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post #1 of 20
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I was supposed to hear back from a prospective job by today at the latest and I even went as far as calling the person( he was busy so I left my name to have him call me back...He never did.) as to if I got the job or not. They never called me. I'm bummed. I really wanted that job. I guess I did something in the second interview that didn't inpress the district manager lady. Brad said he thinks I could still get the job but I highly doubt it. They said they'd call within 48 hours and I called them today at 3, left my name and number for the manager to call me back and he never did.
I think I'm destined to die in fast food.... I hate it there and I don't enjoy working anymore in fact I dread it each day. I was excited for a couple of days thinking that maybe, just maybe someone would give me a chance, and rescue me from my daily hell, so I could start to love my working life again, but well, I guess that's not to be. I feel like such a looser each time I get rejected for a job.
Now I have decided that I just will take anything outside the fast food realm. All I need is insurance. That's all, I don't necessarily even have to like the job anymore, I just want out. I can't take it anymore. Maybe I'm being to picky that's why. Well no more. I'll take the first thing that I can I guess. Even if it's not what I want to do. I just can't deal with my job anymore. One guy I work with just recently put his hand thru the Dt window because he wanted to get my and the guy I was talking to's attention. and when I say through the window I MEAN through it. glass everywhere, scared the daylights out of us and the whole works! My job is hell. I'm so depressed. I suck and feel like a looser...
post #2 of 20
I hear ya... I am in the same situation!!! Keep your head up!!
post #3 of 20
I totally understand. I did an interview last week. I was supposed to hear back on monday, left a message, still nothing too. I'm so sorry, I know it sucks. Don't give up!
post #4 of 20
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Isn't that just downright rude??? You think they'd be a little bit more considerate of your feelings. I mean you came in and interviewed and obviously wanted the job, how come they can't call you and let you know either way?
I went down there at 10 am monday and didn't get home until 5 pm monday night. It's so upsetting.
post #5 of 20
I just hate interviewing for jobs, and I'm a nurse and usually in high demand! But that baring your soul and hoping they choose you...hard stuff. Hang in there, I'm sure something better will come along.

It seems to me that working in a bank or answering phones at a doctor's office would be easier than working in fast food! (At least that is what I have told dd-she doesn't listen!) Good luck in finding a better job with better benefits.
post #6 of 20
Oh, I agree and think it's terribly rude! Especially when in my case they specifically said they would let me know Either Way. If only they'd call me back I might snidely insinuate it to them.

Seriously though, keep trying to find a better job. It's not healthy to be this miserable.
post #7 of 20
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Originally Posted by eatrawfish
Oh, I agree and think it's terribly rude! Especially when in my case they specifically said they would let me know Either Way. If only they'd call me back I might snidely insinuate it to them.

Seriously though, keep trying to find a better job. It's not healthy to be this miserable.
They told me the same thing. They said, either way, they'd let me know within 48 hours...
post #8 of 20
Oh Barb, you are SO not alone on the job front! I'll take anything 1) outside fast food and 2) that doesn't conflict with my amazingly light class schedule, and I just cant' bear the thought of the hunt. Hate it hate it hate it!!!!

One bright spot for you though: I got a job by calling back when I didn't get the job after the interview. I was persistent, left two messages and finally insisted that I speak to the interviewer, who told me I didn't get the job. OK fine, I moved on but still didn't find work. A month later, they called me to say the candidate they chose didn't work out, and asked me to start the next Monday!
I prefer to think that by following up, you'll be memorable, and if something else opens up you're more likely to get the call!!!!! }}}}}get hired{{{{ vibes coming from this front!!
post #9 of 20
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Well, I know he won't be there tomorrow, but maybe I'll call again Friday. I just wish he'd have called today saying "congratulations! you got the job!!!" I know he liked me, Brads friend said he did( she works with him.) He was already to hire me on the spot or so I was told. It was the district manager that was the deciding factor. I guess some things weren't meant to be... I'm off to bed. Sorry to dump on you all. Just needed a sympathic ear.
post #10 of 20
I'm sorry to hear that things are going badly for you right now. But you always have friends at TCS...so vent away!!!
post #11 of 20
Barb you are NOT a loser and you do NOT suck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One thing I learned in the umpteen interviews I've been on...they hardley ever actually know when they say they will. Don't give up! One job told me they would know by the end of the week and would let me know either way. Week came and went...two weeks came and went. They finally called back 2-3 weeks later (I didn't get the job, they hired from within the company because it was for a special project) and said they had just gotten delayed with other deadlines.

