Oliver Wendell is not happy with his new sister!

I've been introducing cats for many years now, and I know it takes time and patients, but my Oliver Wendell is a different story! I rescued him 2 years ago when he was a kitten(he's the latest rescue and has never had to welcome a newbie yet), and he's been very protective, posessive, and jealous of any one that comes near me. If one of the other cats or the dog comes near me when he's around, he lets out a high pitched cry and bats them in the face( no claws) and runs back to me, proud as a peacock! He's my little shadow and chases me from room to room...in fact, he's laying here on my mouse right now, LOL!
This is my problem. Our newest rescue sahara, is a sweet little kitten, and all the other cats have just accepted her with out any friction. But not Oliver! I knew he'd be just terrible, but I never expected him to be terrible and horrible and nasty to her! We've been keeping her in my daughter's bedroom, but she ventured out a little when my daughter wasnt looking and had the door open a little. Oliver attacted her so badly that she was bleeding on her paw. And then he ran and hid under my bed and hasnt come out no matter how much I've sweet talked to him. Like I said, it's going to take time, but I dont know if he'll ever accept her in his home! Any idea's about how handle this?

Oliver was very scarred by his abandonment/rescue and he's in great fear of anything taking you away from him. I would shower him with heaps and heaps and heaps of love when she is around so he has your affection in front of the new one. Talk to him and praise him when he acts in a calm manner, but don't scold him or emit angry vibes when he goes through his separation anxiety or possession anxiety of you or it will make his stress worse. This will take time and much patience, but he'll eventually come around. And purchase a Feliway diffuser, if you can. Keep us posted! Is there any way in your house that you can cordon off a larger area for him w/a baby gate or two until the transition anxiety/sibling anxiety subsides? About a month of giving him a "large corral" to roam in. Or visa vera - put her in the corral and let him have the house. Mentally, that might be better.

I cant help but give Oliver tons of love he's such a special baby! I did have to tell him "no no" very nicely(and showered him with kisses)once tonight, because he kept seriously attacking my poor dog Buck(he's a black lab). Buck was sleeping and only opened his eyes and lifted his head every time Oliver did this, which was about 10 times within 30 minutes! Thank goodness Buck is a very sweet dog! We have two baby gates up, one from the floor up, and the other the rest of the way up the door of my daughter's bedroom. Which opened my eyes to another problem,LOL! My daughter(14) was climbing in and out her window to get into her bedroom, instead of taking the top gate down each time(it's a very large ground floor window) Something I hadnt thought about yet! Sneaking in and out!
May I ask,what is a Feliway diffuser? And where would I get one of these?

Originally Posted by Salem Cat

May I ask,what is a Feliway diffuser? And where would I get one of these?

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Feliway is a synthetic feline pheromone that is sold as a spray or as a diffuser (similar to the plug-in air fresheners). In the US, they are available at stores like PetsMart.

Thank you so much for that information! I'm going right out to get one! Oliver has become obsessed with trying everyway possible to get to her and attack! He has also become very irritated about everything and walks around hissing at the furniture, plants, and whatever else is in his veiw I'm afraid this is going to take awhile for him to adjust! I just keep telling myself, he has a very great life here, and he must take what comes with it whether he likes it or not! I'm not going to find another home for this little stray, she's found her way into my heart and there's enough love for everyone!

Another thing you can try is "Rescue Remedy" which is a Bach flower essence. I've heard it is supposed to help with stress relief. It is available in health food stores and some drug stores. You may want to do some research in dosing. I've heard that either you rub a little on the inside of their ears or add it to their water.

I've just started it with Lucy because she will growl when I pick her up and Carly is in the room. Too early to report any results.