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post #31 of 49
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I havent heard from the doctor yet, but I wanted to take the time to personally thank each and everyone of you who have sent your vibes and kind words, and thought of encouragement, and I hope that you realize how much your words really have made me feel so much more calm. So, I am keeping my fingers crossed that if I am not pregnant that there is nothing serious wrong.
So, thank you: fwan, katachtig, gilly, kellyyfaber, hell603, scamperfarms, stormy, goosehazel, babybee, crazybash, gailc, coolcat, loveysmummy, musicteacher, ckblv, xocats, purr, beckiboo, ginger's mum, katspixiedust, cyberkitten, jaspersmummy, cjandbilly, joanne511, krazykat2, lillekat, ugaimes, and talon. If I missed anyone who posts while I am typing this, I will get you on my next post.

As for today, theres little to no spotting, and I am having some pain, so I am not sure what is going on.
As soon as I hear from the doctor, I will post an update. Thanks ya'll for everything. I would be a nervous wreck if I didn't have your support in addition to my husbands. Thanks. I am keeping my fingers crossed that it turns out okay, one way or the other.
post #32 of 49
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Originally Posted by slitty_kittay
Lots of furry hugs from Dax
And warm wishes from me
Kim
Thanks, I need them. And give Dax a hug from me, too.
post #33 of 49
I really hope it's nothing to worry about, do let us know won't you. In the meantime, sending some good vibes your way
post #34 of 49
Just caught up with this - and I can't add anything but try not to worry. It would be amazing luck for anyone to get pregnant immediately, so you have lots ot time. Just put yourself under the best medical care you can (which I am sure you have done) and relax. I really hope it happens for you soon.
post #35 of 49
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Well, I called the doctor because I got tired of waiting for them to call me. And then she said "It was negative" like, no big deal. So, I am a little irritated by her attitude. I was truly worried. And to completely disregard my fears and tell me that if the bleeding doesnt stop in a week to make an appointment. Shes a really good doctor, and maybe she was just having a bad day...but still...thats not really my fault. So, I guess what she said happened was....there was some hesitation to see if I could conceive, and then I didn't which is why after 3 days, I started spotting. So, basically, this is why I am spotting and thats my period.

I am not really disappointed. I thought that maybe I would be devestated or cry....I guess maybe if crying had any power to change it, I guess I would cry...or maybe I knew the truth that I wasnt pregnant. I don't know. But, theres still time. And it just wasnt meant to be right now for whatever reason.

Thank you all for your support and the thoughtfulness and caring, I really needed it and appreciate it so much!
Thanks again...hopefully the next time I need confidence like this, it will be a positive result!
post #36 of 49
So your NOT gonna have a baby? Awwww, oh well. There's still hope right? Like that one person said, doctors can be wrong! I mean, when I was little, the doctor said I would never walk, but I can walk just like any other person now so, there's hope.
post #37 of 49
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there is still hope! have you considered those chinese herbal teas that get you pregnant pretty quick? i hear that they are good? might be worth looking into.
post #38 of 49
Diane,

I just saw this, and am sorry that I am late to the thread. I know you didn't ask for advice, but from the perspective of someone who's dealt with infertility, and whose career was in high risk labor and delivery (and working with many pre-term moms needing hospital care during their pregnancies), I do have some.

The stress of worrying isn't helpful..I would go see a specialist. Share all your concerns, have a full exam and tests and hopefully, you will find out there should be no problem. Or, if there is an issue, it may be a correctable one, and that would be a good thing versus wasting time trying naturally.

Please know there is SOOOOO much they can do now...but you need to go find out if there even is a problem.

There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.
post #39 of 49
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Originally Posted by Pat & Alix
Diane,

I just saw this, and am sorry that I am late to the thread. I know you didn't ask for advice, but from the perspective of someone who's dealt with infertility, and whose career was in high risk labor and delivery (and working with many pre-term moms needing hospital care during their pregnancies), I do have some.

The stress of worrying isn't helpful..I would go see a specialist. Share all your concerns, have a full exam and tests and hopefully, you will find out there should be no problem. Or, if there is an issue, it may be a correctable one, and that would be a good thing versus wasting time trying naturally.

Please know there is SOOOOO much they can do now...but you need to go find out if there even is a problem.

There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.
Sorry the doctor wasn't the most supportive.

This is excellent advice. It sounds like you have been feeling powerless by not knowing much about what's happening and it is contributing to a lot of your stress which all of the studies have shown doesn't help you reach your goal.

Hang in there and take care of yourself.
post #40 of 49
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Originally Posted by Pat & Alix
Diane,

I just saw this, and am sorry that I am late to the thread. I know you didn't ask for advice, but from the perspective of someone who's dealt with infertility, and whose career was in high risk labor and delivery (and working with many pre-term moms needing hospital care during their pregnancies), I do have some.

The stress of worrying isn't helpful..I would go see a specialist. Share all your concerns, have a full exam and tests and hopefully, you will find out there should be no problem. Or, if there is an issue, it may be a correctable one, and that would be a good thing versus wasting time trying naturally.

Please know there is SOOOOO much they can do now...but you need to go find out if there even is a problem.

