|To say that one person or the other has "the last word" is a recipe for disaster waiting to happen.
i disagree, my husband and i have the most open, honest, loving, friendly and amazing relationship i know, everyone comments on how well we work together, how good we are with each other and how we are never selfish but try to support each other and how obvious it is that we are totally in love
my husband it not some totalarian control freak, if something is important to me then i get a say too, most the time we agree anyway as i said before so this hardly ever comes up, we both love the same movies, same outdoor activities, both have the same veiw on what should be done with finances etc
for example, say we have some money and a financial plan has to be sorted out to pay bills, some are more important, and we can't decide on what should get paid first then my husband doesn't just say 'ok, well i'm taking control now and this will be my decision!'
i just let him do it because we can't decided and i trust him to make the right decision, besides, he's a accountant and deputy cheif execitive officer, who deals with finacial planning every day.
he's a very busy execetive and i'm an artist so we compliment each other very well in a lot of ways....it's not for everyone no but don't knock it until you have tried it.
so many realtionships are breaking down these days, relationships where no-one takes control yet my so called bad relationship where my husband is mostly in control is going strong and always has been, we have been through a lot but our relationship is still just as good as when we first met.
i'm chosing a lovely spa suite to stay in for my birthday in a few weeks plus a restaurant and champaigne and i'm going on a birthday shopping spree, yes my husband is in control but that never causes problems for us, my husband loves me unconditionaly and would do anything for me