This really hard...anyone have any advice?

katspixiedust · Aug 2, 2005

Plenty of good :::::::::::::: and

for you Diane! I hope everything works out for the best.

To add to some of the other similar stories other people have mentioned, my roommate's mother wasn't supposed to be able to have kids and actually didn't have any after 10 years of trying. One day, after she had stopped trying (and stopped using protection, since she thought she couldn't have kids anyway) her mom got pregnant with my roomies older brother. One year later she got pregnant with the roomies older sister. And finally, a year after that she got pregnant with Tiffany, my roommate! So even if the "official" word was that it couldn't happen, keep faith. Because obviously, that can be VERY wrong!

cyberkitten · Aug 2, 2005

The best advice I can give you is to tell you to not over react until you get the results. There are so many conditions that could be causing your problems and your doctor is the best person to help you.

Good luck!

jaspers mummy · Aug 2, 2005

Good vibes comming your way hope it all goes well tommorrow

cjandbilly · Aug 2, 2005

I hope and pray all goes well tomorrow.

joanne511 · Aug 2, 2005

Wishing the best for you.

krazy kat2 · Aug 3, 2005

Any news yet? Wishing you good news!

lillekat · Aug 3, 2005

Sweetie, i don't think you've miscarried. I think it's a case of your period being delays because of stress. I've miscarried before now - and in my case it was very painful. I was taken into hospital and given termination meds because my body wasn't flushing out as it should and it needed a kick start to do that. I'd already lost the twins - a scan revealed they were both completely gone, but for some reason or other, my body didn't seem to get the picture. I dont' know what that was about - I didn't even know I was pregnant until it was too late, so i was fortunate from that perspective.

Don't worry so much about it though - I know that's easier said than done - but fretting will get you absolutely nowhere. What will be, will be... but never give up. Keep on trying and believe me, I'm sure it will happen. How many stories do you read of women who were sterilized becoming pregnant? How many stories are there of women in accidents like yours who go on to have children? It happens all over the world babe, and probably more often than you'd think. If you relax and just go with the flow I'm so certain it will happen. Please please please let us know how it goes. If it comes back negative, then don't worry... keep on trying

ugaimes · Aug 3, 2005

No advice to offer, but you are in my thoughts and prayers

. Sending many vibes that you find out some promising news from the doctors {{{{{}}}}}.

talon · Aug 3, 2005

Thanking of you.

slitty_kittay · Aug 3, 2005

Lots of furry hugs from Dax

And warm wishes from me

Kim

diane8704 · Aug 3, 2005

I havent heard from the doctor yet, but I wanted to take the time to personally thank each and everyone of you who have sent your vibes and kind words, and thought of encouragement, and I hope that you realize how much your words really have made me feel so much more calm. So, I am keeping my fingers crossed that if I am not pregnant that there is nothing serious wrong.
So, thank you: fwan, katachtig, gilly, kellyyfaber, hell603, scamperfarms, stormy, goosehazel, babybee, crazybash, gailc, coolcat, loveysmummy, musicteacher, ckblv, xocats, purr, beckiboo, ginger's mum, katspixiedust, cyberkitten, jaspersmummy, cjandbilly, joanne511, krazykat2, lillekat, ugaimes, and talon.

If I missed anyone who posts while I am typing this, I will get you on my next post.

As for today, theres little to no spotting, and I am having some pain, so I am not sure what is going on.
As soon as I hear from the doctor, I will post an update. Thanks ya'll for everything. I would be a nervous wreck if I didn't have your support in addition to my husbands. Thanks. I am keeping my fingers crossed that it turns out okay, one way or the other.

diane8704 · Aug 3, 2005

Originally Posted by slitty_kittay

Lots of furry hugs from Dax

And warm wishes from me

Kim

Thanks, I need them. And give Dax a hug from me, too.

purity · Aug 3, 2005

I really hope it's nothing to worry about, do let us know won't you. In the meantime, sending some good vibes your way

jennyr · Aug 3, 2005

Just caught up with this - and I can't add anything but try not to worry. It would be amazing luck for anyone to get pregnant immediately, so you have lots ot time. Just put yourself under the best medical care you can (which I am sure you have done) and relax. I really hope it happens for you soon.

diane8704 · Aug 3, 2005

Well, I called the doctor because I got tired of waiting for them to call me. And then she said "It was negative" like, no big deal. So, I am a little irritated by her attitude. I was truly worried. And to completely disregard my fears and tell me that if the bleeding doesnt stop in a week to make an appointment. Shes a really good doctor, and maybe she was just having a bad day...but still...thats not really my fault. So, I guess what she said happened was....there was some hesitation to see if I could conceive, and then I didn't which is why after 3 days, I started spotting. So, basically, this is why I am spotting and thats my period.

