn't make him less dangerous! Even rapists and perverts have families.

Are you that much alone that you would drop everything and fly to some place you have probably never been before just to meet a 17 year old guy?

Pardon me, but you have the rest of your life to meet guys. And if this guy is being used by someone older to lure girls in- what then? Have you told your parents about him? Have they talked to his parents on the phone? Exchanged emails, contacted authorities to see if he has a record?

You really need to think before you act here. I know you are young, but try to think clearly before jumping head-first into a relationship with someone you barely know!

I met my husband through a personal ad over 25 years ago BUT I had been divorced and settled in my life and we wrote for four years before even meeting each other. We took it slow and so should you-

I would suggest that he use the money to come visit you, and your family, so he can meet all of you. My thinking is that a "nice" boy would not mind that kind of restriction. You must be very careful these days!

Yeah I was worried about all the legal side of stuff too. How long have you known him for?

Originally Posted by kluchetta

I would suggest that he use the money to come visit you, and your family, so he can meet all of you. My thinking is that a "nice" boy would not mind that kind of restriction. You must be very careful these days!

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I agree - its a good idea if he comes to you. If you want to go to Cali for a visit, you can do that AFTER he comes to you and visits you and you see what he's like.

Even me, at 31 years old and lots of experience, I wouldn't go. I would get him to come to me.

I promise I'm not trying to be negative - I do know internet relationships that have worked out and I'm not dissing you and him, but just giving you "big sister" advice k?

I'm the one that said I go to him. Because I'd rather live there then here.

So you are just going to ignore the warnings that you were given here by people concerned for your well-being?