Todays radio question: 08/23/05

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Do you think men still practice common courtesies for women, ex: opening doors, helping on with coats, etc.

For me, NO! Not my Jerry anyway. He's a great guy, but has no gentlemanly traits at all!
 
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Originally Posted by flisssweetpea

Hubby does - always walks on the roadside of the pavement, opens doors etc. So do most of the guys I work with.
That's great Beth. My father always was a gentleman.........
 

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My father, yes. My husband, not a chance. Even when I was hobbling on crutches or a cane with my sprained ankle (OK, I'm actually still hobbling, but it's a lot better now than it was in the first couple weeks), do you think he could hold open a door for me? Nope.
 

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Yes- I do think some guys still do it, but it is not as prevalent as it used to be.
 

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Originally Posted by valanhb

do you think he could hold open a door for me? Nope.
I would say that's grounds for divorce!!!



I have seen some men still observe the common courtesies. but my husband isn't one of them either!
 

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Depends on the guy and his priorities!

Bradley isn't big on opening the car door for me (he does it every so often) but makes up for it by being kind, thoughtful, funny, romantic, and all-around wonderful

He would open doors for me, etc. if he knew it was a big deal for me. But it isn't, so he can focus his energies elsewhere.
 

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Yah it depends on the guy... some just don't have any respect for women.

The gentlemen who DO respect women do all the nice, courtly things.

Women deserve tons of respect, and even if she's the strongest, most independent superwoman in the world, she STILL deserves to be treated like a LADY!!!
 

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It depends on which one of us is carrying our daugther. If I've got her, he gets the door for me, and if he's got her, I get the doors. When we're together, he *usually* gets the doors and stuff for me. Not big on holding hands though. Unless he thinks there may be something in it for him to do so
Overall, he's NOT romantic at all. But if I was on crutches or something, he'd definitely help me as much as he could. Not that he could much, since he's gone all week!

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in theory if they are to treat us as "ladies" then we should be treating them like "gentalmen" ie- dinner ready the minute he gets home, get his pipe and slippers for him, never dissagree with him. haha in not doing that!
 

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Hi

My chivralrous companion does cool things - being in France it's pretty common over here. Women never pour their own wine, nor peel their fruit (!). When we eat out I tell him what I want and then he orders for me. That was strange at first but Ok now! You have doors opened for you, but so far not the car door...hmmm...


In return though, and this is still a little odd - if he would like me to wear eg the pretty burgundy top he bought for me, he really would like me to wear it. Hmm. maybe not so chivralrous as old-fashioned!
 

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Originally Posted by ilovejoelyo

in theory if they are to treat us as "ladies" then we should be treating them like "gentalmen" ie- dinner ready the minute he gets home, get his pipe and slippers for him, never dissagree with him. haha in not doing that!
 

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Originally Posted by kittylover4ever

Do you think men still practice common courtesies for women, ex: opening doors, helping on with coats, etc.?
Yes, absosmurfly!!!
 

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I'd say about 65% of all men I've ever dated have done things like that. There are different levels, though. Some of them stop at opening doors, and some go as far as to stand up when I leave and return to the dinner table. Some always bring flowers, and some draw the line at carrying purses.
Some will offer you their jacket, and some will ask you if you'd like to go indoors (which is still polite, IMO, since it shows they're thinking about how comfortable you are).

I don't think it was ever indicative of what type of person they were or how nice they were--some people just weren't taught to do stuff like that. I like it though, and my Mr. Right will definately be a gentleman.
 
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