Ugh...annoying houseguests!

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So, I thought I'd be nice and let my friend crash here during her month of transience, since my roommate is in TX for the summer, so I have an extra room. In addition to her, it also goes without saying that my boyfriend is always welcome over here...

Well, it turns out that I should have just remained the crazy cat lady!

My friend let her other friend move in with her. They sit in my living room and play video games all day long. This has also become their choice location to carry out their social lives, when I am EXTREMELY private about my living quarters and they KNOW that (or maybe they're just more stupid than I had thought). They leave the TV, the bedroom AC Unit and lights on when they leave and their stupid video game console out with cords running all over the place (did I mention that I have a kitten?). They even eat my food and then, after they drank all of my soy milk, complained about how I didn't have real milk and that vegans are stupid and that I should go buy real milk so that they can have real milk on their (MY!) cereal. They also both smoke...a lot, and the smell of cigarette smoke SICKENS me. Today, when I got home from work, the back door was open! It's a good thing that Leo is sick and Lola is quarantined to my bedroom, otherwise I'd have 2 lost kitties to worry about!


Then, there's my boyfriend, who has mountainous piles of his belongings sprawled all over every last inch of my apartment. I also don't know what part of 'I have a dishwasher' he doesn't understand, so there's a heaping pile of dishes in the sink!

There are 4 people living in my 900 square foot 2-bedroom. FOUR.

AAGGGHHH!!!! I am SO LOOKING FORWARD TO MY STUDIO!!!! They say you don't really know a person until you live with them...

How about you guys? Have you had any especially annoying houseguests?
 

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im to young to have any real house guests, but when i was little i had a friend who refused to sleep on the floor so she stole my bed, and it was choise of me sleeping on the floor or sleeping in the same bed as her.
 

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I've learned to never let anyone live with you. Give them money and food instead for shelter and something to eat.
 

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It's funny because I was in exactly the same situation only I was the guest. Here's the story: Me and my bf have decided to move to a different state. So my best friend (of 8 years) let us stay with them (her and her fiance). 4 years ago when she decided to move to my state she stayed with me so she was returning a favor. They didn't have an apartment but a two bedroom house. The only place for me to hide was in a bedroom with no light (they are still putting finishing touches, and the guest room was not ready). So to help out I decided to cook for them sometimes, that turned out into cooking everyday after work. I'm a health nut so I buy lots of veggies not too much meat, so they started to eat my food. Even though they hated it, there was nothing else to eat. They (her and her fiance) left dirty dishes everywhere, they also had a dishwasher. They have two cats one is persian. Cat hair everwhere. At least you can come to them and say "Clean up or get out" I had no choice. I cleaned, cooked because I just had no other choice. After two weeks we started eating because I was exausted from all the cooking and cleaning. Finally we found an apartment and moved. It is VERY hard to live with people whose sanitary morals are different from yours.
 

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Originally Posted by lionessrampant

So, I thought I'd be nice and let my friend crash here during her month of transience, since my roommate is in TX for the summer, so I have an extra room. In addition to her, it also goes without saying that my boyfriend is always welcome over here...

Well, it turns out that I should have just remained the crazy cat lady!

My friend let her other friend move in with her. They sit in my living room and play video games all day long. This has also become their choice location to carry out their social lives, when I am EXTREMELY private about my living quarters and they KNOW that (or maybe they're just more stupid than I had thought). They leave the TV, the bedroom AC Unit and lights on when they leave and their stupid video game console out with cords running all over the place (did I mention that I have a kitten?). They even eat my food and then, after they drank all of my soy milk, complained about how I didn't have real milk and that vegans are stupid and that I should go buy real milk so that they can have real milk on their (MY!) cereal. They also both smoke...a lot, and the smell of cigarette smoke SICKENS me. Today, when I got home from work, the back door was open! It's a good thing that Leo is sick and Lola is quarantined to my bedroom, otherwise I'd have 2 lost kitties to worry about!


Then, there's my boyfriend, who has mountainous piles of his belongings sprawled all over every last inch of my apartment. I also don't know what part of 'I have a dishwasher' he doesn't understand, so there's a heaping pile of dishes in the sink!

There are 4 people living in my 900 square foot 2-bedroom. FOUR.

AAGGGHHH!!!! I am SO LOOKING FORWARD TO MY STUDIO!!!! They say you don't really know a person until you live with them...

How about you guys? Have you had any especially annoying houseguests?
Sounds to me like you need to stiffen your backbone and tell them PSMO.
(Pack Sh!t Move Out)
 

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When I was 6 my dad's mom came to visit. 3 weeks later she shooed my parents out of the house and when they came back she had rearranged all the furniture, "Surprise!" My mom made my dad buy her a plane ticket so she could fly back home!
 

