This really hard...anyone have any advice?

I went to the doctor today to have blood drawn to see if I could be pregnant. We just started trying, and I know that it doesnt always happen right away, but giving the fact that I was in such a horrific car accident and broke my pelvis, there was never any guarantees that I could. We don't know what kind of damage my body sustained that would leave an everlasting effect on me. I had a lot of reservations about getting married because I know that my husband wants kids someday, and I was and still am terrified that I can't deliver that for him. He assured me that it was okay.
So, here I am, about a week late, home test says not pregnant. But I am usually on time. Had some spotting here and there. So, I called the doctor and they recommended that I come in and get a blood test to be sure. They also said I could be miscarrying.
Now, I am even more scared that theres something more serious wrong with me, that I am not pregnant, and that I can't ever be pregnant.
I get the results back tomorrow. Please send some vibes if you have any. The hardest part is telling my husband that there isn't a baby and that there may never be. If there isnt, and theres nothing wrong with me, than we will keep trying. Until then, I have to deal with this nagging worry.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, I really appreciate it.

sounds like you may have misscarried?
*sending mega vibes for tomorrow* please let us know what the results are

Oh Diane,

I'm sending hugs and good luck vibes.

Jana

Diane... good vibes and wishes for tomorrow I know it's hard, but please take some deep breaths and stay calm

I'm sending mega vibes. I'll be praying and thinking of you. I hope everything turns out good

vibes for you. lots of them. I feel your pain.

I am sorry to hear you are going through such a stressful time healthwise. Sending many good and positive vibes your way.

Many good vibes coming your way. Remember, the more stressed you are, the harder it will make it to get pregnant. I stressed for a time and when I finally calmed down I was pregnant before I knew it! I hope everything goes well. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Oh I am so sorry Diane to hear what you are going trough
You're in my thoughts, I hope everything goes well, sending good vibes your way. It's hard but try and stay positive and calm.

Hello there...I am feeling for you but my oldest sister is going through the same thing but with hyper active thyroids...shes been going to the doctor since she was married at the age of 23 and now she is 31...She sais someday it will happen and she will be proud


All I can say is right now.take it easy and keep trying also....ever here the saying the best things in life are worth waiting for...


The baby will come as soon as you forget that you want to get pregnant...I stop thinking about pregnancy and the next thing you know I was pregnant....GO FIGURE....lol



WEll I am sending the best of luck and vibes...Best of Luck....Let us know!!!!

Hoping for the best. Sometimes stress can delay your period too.

I´m so sorry about your car Accident dear Diane... ...well, I can send you (((((((((((super extra good Vibes ..))))))))))))))))) for tomorrow...
Don´t give up chick! ....

More good vibes coming at you !

Also, you can spot and have a period when you are first pregnant so you never know..

Prayers for you. The doctors told my mother that she couldn't ever have kids and well, here I am, so there is still hope. Please let us know how things turn out.

Try to be calm. You would be surprised, we women are strong and resilient, i am betting you will have a healthy baby one day.

Here are some hugs & good wishes for you.

Lei

Not being able to have a baby someday is one of my biggest (irrational) fears. I feel for you, I really do. I hope it's very, very good news.

I knew a woman who was told for 20 years that she couldn't get pregnant and she ended up giving birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl! There's always hope!

Try to stay positive! Stress and negative thoughts are detrimental.

Originally Posted by diane8704

I went to the doctor today to have blood drawn to see if I could be pregnant. We just started trying, and I know that it doesnt always happen right away, but giving the fact that I was in such a horrific car accident and broke my pelvis, there was never any guarantees that I could. We don't know what kind of damage my body sustained that would leave an everlasting effect on me. I had a lot of reservations about getting married because I know that my husband wants kids someday, and I was and still am terrified that I can't deliver that for him. He assured me that it was okay.

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It sounds like you have a very supportive husband, and you are lucky for that. But of course you still want a child. You may need to practice some patience in getting pregnant. (That will come in handy when your child turns two!)

Originally Posted by diane8704

So, here I am, about a week late, home test says not pregnant. But I am usually on time. Had some spotting here and there. So, I called the doctor and they recommended that I come in and get a blood test to be sure. They also said I could be miscarrying.

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The home kits are usually pretty accurate, but of course the blood test by the doctor is more accurate. If you recently went off the pill, that may affect the regularity of your menses. And if you were on the pill for many years, it can take a while for your fertility to come back.

Originally Posted by diane8704

Now, I am even more scared that theres something more serious wrong with me, that I am not pregnant, and that I can't ever be pregnant.

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It is very scary to want something (or someone) so bad, and to have no control over making it happen. I hope there is a way you can give yourself some time. Making a baby is totally out of your hands, just try to enjoy your relationship with your husband. Within 12 months, you may be pregnant, no telling how far along. This may be the last alone time the two of you have for a while.

Originally Posted by diane8704

I get the results back tomorrow. Please send some vibes if you have any. The hardest part is telling my husband that there isn't a baby and that there may never be. If there isnt, and theres nothing wrong with me, than we will keep trying. Until then, I have to deal with this nagging worry.
Thank you for taking the time to read this, I really appreciate it.

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Being able to share your feelings with us is a great way to practice letting your husband know what is going on in your head. This is a perfect time for him to support you! Here is hoping you have really great news!

If you would like to chat with women going thru a similar experience go to
www.everybody.co.nz there's a chat site there that is very supportive.
Not just for Kiwis!
I knew a lady who because of a shattered pelvis when younger had her baby by c-section, so it can be done