another introduction issue...

Hi,

Not doing so well... I am so mad at Chichi right now, I tried to put vanilla extract on her, she hissed at me, I tried to restrain her, by holding her by the scarf. She hates it so much, she wouldn't let me do anything! And she doesn't respond to treats, she doesn't care for food. I was able to handle any of my cats in the past...But not her!

Meanwhile, Wesley was meowing behind the closed door asking to be let out, so I just said screw it and let him out. I'm gonna let them deal with it on their own...

So they are sitting in the living room, staring at each other, and Chichi is hissing at him whenever he gets too close. No serious fights yet, just hissing and a bit of chacing. Yeah, seems like Chichi is more freaked out by him and wants him to get away from her rather than attacking him...

I think I need to make myself a glass of martini to relax a bit...

Oh yeah, thanks for the tip, SalemCat, the lazer beam does work.

You know, not that I'd wish this type of situation on anyone...it's a small version of hell,LOL! But seems the exact same thing is happening at both our houses tonight I'm finding it alot easier to handle with someone to talk with, I'm not panicing and pacing as I was this morning, so thank you very much!
And yes, I tried to comfort Oliver earlier and he hissed at me (he's never done that before), his body is stiff, and there's fire in his eyes. He is very upset! He does keep coming out here and sits in the corner, or on a kitchen chair and just stares at her and then runs full speed back to his hiding spot. She on the other hand, has made friends with my Lab, and wants to play with him...he doesnt quite understand though and just lays there. The other cats are coming and going, not even noticing her. All the while, she's so happy and excited to be out and is exploring everything! Hubby says I'm way to protective and I should just let nature take it's course, let them alone and they'll be just fine! And yes! A Margarita for me is sounding perfect right now!

I don't know which cat to spend more time with. I have the kitten in the living room, and gremlin (resident cat) in the bedroom/bathroom.. although i am watching in paws stick out as we speak.

Gremlin is so mean to the kitten, which is making the kitten scared of me as well.

Yes! You go girl, SalemCat! Have a margarita!

That martini was really good! You know, I just let them be and I think that's the best thing I've done so far. You can't think like them, cause they are cats and you're not, they'll figure it out.

Chichi still hisses at him but you know, she's not gonna kill him, the more I watch them, the more I see that she is afraid of him herself! That's why she hisses. She hisses and runs away...

I think they'll be fine...

Gremlin hisses and runs at the new kitten :/

Now gremlin is running at the new kitten, not hissing, but the kitten is trying to attack gremlin.

sigh

Hey,
I am so glad that you all are in the same situation as I am!!!! I feel less alone. I feel less neurotic. I have been so upset with the introduction of my new kitty to my 2 resident kitties that I have felt like giving up. Then I get it together and figure it will work out since so many people have been through this.

My one resident cat Boo stays downstairs all of the time except to come up and eat or use the litter. If she sees new kitty (Icy) she hisses terribly and runs downstairs.

Other resident cat Abbey is usually upstairs with Icy but they are not in the same room. Abbey stares ALL DAY into the room where Icy is. If she sees her there isn't hissing anymore, only if they get too close to each other. Icy has her own litter and food in her safe room - she stays there most of the time occasional wandering.

My anxiety is that Boo will never come upstairs again and Abbey will never sleep with me again. Icy's safe room is off of my bedroom (only one that would work out) so my bedroom has become Icy's. I just feel like crying, or drinking, or both. You are not alone. I am not giving up. I want all three of my kitties.

Today I managed to rub Chichi with vanila extract. Just did it without restraining her, she didn't mind. She liked the smell. I then did the same to Wesley and let him out.

Now Chichi chaces him like there is no tomorrow.

I think this is getting much better now. They can now play around each other, so that's a good sign. They aren't best friends yet but they're turning this chacing into play.

I think I did a good thing yesterday to just let them be.

I'm taking Wesley into a clinic tomorrow for his shot and test, so he's here to stay...

That is exellent news. Let us know how the vet appointment goes.
Lei

Grem and the kitten are sleeping on the bed together! Grem licked the kitten's ear too!

Outstanding....
Lei

Originally Posted by home.slice

Grem and the kitten are sleeping on the bed together! Grem licked the kitten's ear too!

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Sunday,

Chichi and Wesley are now in the open. They tolerate each other but not best friends yet. She still hisses at him whever he gets too close to her. And every now and them chaces him across the room. I find it that against my will I'm starting to like Wesley more. He is so affectionate and Chichi is being mean and aloof. She won't even let me touch her anymore.

I have to put Wesley in his room for a while before Chichi even comes around to be affectionate with me, and whenever I approach her, she runs away. While Wesley comes to me on his own and purring each time I pet him.

I don't know... I was able to trim Wesley's claws earlier and give him a bath with no problem. I can only dream now that Chichi would let me do those things to her.

Be patient...Chichi will come back to you. It will take time but it will happen.
When it does, you will have 2 very special kitties to love.
Lei

Good news!

I was able to successfully trim Chichi's claws during her afternoon nap today. And she was her good ole snuggly self again and let me do it. Oh boy, that cat has two faces: when she's mean, she is MEAN, but when she's sweet, she's a real SWEATY! Lil miss Jekyl and Hyde.

Of couse to get her sweatness out, I have to take Wesley out of the room...
When he's there, seems like the only thing she's interested in is watching him like a hawk!

Oh, another good news! My vet said, Wesley is negative for FIV and leukemia.

Exellent news all the way around.

Still having problems. The kitten is so scared of my other cat because he is a billion times bigger. I'm pretty sure my cat is trying to play with the kitten, but he is really aggressive. It ends up scaring my kitten and she'll start kissing and etc.

Funny though, when my cat isn't paying attention, the kitten stalk his tail.

I'm confused.

I hope this passes.

I'm so glad things are getting better for you! And they are here too...Sahara is now chasing everyone around...I think to play, because she has stopped hissing at everyone. They on the other hand run from her and look at me, like "what have you done"!

This is really cute...I have a white glass cat(about 10 inches tall) sitting on my desk, and when Sahara jumps up onto it and see the glass cat, she starts growling and hissing everytime! I have noticed that when I pick her up sometimes when she doesnt want to be, she'll growl and hiss....and if she doesnt want to be petted, she'll reach around and chomp down on my hand...I'm sure if she continues this, I'll be posting another help post!LOL

Cairo and Sunday took some time to get used to Sashka - like you say, Sam, Persians are great Sunday doesn't ever really seem to mind anything!! - but it didn't take much more than persistence and letting them know I still loved them more than ever, and that having her didn't change that. Sunday was over it in about three days - they wrestle continually with each other now which is really funny. It took Cairo longer and she still pretends she doesn't like her - but she patrols the perimeter of our block every night now, and if it looks like one of the neighbouring cats is going to come and give Sashka a hard time Cairo yells at it until it goes away...so cute...

Hello,

Thank you so much guys! Really helps to have this post around. So Chichi and Wesley are playing now. She chaces him and sometimes is really mean to him when they play. I hear him squick every now and then. But she won't cuddle with him yet. He tried last night, but she hissed (what a little meany!)

So she ran away. I then let Wesley snuggle up with me on the couch, when I was watching a movie, while Chichi was watching us with a jealous eye.

This morning they were playing again, but I think I can leave them alone now.

CAUGHT IN THE ACT!!!