I am not really disappointed. I thought that maybe I would be devestated or cry....I guess maybe if crying had any power to change it, I guess I would cry...or maybe I knew the truth that I wasnt pregnant. I don't know. But, theres still time. And it just wasnt meant to be right now for whatever reason.

Thank you all for your support and the thoughtfulness and caring, I really needed it and appreciate it so much!
Thanks again...hopefully the next time I need confidence like this, it will be a positive result!

kuramathekitty · Aug 3, 2005

So your NOT gonna have a baby?

Awwww, oh well. There's still hope right? Like that one person said, doctors can be wrong! I mean, when I was little, the doctor said I would never walk, but I can walk just like any other person now so, there's hope.

fwan · Aug 3, 2005

aw

there is still hope! have you considered those chinese herbal teas that get you pregnant pretty quick? i hear that they are good? might be worth looking into.

pat · Aug 3, 2005

Diane,

I just saw this, and am sorry that I am late to the thread. I know you didn't ask for advice, but from the perspective of someone who's dealt with infertility, and whose career was in high risk labor and delivery (and working with many pre-term moms needing hospital care during their pregnancies), I do have some.

The stress of worrying isn't helpful..I would go see a specialist. Share all your concerns, have a full exam and tests and hopefully, you will find out there should be no problem. Or, if there is an issue, it may be a correctable one, and that would be a good thing versus wasting time trying naturally.

Please know there is SOOOOO much they can do now...but you need to go find out if there even is a problem.

There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.

katachtig · Aug 4, 2005

Originally Posted by Pat & Alix

Diane,

I just saw this, and am sorry that I am late to the thread. I know you didn't ask for advice, but from the perspective of someone who's dealt with infertility, and whose career was in high risk labor and delivery (and working with many pre-term moms needing hospital care during their pregnancies), I do have some.

The stress of worrying isn't helpful..I would go see a specialist. Share all your concerns, have a full exam and tests and hopefully, you will find out there should be no problem. Or, if there is an issue, it may be a correctable one, and that would be a good thing versus wasting time trying naturally.

Please know there is SOOOOO much they can do now...but you need to go find out if there even is a problem.

There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.

Sorry the doctor wasn't the most supportive.

This is excellent advice. It sounds like you have been feeling powerless by not knowing much about what's happening and it is contributing to a lot of your stress which all of the studies have shown doesn't help you reach your goal.

Hang in there and take care of yourself.

diane8704 · Aug 4, 2005

Originally Posted by Pat & Alix

Diane,

I just saw this, and am sorry that I am late to the thread. I know you didn't ask for advice, but from the perspective of someone who's dealt with infertility, and whose career was in high risk labor and delivery (and working with many pre-term moms needing hospital care during their pregnancies), I do have some.

The stress of worrying isn't helpful..I would go see a specialist. Share all your concerns, have a full exam and tests and hopefully, you will find out there should be no problem. Or, if there is an issue, it may be a correctable one, and that would be a good thing versus wasting time trying naturally.

Please know there is SOOOOO much they can do now...but you need to go find out if there even is a problem.

There are also excellent forums and books out there on trying to conceive. One book that was excellent when I was trying (but a bit graphic) was by Toni W. called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - she now has a website and I think forums and ?? not sure..but here is her website

I wish you all the best - go get those fears put aside.

Thank you so much for your advice. It really does make sense. The biggest issue isnt necessarily the getting pregnant as much as it is being able to deliver a child. I know that my doctor told me right after the last few fracture x-rays that I would most definitely probably have to have a c-section. But I do have concerns, so I am going to make a "preconception" appointment and get all of my questions answered. I am also having to take a supplemental vitamin for iron because my iron is low, so I need to get that taken care of, but I had just gotten over a really bad upper respiratory infection, so my iron could have been messed up because of that.
Thank you for you advice, I printed out your post to look for the book. Were you able to get pregnant?

This really hard...anyone have any advice?

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