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post #1 of 23
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tonight will be the first night that i have spent on my own and i mean in my entire life

Jeff has to pick up out other car in the city and it's filled with stuff so there will hardly be enough room for him, he wants to do it up and sell it so we can put the money in our house deposit account.

i know most people have spent at least one night by themselves at the age of 25 but i haven't and i know it's kind of silly but i feel a tiny bit nervous

i think i'll sleep on the futon after watching a few movies, maybe i'll fall asleep quicker that way...

i feel so silly lol but iv'e never done this before...i do have bonnie, pandy and anassa so i guess i'm not really alone
post #2 of 23
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Originally Posted by pandybear
tonight will be the first night that i have spent on my own and i mean in my entire life

Jeff has to pick up out other car in the city and it's filled with stuff so there will hardly be enough room for him, he wants to do it up and sell it so we can put the money in our house deposit account.

i know most people have spent at least one night by themselves at the age of 25 but i haven't and i know it's kind of silly but i feel a tiny bit nervous

i think i'll sleep on the futon after watching a few movies, maybe i'll fall asleep quicker that way...

i feel so silly lol but iv'e never done this before...i do have bonnie, pandy and anassa so i guess i'm not really alone
Don't feel silly. I'm 34 and have only done it a handful of times, if you don't count when my husband was working nights. It just so happens I've never lived alone.

Oh, what I wouldn't give for a night by myself right about now. Enjoy it—you can do whatever you want. Totally relax.
post #3 of 23
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Originally Posted by evnshawn
Don't feel silly. I'm 34 and have only done it a handful of times, if you don't count when my husband was working nights. It just so happens I've never lived alone.

Oh, what I wouldn't give for a night by myself right about now. Enjoy it—you can do whatever you want. Totally relax.

Thankyou

i guess i never thought of it that way, i was too busy thinking how much i'd miss jeff but i don't have to cook him dinner, bring him a drink or anything, and i can eat whatever i want....plus watch whatever i want...hmmm, this is sounding okay

i might crack open a bottle of wine too, oh and some catnip for the kits
post #4 of 23
Maybe a nice long bubblebath? Enjoy yourself! You can even stay up late on TCS!
post #5 of 23
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Originally Posted by Beckiboo
Maybe a nice long bubblebath? Enjoy yourself! You can even stay up late on TCS!
a bubblebath sounds nice!


i probably will stay on TCS late tonight...if you see me lurking at 3am, i probably couldn't sleep.....either that or i had too much wine
post #6 of 23
ooo ooo ooo! you can pee with the door open!! and dance around in your underwear! i cant wait to dance around in my underwear to some upber girly music when i move out!!!
post #7 of 23
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Originally Posted by ilovejoelyo
ooo ooo ooo! you can pee with the door open!! and dance around in your underwear! i cant wait to dance around in my underwear to some upber girly music when i move out!!!



i already pee with the door open!...well, sometimes

plus i will be able to listen to girly music and not get complained at....hmmm, dancing around in underwear....will depend on how happy the wine makes me
post #8 of 23
You can stretch out across the bed and read till 2AM and eat chocolate!
post #9 of 23
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Originally Posted by jennyranson
You can stretch out across the bed and read till 2AM and eat chocolate!
oh all of this is sounding marvellous - hey do you think your husband can take my husband with him?
post #10 of 23
Hey Felicia,

My friend is 29 this year, she has been married for 4 years and still can't be alone in the flat when her husband is out working at night... She has to go to her parents house down the road.... So I really wouldn't worry, I expect it's quite common and normal to be afraid, especially if you have not been alone before.

Before I bought my flat where I live alone now, I was renting a flat with a friend and she used to stay away at her boyfriends a lot. I used to get so scared at being alone that I also started going to my parents at night time. I eventually got used to being alone and when I bought this place, my sister offered to stay with me the first night but I turned her down and said, No, I have to live here alone for however long so it's best to get the first night over with. I woke up only 2 times that first night and then after that, I have never been scared here

I hope you are okay
post #11 of 23
I am looking around for my own appartment to live alone with teufel, im really scared to make that step and i know i will be scared in the night time
post #12 of 23
I thought I'd be scared on my own, but to be honest I feel safer and more secure in my own home than I did when I was still living with my Dad.