The job I have now I actually got the rejection letter from them! A week or so later, they called and offered me the job as their first choice didn't work out.
post #12 of 20
Keep your head up! I know it sucks waiting, but don't give up. Have you tried posting your resume on Monster.com, it's a great way to get your info out there. You don't suck, things are just a bit icky now, they will get better!
post #13 of 20
Barb, you aren't a loser!!!

As people have said, sometimes it will take longer to get back to applicants - they do have other jobs to do also. I'd give them another ring, just to show your enthusiasm!

Keep your chin up! it will all work out soon!
post #14 of 20
I went for a job interview once and they said they'd call me back at the end of the week but didn't. In the end they called me back about 2 weeks later and offered me the job I think a lot of times they just get a bit bogged down with other things, and forget how important it is to the candidates.

Hang on in there, I'm sure your enthusiasm will have impressed them!

Oh, and there is now way on earth that you're a loser. The sheer effort and determination you're showing marks you as much, much more than that
post #15 of 20
Hey!

You are not a loser! You will find a new job soon, something better and something that you def. deserve too. I know the waiting is hard, but it will happen. I know from where I am so many people are on holiday atm that is why people are not calling back. Or people at the other end are taking their time to make decisions, so that could be why you are waiting? I am in the same situ and I am trying not to let it get me down but it's difficult. Please stay strong and hang in there - something will turn up you'll see...
post #16 of 20
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Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support. It means alot to me! I do understand they have jobs to do also but darnit all, I sat home all day yesterday waiting and hoping that that would be the day. Ya know? And when I called the manager and left my name, you'd think that he'd go"oh yeah I was supposed to call her today and let her know if she got the job or not." not completely blow me off. Granted he might not have gotten the message. who knows? I just give up. I feel like noone wants to give me a chance and I don't think I'll ever get out of fast food. What a depressing thought huh?
post #17 of 20
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Originally Posted by jugen
Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support. It means alot to me! I do understand they have jobs to do also but darnit all, I sat home all day yesterday waiting and hoping that that would be the day. Ya know? And when I called the manager and left my name, you'd think that he'd go"oh yeah I was supposed to call her today and let her know if she got the job or not." not completely blow me off. Granted he might not have gotten the message. who knows? I just give up. I feel like noone wants to give me a chance and I don't think I'll ever get out of fast food. What a depressing thought huh?
No, no, no! Don't be like that! We want Positive Mental Attitude and Optimism! You will do it, you will get the job you want - the right job for you!

Come on, Barb, join in! The more positive your attitude, the more positive you'll feel and the more positive you'll come across!

You can do it, Barb, belive in yourself! <---nearest I could find to cheerleaders!
post #18 of 20
You are not a loser!

I know people can make you feel that way when you are looking for a job and it is very discouraging. I worked in fast food and I hated it too. Don't give up! Something good will happen. I'm sending you some career success vibes.
post #19 of 20
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Originally Posted by jugen
Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support. It means alot to me! I do understand they have jobs to do also but darnit all, I sat home all day yesterday waiting and hoping that that would be the day. Ya know? And when I called the manager and left my name, you'd think that he'd go"oh yeah I was supposed to call her today and let her know if she got the job or not." not completely blow me off. Granted he might not have gotten the message. who knows? I just give up. I feel like noone wants to give me a chance and I don't think I'll ever get out of fast food. What a depressing thought huh?
Don't get down on yourself ! I quit my job after 17 yrs and I am going out for the very first time to do "cold" interviews. I have been fortunate in that I have always been called to ask to come work for others and never really had to interview. So, my time is drawing near and I'm nervous

Anyway, what I wanted to tell you is that it does suck that he is not returning your call. I was in managment before I quit . I always let people know if they were my choice or not if I told them I would call them. My interviewing process usually did take longer than I expected. I would have to often reschedule and so if I told someone I expect to make a decision by Friday it was usually a week after that when I finally got around to it sometimes even longer. Have you tried asking the person who answers the phone if he/she knows if the position has been filled or is the company really large?

