Hello Everyone! A couple of months ago you were quite kind and helped me through a very difficult decision with my 15 year old kitty Max. He had bone cancer and I had to choose between amputating his back leg to the hip or putting him down. I decided on the latter and it was the right decision. Terribly painful, but the right one for both of us.
Well, after 3 months my boyfriend and I bit the bullet and adopted a new boy. He's 3, a neutered, declawed (front only), male. We loved him at the shelter because he was so affectionate through the bars - purring, butting his head against our hands, etc. He'd been there for over 6 months. At first they had him in a big, cosy room loose with other cats, but then they moved him into a cage in the front hallway because he was so shy around the other cats and hung out in a corner the whole time. They were afraid no one would see him there, let alone adopt him. We've had him home for 5 days now and he's really shy. He's camped out in the closet and only comes out to eat and occasionally, after begging and conjoling him, we can get him to come out for a short brushing session. Then it's right back into the closet. When we've taken him out to hold him he just hates it. He gets very tense and pushes to get away. He never bites or scratches and only hissed once. He's got a lovely, loud purr, head butts everything in sight, rolls over to expose his belly, but I'm afraid he will never come out and join our world. Will he?
Also, has anyone gone through feelings of disappointment after having had a REALLY great cat and losing him and then getting a new baby and feeling like you'll never like this one as much or be as close to him? I'm REALLY missing Max right now. I guess it's part of the grieving process. I'm also having a really hard time accepting Oliver for who he is.
Help, please?!? Thank you! Amy
Well, after 3 months my boyfriend and I bit the bullet and adopted a new boy. He's 3, a neutered, declawed (front only), male. We loved him at the shelter because he was so affectionate through the bars - purring, butting his head against our hands, etc. He'd been there for over 6 months. At first they had him in a big, cosy room loose with other cats, but then they moved him into a cage in the front hallway because he was so shy around the other cats and hung out in a corner the whole time. They were afraid no one would see him there, let alone adopt him. We've had him home for 5 days now and he's really shy. He's camped out in the closet and only comes out to eat and occasionally, after begging and conjoling him, we can get him to come out for a short brushing session. Then it's right back into the closet. When we've taken him out to hold him he just hates it. He gets very tense and pushes to get away. He never bites or scratches and only hissed once. He's got a lovely, loud purr, head butts everything in sight, rolls over to expose his belly, but I'm afraid he will never come out and join our world. Will he?
Also, has anyone gone through feelings of disappointment after having had a REALLY great cat and losing him and then getting a new baby and feeling like you'll never like this one as much or be as close to him? I'm REALLY missing Max right now. I guess it's part of the grieving process. I'm also having a really hard time accepting Oliver for who he is.
Help, please?!? Thank you! Amy