A little advice - may be from you women would be appreciated.
I am officially divorced and this was completed almost a month ago. I have been to the bottom of many bottles - looked at the amount of tablets and not taken them, I have been to and lived in hell for the last 6 months. I dearly loved my ex wife and our son and I am pleased to advise, I have a continued great relationship with them - she likes me, just does not love me. I have finally come to terms with this and decided to start again in all aspects of my life.
The first was to get a loan and consolidate all the debts - thats done.
The next was to get a car - a lot smaller one - cheaper to run, insure and tax. That was completed this week just gone.
The next thing I am looking for is a pad of my own and a new job. I want to be nearer to our son (who my relationship has gone into overdrive with and we are incredibly close- hes been my reason for living all through the hell). Never had to get some place of my own, looking for a flat or something and also have pushed out my cv to loads of agencies and continue to nag them to keep me in mind. Great vibes needed please..
There is gonna come a time in the near future when I would like to start thinking about meeting people again -the opposite sex if you mind.. however, dates and things are never things I have been blessed with the ability of knowing what or how to start something off.
I am not a minger - I know that - its, just, I am scared of starting this whole thing and ask for straight honest advice from you women, what are you looking for in a man? How do I start? Where do I go? What do women want?
Its terrifying for me and hope fully, when I have my own place etc, I can then move on further, after being incredibly hurt, I am moving on and doing quite good at it... women just terrify me at this moment...which sure you can understand.
Would appreciate a little help - from the female perspective on starting again...
Thanks
Kev
moving forward - albeit in small steps... but moving
I am officially divorced and this was completed almost a month ago. I have been to the bottom of many bottles - looked at the amount of tablets and not taken them, I have been to and lived in hell for the last 6 months. I dearly loved my ex wife and our son and I am pleased to advise, I have a continued great relationship with them - she likes me, just does not love me. I have finally come to terms with this and decided to start again in all aspects of my life.
The first was to get a loan and consolidate all the debts - thats done.
The next was to get a car - a lot smaller one - cheaper to run, insure and tax. That was completed this week just gone.
The next thing I am looking for is a pad of my own and a new job. I want to be nearer to our son (who my relationship has gone into overdrive with and we are incredibly close- hes been my reason for living all through the hell). Never had to get some place of my own, looking for a flat or something and also have pushed out my cv to loads of agencies and continue to nag them to keep me in mind. Great vibes needed please..
There is gonna come a time in the near future when I would like to start thinking about meeting people again -the opposite sex if you mind.. however, dates and things are never things I have been blessed with the ability of knowing what or how to start something off.
I am not a minger - I know that - its, just, I am scared of starting this whole thing and ask for straight honest advice from you women, what are you looking for in a man? How do I start? Where do I go? What do women want?
Its terrifying for me and hope fully, when I have my own place etc, I can then move on further, after being incredibly hurt, I am moving on and doing quite good at it... women just terrify me at this moment...which sure you can understand.
Would appreciate a little help - from the female perspective on starting again...
Thanks
Kev
moving forward - albeit in small steps... but moving