This is my advice also - make it into a business transaction again with both parties agreeing to complete it as such.Originally Posted by evnshawn
My recommendation? Call her and tell her you were wrong to bring personal issues into it; the real issue is the money, which is business only, and the problem is that they have missed three months of payments. (Remember that before this they were making good faith efforts to pay you back. Lots of people loan money to friends that they never get back at all.) Then negotiate a new payment schedule (continuing payments, lump sum, whatever), and draw up a contract detailing how the remainder of the amount will be paid back. Have all involved parties sign.
As for the friendship part, I'm going to give you a little background so you can understand where my advice is coming from. I invested (equal to about year's salary) in my sister and her husband's business which was mismanaged into bankruptcy. They stopped speaking to me when everything got worse and I actually found out that the business was taken over by someone else through my mother. I also heard that they blamed me for the business failing because I wouldn't put my house and retirement up for collateral for their business (by the way, they did not put their own house up for collateral). They have total contempt for me and haven't spoken to me in two years.
My advice would be rather cruel. Write-off the friendship for now. Maybe later when they've grown up, you can re-establish it.
It isn't going to be easy no matter what you do. Either forgive the loan or forget the friendship. And even if you do forgive the loan, the friendship may not survive.
Good luck.