Hi all,
I just wanted to thank you all once again for your recent warm wishes, prayers and vibes upon me finding out my mum was diagnosed with cancer.
She was in Vancouver but decided to move back here to be close to family for treatment.
She arrived last Sunday and it has been an emotional rollercoaster week....
I have found out some more information after the some of the initial awful shock (though I still have one foot firmly planted in denial for certain hours of the day)...
She has late stage non small cell lung cancer (her lower right lobe) primarily.
However, it has metastasized to her lymph nodes, her adrenal glands, her right femur and she also has two small tumours in her brain...
She has her first app't with the oncologist tomorrow to discuss treatment. What they thought in Vancouver was that palliative radiation is the only option. My stepfather knows how long she has but I don't want to know yet..I need a few days. She doesn't want to know herself either..
The feeling I get is that its weeks or very few months...
Its strange that it didn't appear sooner with how far it had advanced, but they said that this does happen and she is quite healthy otherwise, quit smoking 12 years ago, doesn't drink ,eats well...and so it may not have surfaced due to this?
They say "hope for the best, prepare for the worst".. They also say that this is not treatable at this stage (ie, no surgery, or getting rid of it)..
She is on morphine at home right now and had bad swollen lymphs since she had gotten here, but we took her into ER yesterday and they gave her some steroids so that she could swallow the Ensure/Boost (she hadn't eaten in three days and so we were worried)....
For those of you who know, this came up suddenly. My mother hasn't been herself (less energetic in the past two months) but was still moving around, driving herself, still my same old mum less than two weeks ago!!
She had actually attended to the doctor at one point for the pain in her leg (the cancer in the bone) and he didn't do any tests and told her it was arthritis!
Then this came up. SHe mainly sleeps alot now because of the morphine. I have been helping them out in practical ways (laundry, cleaning, etc.) but you tend to feel helpless in this situation and I do not wish it upon my worst enemy...
Being here helps to take my mind off things for a few hours and I really want to let you all know how I appreciate it...
I am learning to see things in a different perspective and coming to know whats most important in life.
So, to all of you please..Mend old fences, drop old grudges, smell all the flowers, let the dishes wait and tell your mothers you love them today
Thanks all very much again...
I will let you know how it goes on..
Cin
I just wanted to thank you all once again for your recent warm wishes, prayers and vibes upon me finding out my mum was diagnosed with cancer.
She was in Vancouver but decided to move back here to be close to family for treatment.
She arrived last Sunday and it has been an emotional rollercoaster week....
I have found out some more information after the some of the initial awful shock (though I still have one foot firmly planted in denial for certain hours of the day)...
She has late stage non small cell lung cancer (her lower right lobe) primarily.
However, it has metastasized to her lymph nodes, her adrenal glands, her right femur and she also has two small tumours in her brain...
She has her first app't with the oncologist tomorrow to discuss treatment. What they thought in Vancouver was that palliative radiation is the only option. My stepfather knows how long she has but I don't want to know yet..I need a few days. She doesn't want to know herself either..
The feeling I get is that its weeks or very few months...
Its strange that it didn't appear sooner with how far it had advanced, but they said that this does happen and she is quite healthy otherwise, quit smoking 12 years ago, doesn't drink ,eats well...and so it may not have surfaced due to this?
They say "hope for the best, prepare for the worst".. They also say that this is not treatable at this stage (ie, no surgery, or getting rid of it)..
She is on morphine at home right now and had bad swollen lymphs since she had gotten here, but we took her into ER yesterday and they gave her some steroids so that she could swallow the Ensure/Boost (she hadn't eaten in three days and so we were worried)....
For those of you who know, this came up suddenly. My mother hasn't been herself (less energetic in the past two months) but was still moving around, driving herself, still my same old mum less than two weeks ago!!
She had actually attended to the doctor at one point for the pain in her leg (the cancer in the bone) and he didn't do any tests and told her it was arthritis!
Then this came up. SHe mainly sleeps alot now because of the morphine. I have been helping them out in practical ways (laundry, cleaning, etc.) but you tend to feel helpless in this situation and I do not wish it upon my worst enemy...
Being here helps to take my mind off things for a few hours and I really want to let you all know how I appreciate it...
I am learning to see things in a different perspective and coming to know whats most important in life.
So, to all of you please..Mend old fences, drop old grudges, smell all the flowers, let the dishes wait and tell your mothers you love them today
Thanks all very much again...
I will let you know how it goes on..
Cin