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Lioness, bad enough they don't have any respect for your place; they are dangerous to your CATS! Like BigKittenDaddy said - give 'em the BOOT!
 

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Surest way to destroy a friendship? Move in together.

I'm with BigDaddy on this one - give 'em a deadline and stick to it. As for your bf - have you reminded him lately that you're neither his mother nor his maid, and that he's in YOUR house???? May be time to reassess that relationship as well. Sorry for all the crap
 
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Originally Posted by RicaLynn

Surest way to destroy a friendship? Move in together.

I'm with BigDaddy on this one - give 'em a deadline and stick to it. As for your bf - have you reminded him lately that you're neither his mother nor his maid, and that he's in YOUR house???? May be time to reassess that relationship as well. Sorry for all the crap
Haha, no, he's not that bad...it's just when I get home from work, it agitates me to be around all of his junk! He DOES clean it up, and he helps me around the place too..right now he's cleaning litter boxes! Ha! But we need to work on this dumping the housework on Allie right when she gets home thing


As for the houseguest, the more evil of the 2 has until Monday and the other one (the friend I originally told she could live here) I gave another couple days to, since she's not the worst of it and she was going to leave on Wednesday anyway.

So right now, I locked them out on the porch for not shutting the door again...hope they've got their keys...
 

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Wow....I'm so sorry.
There is no way you deserve crud like that.


Um...nothing really, except once at Passover when one of my mom's guests had her little boy and daughter over. He's afraid of dogs, so our dog had to be alone outside, and I wasn't allowed to see him.


I asked if I could bring him in on a leash, so he could come upstairs with me, and the lady acted as if I was a devil.
 

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I hate living with other people (except the furbabies!) I am in a really difficult position now becuase for financial reasons I have to let out 1/2 rooms in the house, and I HATE it. The long term guy who rents my downstairs room watchs TV ALL the time he is at home - if I am reading and he comes in he says 'Why is the TV not on?' and on it goes. But he only ever watches the 24 hour news channel, so it goes round and round, over the same things all the time. And he drinks a lot and often in the morning I find him asleep on the sofa where he has conked out the night before. He also lets the cats out at night against my express instructions, because he says they are nocturnal. If I am here I have to go look for them late at night, but I am always frightened if I am away. Last time I paid a cat sitter to come in 24/7. But I can't find any other long term tenants so I am stuck. The other room I let on a B&B basis and that is not so bad because I can easily set rules - no smoking, keep the doors shut etc and as they are paying I don't mind washing up after them!
 

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I've had some really annoying houseguests. One was a friend of mine (Whom I choose not to see any more) and she really pushed me to my limits. When she stayed with me for jsut a week, she managed to really get on my nerves. She started having an affair with some married man while she was there, and when she went out at night would come back at stupid o'clock, WITH THIS MAN IN TOW! I went off the wall and told her that he was not welcome in my house, that if she wanted to be a homewrecker, she could do it on her own turf, but it was not to be conducted under my roof. She begged me to let him come in so they could "talk". I put my foot down and said no, went back upstairs to bed... and SHE LET HIM IN ANYWAY!!!! SO when I came back down, I completely went mad and I told her that she could leave tomorrow. I was so disgusted that she could consider herself a "friend" when she was so disrespectful. Perhaps you should try yelling... the louder you shout, the more you're heard.
 

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i cringe having friends over even for the evening, they smoke, empty out my fridge and dont return the favour.. i even hate having bens parents here because they make a mess and with ben getting trying to give them stuff to eat.. atleast when my mother is here i feel confortable with her helping me clean up.
we have thought to get our own appartments, but we have worked that out.
We are moving out soon soo finally 4 rooms out of 5 will definetely be clean!
 

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my daughter came to stay with her 3 kids all under the age of 5,well with in 2 days they had totally trashed my house,the spare room was a tip,i n hubby ended up staying in our bedroom for some peace n quiet.one day they went out to a local park,we qickly threw some stuff together and ran away from home,i rang them later and told her to look after the animals and we would be back in a few days.just before we where due to come home i rang her and told her to get the place clean MY clean NOT her clean. it was tidy when we got back,but no food left in the house. now if she comes she buys food and helps with the cleaning.
 

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I have heard of too many horror stories like yours NEVER TO SAY ITS OK TO STAY!!!
Having mom/dad or sis for a few days here and that is it for me.

I agree that its your place and you are doing them a REALLY BIG FAVOR to they should abide by your houserules!! If they don't like it kick them out.
 

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When she comes to my house for a visit,she puts on my clothes,without asking,and then wears them home. I'm telling you,she stold half my wardrobe.
 
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