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oh my goodness!!!

post #1 of 16
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This scares me!! My friend was raped and ended up pregnant!!
post #2 of 16
I don't know what to say except you must be a good friend for her to have told you so keep up the support with whatever decision she makes.
post #3 of 16
That scares me too!
post #4 of 16
Thread Starter 
I'm so scared for her because she's not even wanting to tell her parents because they already think she's a slut.
post #5 of 16
Being raped is bad enough, but getting pregnant by it is terrible.

Has your friend gone to the police, gone to her doctor? Is she getting some emotional support? She is lucky she can confide in you.
post #6 of 16
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Originally Posted by Gilly
Being raped is bad enough, but getting pregnant by it is terrible.

Has your friend gone to the police, gone to her doctor? Is she getting some emotional support? She is lucky she can confide in you.

I don't know what she is doing. All I know is she's getting an abortion because she doesn't want to go through the 9 months. Plus she doesn't want to tell her parents so I doubt she's even gone to the police. She says she's moving back to London to get the abortion.
post #7 of 16
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Originally Posted by Lil_Axl_Gurl
I don't know what she is doing. All I know is she's getting an abortion because she doesn't want to go through the 9 months. Plus she doesn't want to tell her parents so I doubt she's even gone to the police. She says she's moving back to London to get the abortion.
Best thing you can do right now is be there for her. Support her 100%. The abortion will be particularly difficult following the rape, so REALLY offer her your hand. Go with her if you can. Another good thing is to never tell her "you should do this, you should do that." She needs to regain control of her life and part of that is making decisions for herself.
If your friend feels up to it, give her this #: 1-800-656-HOPE. It's open 24/7, free, and confidential. Counselors there can get her started on the healing path.
Let her know that it was NOT her fault. It doesn't matter what she was wearing, what she was doing. If she said no, it was rape. I am so sorry that she is afraid her parents will call her a slut if she admitted she was raped. That is HORRIBLE! But who knows? They may surprise her and be the good, supportive parents that they SHOULD be!
My heart, thought, and prayers are with your friend .
post #8 of 16
We are here for you, so keep letting us know how you are feeling!
post #9 of 16
Ok this is being moved out of the lounge to IMO due to how political this topic could become.
post #10 of 16
give her support...she needs it.
post #11 of 16
Bless her heart.... I hope she finds the love and support that she needs right now. Be there for your friend, L_A_G! It's good that she has someone like you around.
post #12 of 16
Like Ugaimes said, the abortion will be particularly difficult because she was raped. She will definintely need your support. It would be best if she could tell the clinic that she has been raped so that they can at least provide her with resources for counseling afterwards. Immediately following an abortion women will experience a sudden drop in hormones and over the next several days her hormone levels will fluctuate. This can cause just general baby-blues, or full out post-partum depression. The nature of being raped will complicate those feelings of grief, and at least at the clinic I worked for, the staff would try to set up additional counseling through a community mental health clinic.

It is terrible that she has had to go through this. I can't even imagine what it would have been like had I gotten pregnant. Your support and love will be greatly needed. Bless you for caring so much about your friend.
post #13 of 16
Just be her friend & stick with her. If she decides to go through with an abortion, be there for her-it might create another mental trauma on top of what she has already been through. She is & will be dealing with some horrible emotions, so help her to be strong.
post #14 of 16
I'm so sorry to hear that...that's horrible! She should really go to the police, IMO
post #15 of 16
It's good that she has you to rely on. The best thing you can do for her right now is to be there to listen.

I hope all works out well for her!
post #16 of 16
Lil_Axl_Gurl asked me to post this for her:

I have recently talked to my friend and got the great news that she isn't pregnant after all! She went to the doctor and got tested and ended up not being pregnant! She thought she was because she had skipped a period. I personally believe that this happened because of everyone's prayers! She is doing much better now that she has found out she's not pregnant and I am really really happy for her!!
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