I wish you the best of luck!
post #20 of 20
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Originally Posted by valanhb
Barb you are NOT a loser and you do NOT suck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One thing I learned in the umpteen interviews I've been on...they hardley ever actually know when they say they will. Don't give up!
Barb, please listen to Heidi, she knows what she is talking about! Let me give you a summary of what I have been through the last while.

When I joined TCS I was happily employed, bought a new house and was waiting to bring Nakita home. We were in the middle of renovating when I lost my job. We had some reserved funds so I wasn't in panic mode, so took it easy for awhile. When I started sending out resumes I was very positive and hopeful, since I was never unemployed for a long period of time. But, month by month went by and barely received a call. Christmas and New Year's came and went and I was still unemployed. I couldn't even get an entry level job, even though I had a degree and worked since I was 18. Plus, I live in a city of 3 million people. Every job that is advertised gets an average of 200 - 300 replies! I felt doomed to say the least.

To fast forward this story ( ) I was unemployed for a year and a bit, and it was heartbreaking. We were hitting crunch time with the money and I only secured a few very small contracts. Rob took on a second job and I felt like the ultimate loser! Here is Rob and he is able to secure two very good job opportunites and I couldn't even secure one! Plus, we had the biggest mortgage of our life, our car was on its last legs and we needed to renovate. Ick, I felt desperate.

After sending out a gazzillion resumes, I finally had an interview and they hired me. I left that job after 6 months for a better position and the rest is history. Now, I am the one doing the interviewing and now I have come full circle.

Here are a few key points:

1. You will be at your lowest when you do not believe in yourself. The best thing I found when I felt low was to connect with people (by email, phone or in person). Surround yourself with positive influences and it will rub off on you when you need it most.

2. If you are miserable at your current position, do something about it. What would you love to do as an occupation? What would you need to get there (education, volunteer work, a foot in the door)? Start setting daily/weekly/monthly goals, like sending out 10 resumes a week, calling 1 person to discuss career/education opportunities. If you keep a journal and accomplish simple goals, you can slowly increase them until you get where you want. Nothing is more satisfying than reaching one goal and moving on to another, showing yourself that you are very capable and worthy of the best in life. To give an easy example, I made sure I sent a minimum of 10 resumes out a week, and following up with the same number.

3. The most eye opening discovery when I look back at my lowest self-esteem period was how important it was to surround myself with positive influences. Think of friends, family, or people at TCS as mini-cheerleaders that will help you move on to your next goal. There were many mini-cheerleaders here that were to me and helped me through my negative moods. Connect with them and discuss ways to improve your life - have mini brainstorming sessions to plan your next move. Believe me, when you chart things out on paper or journal your thoughts, things will be accomplished.

4. I think this point is the most critical. Never, EVER see a rejection letter/call as something that is wrong with you. You were simply not what the company needed at that time. I always thought that if I didn't get a call for an interview or wasn't chosen as the candidate that I must have did something wrong. Then I would get negative, start feeling low and figured I would never get a job. I currently interview candidates for my department and it is amazing what I have learned in the last while. The last candidate we hired was equal on all experiences and education. The reason we chose her for this position was based on how commanding she was and if she could stand up for herself daily on the job. We were looking for such a particular personality that all the education or work experience would not matter and it came down to her personality. You never know what exactly that interviewer is looking for in a candidate, so therefore don't beat yourself up if you don't get the call. If it's not meant to be, move on.

So when you have an interview for the 'perfect' job, remember that there will be others too. It's like looking for a house. You absolutely fall in love with one and must have it, but if you wait and look around that next corner there may be other opportunites that are far greater and worth more.

Chin up! Remember that most of us have been there and done that. I'd love to meet someone who has had an easy life and never had a moment of self-doubt. If you need to talk, I'm only a PM away.

~Kass
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