OK, first, I just want to say I think I was just frustrated when I wrote I was going to puke if I met another Emma or Ian. Sorry if that is anyone's name, because it is nice, but it is EXTREMELY common and it just seems like people prefer to pick extremely popular names to conform to what is excepted by society and that is what I meant by this being the most conformist thread I have ever read.
Now, I don't really care what a name means in the dictionary but I care about what I associate a name to and actually I got a different definition of what Trystan means than you typed. I chose my son's name for the single reason of it just being a lovely name and it seems to suit him well.
So if you speak the language that Trystan is derived from, would you happen to have the definitions of the other 2 I put because they came from the same place?
Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
Just goes to show that your parents can choose to provide you with a name that is neither odd nor difficult to say just for its own sake, and let your personality let people know who you are. If anything, common names allow children, and the adults they become, to be who they are with less burden of a label. That is, you're never "that girl with the weird name" when you're named something like Julie, or Emma for that matter. You are described as who you actually are.
I just have one question, if the actual meaning is so important in picking a name, I don't understand this last bit about letting personality determine how people define the child? What is the difference in choosing a name for a specific meaning or choosing one for uniqueness or for personal meaning? Why should a name, no matter plain or weird, define a person at all? I definitely know that I would never scoff at anyone for their name or treat them differently.I think you'd have to be a pretty narrow minded person to judge someone based on their name.
Originally Posted by Zissou'sMom
However, this is not true for some people, and alot of the times I think parents name their kids weird things for very selfish reasons. If you name your child anything for any reason other than the child's best interest, you are wrong......two kids can have the same name and for one kid it is a perfect name and for another it is absurd... and once you meet that child's parents you realize why and feel badly for the child.
I think that is a very blanket statement and we are dealing with something that is very subjective and personal. What right is it of anyone else's to say whether the name a parent has given a child is either right or wrong other than the parent(s)??? Who's right is it to say if that name suites a child or not other than the parents who've known a child since birth? Now when I hear of children being mean and judgmental of other children, my first thought is maybe it's just kids being kids, but then most times, you meet the parents and then you say, oh, that's why and then I feel sorry for that child because they are already being taught to be judgmental of others.
Just some little fun facts :
There are 26 letter in the alphabet, and debatedly between 44 and 55 sounds and 500 ways to spell those sounds in the English language.
ie. ghoti = fish
gh makes a ffff sound like in tough
o makes i sound like in wo
ti makes the sh sound like in moti
I'm sorry, but it is not in my control if a person cannot read the english language well (although, it doesn't bother me to help the person(s) learn to say it right) and I don't think it's fair to call names stupid based on the fact that you prefer something else. Once again, I apologize for my comments on Emma and Ian...I was just generalizing a little bit to make a point.