Feel Better Vibes Please :( Mini-Rant

royalenchntrss

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I was just wondering if everyone could send me some good hugs and kisses because John and I broke up yesterday after 2 years together.I thought for sure he was the one I would be with forever. I just got fed up with not feeling loved and wanted and having to do everything to please his dad. I had to go over today to get all of my stuff from his house and I felt so bad because his mom was there and she was all upset about it, not understanding why John started being controlling like his dad. Now he's trying to blame everything on me blah blah blah because girls are worthless, we're only here for guys pleasure, we should do everything their way... Im my own person.. I don't usually put up with crap.. But I wanted this to work so bad.. and now I've lost my best friend..
 

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I'm sorry.
Sometimes it's hard to do the right thing, but after it stops hurting you will feel better than you would have felt if you were still with him.
 

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You are a beautiful, strong woman....for every door that you closes, another one opens.

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I'm sorry Stacy. Sounds like this might be better for you in the long run anyways although I know it is so hard to let it go. I'm sure there's someone better out there for you!
 

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oh, Stacy you know you can count on us!! Hon I'm so, so sorry about what you're feelin right now. I know how tough it is to walk away from something you thought would last, but you already know you're doin the right thing. It's just gonna take some time for the hurt to go away. In the meantime, just be extra-good to yourself and give the kits lots of love and scritches. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it will get better. Pity John doesn't know what a treasure he's lost. }}}}}}}}
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Oh, sweetheart... bless your heart. Mika and Holly send lots of purrs and wet nose kisses.

It'll be a rocky time in the very immediate future, but you WILL survive, and be so much better for it. Don't listen to anything he says. Just keep thinking of the day that's not very far off in the future, when things will settle down and your heart won't question your decision anymore. You'll be on the road to a new and better life!
 

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{{{{{feel better vibes}}}}} Sorry that you are going through this, Stacy. I am proud of you for protecting yourself - if only more women had your strength!! Someday you will be glad that you didn't settle for less than what you want. I had a bad break-up about 10 years ago; the guy was so awesome for the first 9 mos., then bang! I was just a domestic support staffmember. Now I'm glad that I got out when I did - I realized that the guy was mean-spirited. Funny, but my dog adored him, he had 2 precious Pekes, but my cat JC and my mare both were icy-cold slowly warming to cool towards him - guess kitty knows best!
 

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Oh Stacy, someone who truly loves you doesn't try to control you, so you did the right thing. You will see in time when you met the man who treats you like a queen!!
 

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Oh Stacy sweetie, I'm so sorry.
Lots of *hugs* and *headbutts* to you from me and my crew.
I don't have anything to add to what everyone has already said, but know you're in my thoughts. I know you'll get through this, it may take a while, but you will.
 

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I am so sorry your relationship didn't work out. You have wisdom beyond your years to be able to understand that this problem would not improve with time.

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during this difficult time. I wish I had been so wise when I was younger....
 

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It may feel bad now - but you truly did the right thing. We are all here for you!
 

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I am so sorry this happened to you. I know it hurts, but better to find out now than after you invested more of your precious youth in him. I am with Beckiboo, I wish I had your strength and wisdom when I was your age. It would have saved me a lot of heartache.
 

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Stacy hon, I'm sorry you're having to go through this, but it sounds like its for the best. If a man loves you, he treats you like you're precious and doesn't try to control you. {{{{HUGS}}}} hon, and if you need to talk, feel free to yell at me , ok?
 

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Aww hon I'm so sorry. I know it's awful when you find out that the 'one' wasn't all you thought he was, but keep in mind that at least you found out now, and not 10 years down the line when you had a joint mortgage and children.

I have no doubt that there's someone special out there for you, someone who will treat you like the princess you no doubt are. Be strong, time really does heal
 

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wish id have had the courage to walk away from my ex husband,instead i put up with years of abuse.the hurt will go away,then when your ready your meet a lovely guy who will want to be your equal partner, just takes a while,but (((((hugs)))) for you.
 

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Sorry to hear that, but it sounds as though it is all for hte best. This time is awful but you will get through it and soon you will be ready to meet someone who is much better for you. Good luck.
 

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Sounds like his loss, your gain, afterall, no woman should ever have to settle for any man that isn't a perfect match


Hope you're feeling better soon, breakups suck, even when they're for the right reasons.
 
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royalenchntrss

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Thanks everyone reading all of your sweet comments are making me cry again... I'll be ok.. I just feel horrid about everything. He still loves me but i cant take the **** his dad pulls all of the time.
 
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