There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.
Thank you so much for your advice. It really does make sense. The biggest issue isnt necessarily the getting pregnant as much as it is being able to deliver a child. I know that my doctor told me right after the last few fracture x-rays that I would most definitely probably have to have a c-section. But I do have concerns, so I am going to make a "preconception" appointment and get all of my questions answered. I am also having to take a supplemental vitamin for iron because my iron is low, so I need to get that taken care of, but I had just gotten over a really bad upper respiratory infection, so my iron could have been messed up because of that.
Thank you for you advice, I printed out your post to look for the book. Were you able to get pregnant?
post #41 of 49
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Originally Posted by KuramaTheKitty
So your NOT gonna have a baby? Awwww, oh well. There's still hope right? Like that one person said, doctors can be wrong! I mean, when I was little, the doctor said I would never walk, but I can walk just like any other person now so, there's hope.
No, I am not going to have a baby. I am glad that you were able to walk, and you are right, there is always hope. I am 22. I have time. So, theres definitely hope for me.
post #42 of 49
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Originally Posted by diane8704
Thank you so much for your advice. It really does make sense. The biggest issue isnt necessarily the getting pregnant as much as it is being able to deliver a child. I know that my doctor told me right after the last few fracture x-rays that I would most definitely probably have to have a c-section. But I do have concerns, so I am going to make a "preconception" appointment and get all of my questions answered. I am also having to take a supplemental vitamin for iron because my iron is low, so I need to get that taken care of, but I had just gotten over a really bad upper respiratory infection, so my iron could have been messed up because of that.
Thank you for you advice, I printed out your post to look for the book. Were you able to get pregnant?
Hi Diane,
No I was not..in essence, I was too old (and this is NOT a comment saying do not try if you are 40 or over, but in my case, I think my progesterone levels started changing in my late 30's, and I didn't start trying to conceive until I was 39 (yes, I began trying during my engagement). We also ran out of money - another painful aspect of infertility. If we had not, there were other options we had not yet pursued. My "mistake" - I tried for that first year of marriage without getting a full workup..once I did, uterine polyps were found (which would prevent implantation as I recall) and then removed...how much better it would have been if I'd had that workup done immediately. I didn't find Toni's book until after that first year. We tried until I was 42+ and then the emotional toll was all I could take and the money we'd borrowed was gone.

So I do have a personal reason for urging you to get a workup now - it will give you all your options
post #43 of 49
Hi there!

I just saw this thread. Im truely sorry about all that happened. Its such a downer to think you are, and then you arent. You're not sure just how to feel. I hope this doesnt sound terrible or anything, but if you Did happen to miscarry right at conception, really .. as horrible as it sounds .. sometimes is a good thing. It means that something in the whole amazing grand process of making a human didnt fit just right.

I only say this because a year ago Sept 11th we lost a little boy. I was 20 weeks when we found out he had a genetic disorder - they said most of the time, the body knows and .. well .. miscarries. It was trisomy 18 (extra chromosone 18) and it was a mess. Heart defects, kidney probs, brain cysts, it was so hard. I carried him to full term and he passed away just 2 weeks before his due date. We never saw him alive (other than ultrasounds). We are fine now and dont wish things had been different. He really caused us to grow in SO many diffreent ways.

I really truely hope the best for you. I know its so hard to want something So bad and not get it. I just hope that its nothing serious.
I hope no one was offened by that, most of all you. Sometimes, I dont think that everyone knows about one of the many many reasons lil rose buds dont bloom fully.
post #44 of 49
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Pat and Alex: I am so sorry that you never got the chance to have a child. I truly am. And I appreciate the fact that you took the time to tell me everything I should before this goes any further. That means so much to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Adriane: You are right, and nothing you said offended me. And I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Thats terrible, to carry a child, and feel them move and then they never even get to take their first breath is heartwrenching. And I realize that the body aborts what isnt healthy. And I know that...besides this was sort of an accident anyways, but it prepared me in so many ways to realize what I wanted, and what sacrifices I would have to make to have a child, and raise them the best I can. Jeremy was disappointed. But as I said in earlier posts, I am only 22, I still have time, and it'll happen when its meant to happen, I truly believe that.

Thank you for your support, I appreciate it sooooo much.
post #45 of 49
but it prepared me in so many ways to realize what I wanted, and what sacrifices I would have to make to have a child, and raise them the best I can. Jeremy was disappointed. But as I said in earlier posts, I am only 22, I still have time, and it'll happen when its meant to happen, I truly believe that.

It sounds that it is helping you focus on action plans and better understanding yourself. This is an opportunity to learn what you can expect and also you can learn about what you need to do to make yourself as healthy as possible. Nutrition is as important before you get pregnant as during.

Best of luck.
post #46 of 49
You're only 22?? Hey, there's tons of time! One of my biggest mentors kept having to put off having kids for various reasons when she was in her 20's and finally had her first (who is one of my best friends in the world) at 32 and she's actually happy that his birth ended up being delayed.

As for weird periods, man, I hear ya. I'm not trying to get pregnant, I'm actually trying the opposite, and weird periods are the story of my life.

I'm so sorry that you had to go through all that you did. I understand how painful and stressful a situation like that must be. Here are some BIG HUGS from me, Leo and Lola.

I sincerely wish you the best of luck in conceiving your baby. I hope that the next time you try, your situation turns out happily. Also, best of luck with your delivery when you DO get pregnant (because I'm so sure that you will)!!! We women are extraordinarily strong creatures and capable of huge feats, including childbirth...in fact, exactly 20 years ago today my mother finished 26 hours of labor delivering me! And she had elevated estrogen levels and wasn't even supposed to be able to get pregnant, but now, she has me and my brother and sister
post #47 of 49
Aw I'm thinking of you!
post #48 of 49
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Originally Posted by diane8704
Pat and Alex: I am so sorry that you never got the chance to have a child. I truly am. And I appreciate the fact that you took the time to tell me everything I should before this goes any further. That means so much to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You are welcome, if it has helped you in some way, I am very happy!
post #49 of 49
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Originally Posted by Pat & Alix
There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.
I just wanted to say that that book is AWESOME. Every woman, trying to get pregnant or not, should read it. (We haven't started trying yet, but we will soon, and I feel much more confident of our success, having read that book.)

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