I have a VERY alpha male red tabby, he's about 2 years old and he's ALWAYS been "the baby" and "the only child." Last year I got an older male who was very, very sweet. I kept them in separate rooms, tried the rub-the-towel/exchange-scents thing for a couple of weeks. My red tabby was so upset that he wouldn't come out from under the couch...for 2 weeks. When he did, he'd hiss at the crack at the bottom of the door in new kitty's room.
He was so agitated that I had to give the new cat away to a friend, and now he lives a fairy tale life on a farm in the country.
I really, really want another cat. I thought that if I got a younger female, instead of an older male, that maybe my kitty will accept her. I want to get a kitten, but I am worried that my cat might hurt her if he feels threatened. Are cats like this "all talk and no action" or do I have something to worry about? Are these alpha male-type cats generally pacified with smaller, less threatening, female kittens? I don't want to get another cat and then have to give it away!! But I don't want my cat to be upset, I want this to be a smooth transition so that everyone is happy.
Advice, please???
I really, really want another cat. I thought that if I got a younger female, instead of an older male, that maybe my kitty will accept her. I want to get a kitten, but I am worried that my cat might hurt her if he feels threatened. Are cats like this "all talk and no action" or do I have something to worry about? Are these alpha male-type cats generally pacified with smaller, less threatening, female kittens? I don't want to get another cat and then have to give it away!! But I don't want my cat to be upset, I want this to be a smooth transition so that everyone is happy.
Advice, please???