Being on your own is great - you can get a pizza and a tub of Hagan Daaz, lay in the bath with your ice cream and your music on loud, followed by curling up in bed with a good book, and not having to worry about stretching out or someone else snoring!!
post #13 of 23
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Originally Posted by Purity
Being on your own is great - you can get a pizza and a tub of Hagan Daaz, lay in the bath with your ice cream and your music on loud, followed by curling up in bed with a good book, and not having to worry about stretching out or someone else snoring!!
I love it!!!. As long as i set the house alarm before i go to bed i'm fine!
post #14 of 23
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Originally Posted by Gilly
Hey Felicia,

My friend is 29 this year, she has been married for 4 years and still can't be alone in the flat when her husband is out working at night... She has to go to her parents house down the road.... So I really wouldn't worry, I expect it's quite common and normal to be afraid, especially if you have not been alone before.

Before I bought my flat where I live alone now, I was renting a flat with a friend and she used to stay away at her boyfriends a lot. I used to get so scared at being alone that I also started going to my parents at night time. I eventually got used to being alone and when I bought this place, my sister offered to stay with me the first night but I turned her down and said, No, I have to live here alone for however long so it's best to get the first night over with. I woke up only 2 times that first night and then after that, I have never been scared here

I hope you are okay
thankyou gilly,

i still feel a little nervous but i'll be fine after a glass of wine and a good movie...nothing too scary lol i also had sushi for dinner and only had to share it with pandy

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oh all of this is sounding marvellous - hey do you think your husband can take my husband with him?
unfortionately he's already left



thankyou all for your reply's, it really has made a difference and i feel a lot better too
post #15 of 23
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Originally Posted by fwan
I am looking around for my own appartment to live alone with teufel, im really scared to make that step and i know i will be scared in the night time
You're going to do SO GREAT Fran, I promise Personally, I think everyone should live alone at least once before they are married...gives you a different perspective on life and you always know that you can make it on your own no matter what. Anyway, sorry for the thread hijack.

How did your night go Fe?
post #16 of 23
My husband is a truck driver, nights alone are a big part of my life! I see it as time to watch what I WANT on TV, and fix things he doesn't like for dinner! It gets hard sometimes, but I get by. You'll be fine, just be thankful he's not a truck driver. I haven't seen my hubby since Sunday morning around 5am, and it will probably be another 3-5 days yet, before I see him again.

Amber
post #17 of 23
OOOOOOOH I LOOOOOOOOVE BEING HOME ALONE!!!!!!! Here's what I do:

~Turn the music up as loud as it will go and have a blast singing at the top of my lungs while sock dancing!
~Take a nice hot relaxing bath with the door wide open and the music still going (sometimes Jack Daniels will lay by the tub with me)
~Spend many hours on the computer until I get bored with it.
~Watch movies until I get bored with it

and at 6 am I go to bed!!
post #18 of 23
Oh and if it's not too terribly late I'll call my girlfriends and spend hours on the phone talking about boys and music!!
post #19 of 23
I LOVE time to myself in the house. When hubby first spent a night away on business I was really nervous. But now I really enjoy that time. Like others have said, if I was going to spend the night on my own or just with daughter, we might as well make a girly time of it.

I hope that your night went well and got to all those things you really enjoy.
post #20 of 23
I enjoy being home along!!!
I buy a good bottle of wine and some junk food. Rent a chick flick movie (or 2).
Have the "bed" kinda of by myself.
Its heaven!!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #21 of 23
Yeah actually, adding to my earlier post I do enjoy living alone too! You can get lonely sometimes, but I always find that I have things to do around the place and in the garden! And Guin snuggles up in the double bed with me
post #22 of 23
Living alone is way more fun than you may think. I LOVE being alone when I get home from work or just spending time with my kits, just me and them. Enjoy this opportunity to do all sorts of crazy things for an entire night, all by yourself!!
post #23 of 23
hey I'm 25 and I've stayed alone maybe 10 times in my life if that. I hate staying alone.
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